Grad school/Love/Depression/Financial Situations

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Hi

Thanks for reading this. 
I have been suffering from depression for the past 6 or more months now. I started grad school in Fall 2010 and fell into depression I think from the next month on. To make it worse, I like a guy here who is not reciprocating it and is also far away now since he graduated in spring. 
I miss my parents and do not have good friends here thanks to academic pressure and silly competition. I lost my funding because of this and everyone/everything is kind of literally making it a living hell for me here. I am suffering. I sit down to study and my mind is crowded with unwanted thoughts. I want to study but I do not know ho to overcome these problems. 

And this is not the first time am in love. I am sure it is not infatuation/attraction. I like him but it is unrequited inspite of me letting him know by subtle means my interest.  
I want to fall out of love and concentrate on school, get a good job and more than anything develop focus and concentration. 
I sometimes feel terrible about my thoughts being just uncontrollable that I doubt if I need neuro-help. 

Note: I have a tingling sensation in the upper right side of my head and its really bothering me a lot. 
Please note that I have tried out ways to boost my morale, tried energy shots/drinks to stop feeling sluggish/depressed, tried joining Yoga etc. But to no/less avail. 

Please prescribe some medication. Pardon me for saying this: But I do not want advice like "get out, get some fresh air, distract yourself". 
I am confident I need "medical" help. 
Please help me. 

Thanks

Bubulous · Accepted Answer

You do most likely need proffessional help.  A lot of mental disorders start around your age.  I am bi-polar and mine started when I was 24.  The good thing is whatever is causing the deppression, whether it is a mental illness like PTSD, bi-polar, or chemical dependency, there are people who can help and medications that assist in that treatment....It must be attacked on three fronts.  Mind, Body, and Spirit.  The mind needs the medication and knowledge.  The body needs healthy foods and fun activity.  The spirit needs both of those harmonized and you will be mostly responsible for the work it takes to fix that.

I hope you get the help you need.  I had to give up on life before I was receptive to treatment but it has benefited me greatly.

Bubulous · Answer

Don't apologize.  It is unnecessary.  I spend most of my time on here and look forward to hearing from you no matter how long it takes.  Although I have been crying for days waiting for you to reply.....lol : )

nicks_sups · Answer

Thanks Bubulous.. Sorry for the late reply..

Bubulous · Answer

Everyone is different in the medications that work for them.  I would be a fool to say which ones could work for you but undoubtably there is one that could help.  I hate to say this because you may not be receptive to it.....

Treatment is very important.  I don't know what you have going on and I am sure you are very busy.  If you can't get into treatment right now please don't let that make you think that there are not things you can be doing in what spare time you have.  If you have a paper due or if you have leisure time to kill, however small, use that time to learn from information like the information you can get from here.  Use it to battle the deppression as if it were your worst enemy.  Here is an excersise I like to use:

I state my thinking right now such as:  I wish I could draw something.
I make a reachable goal like:  Draw an inspirational picture.
I then list steps that I can take to reach the goal:
1. If drawing with a pencil doesn't help use a marker.
2. Start by drawing something funny and irregular.
3. Draw happy things like kids walking on rainbows or a stickman eating a book titled love.

The list can go on and on and I try to write more funny things as I go through it because laughter, if you didn't know, happens to be the best medicine.  Anyway, there are many things you can do to try to fight the deppresion but the only thing you can do wrong is feed the deppression by thinking negative thoughts.....I like to walk up and hug people that I know don't like to show emotions.  IT may make them uncomfortable but it is a productive way for me to take their negativity and feed my happiness.....Good Luck.

nicks_sups · Answer

Hi

Thanks for the comment. 
Can you pl tell me how to find the right doctor. 
Problem is I dont have enough time in hands to
undergo rigorous treatment. 
I am really desperate to get normal as soon as I can.
I know it sounds rash but being an alien with little time
left in the host country, I really dont know what else to say. 
Are there safe and common anti depressants/medication
that will help me atleast temporarily. Eventually I will definitely
go for a permanent cure. But right now, I need something to calm
me down relatively quickly. 

Pls do not take this otherwise. 

Thanks

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