I'm having a meltdown

[Crazylady2591]

I seem to be about to have a meltdown. I was on a dog rescue website months ago and was thinking about adopting a dog. But my husband said he didn't want another dog (we already have 1) so I forgot about it. But I had saved my search on the website. They contacted me from time to time with cute dogs that fit my search description. I just deleted them and went on about my life. But this week I got the photo & stats about the cutest little dog. I took a chance & called about him. I got the first chance to see him. I fell in love. But when I told my husband he was very mad at me. My daughter & son-in-law didn't have positive reactions about it either. I felt alone with the whole thing. So I let the little dog go to someone else. But in the mean time I have just about lost it. I am 59 years old, on depression meds, just found out I have ADD. Why can't I get this out of my head. I can feel myself slipping away.

[Crazylady2591]

Thanks for the advice. I have been out with my dog and she likes the walks. I am better today. I spent a lot of today outside. My dog hasn't been potty on the puppy pads today. Tomorrow I am going to shampoo the carpet where the puppy pads are. I am going to see if I can get rid of them sometime soon. I feel much better today about not getting the new dog. I my get another one in the future but until I get the one I have going outside all the time. I will hold off. I am thinking about being a rescue volunteer. Just to take them to the vet, not be a foster.

[mammo]

I think by walking your current dog and giving up the puppy pads, will show your family that you're able to care for another dog.  Plus, it will do you a world of good to get out.  I would hold off on getting another dog, they need to get plenty of exercise and it's not fair to keep them confined to the house so much.

[Crazylady2591]

My house is plenty big enough. I have a Yorkie & wanted another. I lost my job in June of 2010. I went off the deep end & it's taken until June of this year to even go outside. I still don't go out much. Sometimes I sleep 12 to 14 hours a day. My little dog sleeps with me. So I can't let her out when she needs to go. But I trained her to use potty pads. My husband doesn't like that very much. I did tell him if he let me have another dog I would walk them daily & change the potty pads daily too. But sometimes I know I will have a relapse & go for a day or 2 in the bed. I have started the walks with my pooch & feel a little better. After  spending most of today in bed.

[boognell]

Why didn't they want you to have another dog? Is there a problem with the dog you have? Is your home big enough?

[mammo]

I agree with the above post.  This is something you obviously really want and it's not asking for too much.  Do you know what your husband's reservations are?  Your son and daughter-in-law have their own lives and you don't need their approval.  Ask your husband why he feels so strongly against getting another dog and then explain how much having another means to you, and then get a dog.  I've always had two dogs, they enjoy having another for company.  Stand up for yourself but be nice about it.  Best wishes.

[senile1]

Hi, I am an animal lover too.You should tell your husband that the dogs help you cope with day to day living. I have depression too. I have two cats that stay in the house. They are my lifeline when nobodys around. They calm me down so much. So go out and get you another dog. Tell husband he will just have to deal with it. Best of luck.