I'm going to end up like my uncle

and that;s not good.

he's in his 50's lives with his mom, has no social life, eats unhealthy, just watches tv all day, has no money and drinks and smokes all day and hasn't had a girlfriend in years.

i'm 24, live with my mom, have a crappy job, have no social life, watch tv, no money and can't get a gf.

i know i'm on the same path as him

yes i try to go out and make friends but i just can't. i am not a club or bar person so where the hell do i meet people. whatever, if i end up like him i won't be surprised

my goal is to go back to school and better myself but who knows

[mammo]

Hi...you're still very young and are very lucky to be able to see where you're headed if you don't take charge of your life now!  Keep looking for a better job and be grateful that you even have one in this lousy economy.  Work on your social life by getting out of the house and doing things you enjoy, this way you will meet like minded people and be able to expand your social network. Google activities in your area and go to them, if you don't go to church it would do you good emotionally but they often have many things going on where you can meet others.  You need to put yourself out there and be creative in how to meet women. The girlfriend will come when you become more out-going, more confident and happy with yourself. You are fortunate to see where and how you may end up and have a choice to make sure this doesn't happen to you.  Start working on changing the outcome of your life so you have something exciting to look forward to.  You've recognized where you're heading and that's smart, now make sure it doesn't happen!  Take care.

[lozzbra374]

Hey,

Dont stress about this so much. Your only 24, you have a long long time until you need to be stressing about that type of thing.

Is there something spacific you would like to do if you went back to school, something you really enjoy? Going back to school or Tafe or Uni would be a great experience. You would be able to meet a lot of nice people and maybe a lovely girl to call yours.

Even if you didnt go back is there something you love doing? Something you would love to make a carrer out of? Mine would be dancing. Art? Music? Design? Engineering? Etc...


So, dont worry :)

[BloodMary]

I agree with previous speaker - you don't have to go to club or pub to meet people. You can go to church, gym, dancing course or anything what you are interested in. The most important thing is to do first step and go outside.

[MYoungAtHeart]

Who is taking care of the old uncle, buying his smokes and drinks....and it might help you to ask yourself if your mum would do the same for you and if thats what you might really want in life, to be taken care of forever and forever.....

Part of growing up is trying different things, not all the things that are on other peoples life maps, but your own trail, your own path, your own life.
Instead of a list of 25 things a person wants to do, cut down that list to 1 thing and work on that......When your focus is not all over the place with all the things you want, focus on what you need and the wants will fall into place at a later date.

I know you said you don't  have a girlfriend, but maybe you need to ask yourself if you would be interested in someone like you and then start to change your mind about where you are heading in life....

Good luck and All My best wishes go out to you

M

[kidnurse]

You are not like your uncle--you have a job.  Assuming it is honest work and you try hard, you are to be commended for that.  Actually the fact that you don't go to bars or clubs is great--how many of us are that smart at your age?
I suggest church or synagogue for trying to meet people and also people are happier and live longer who attend.  There's nothing wrong with living with your mother as long as you try to help her with chores and finances to the best of your ability.  I hope you manage to get back to school or some sort of training if you really need a better-paying job.  If you're not already it sounds like you should get therapy since you're so down on yourself and to help you refine your goals.  I feel bad about watching tv too sometimes.  You could force yourself to take walks or volunteer work if you ever have free time during the day or early evening.  Those are healthy, productive activities and sometimes you meet people too.  You're still young but I think you will eventually meet a woman if you concentrate on working hard and having a good character.  I sincerely wish you the best.