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[Baker1221]

Hey my name is Brandon Baker and im only 18 and have a 2 year old son now dont take this the wrong way im a great father but ever since my son was born i have seen to have started all kinds of diiferent health problems Im on high blood pressure medication and Since he was first born i have had a 24/7 headache and pain in my chest that hasn't gone away since im always sitting at home caring for my son and never get a chance to go out and do things cause im currently a stay at home dad and its been putting loads of stress on mye at a very young age and making me depressed could all these different things be caused from depression

[Anneinside]

You are certainly under a lot of stress. Please consider all the advice you have been given by other posters. The only thing I wanted to add is that you shouldn't put your real name in your posts. If you google yourself you would get this entry. The reason we make up names is for privacy so that we can honestly express our problems and know they won't show up on the next google.

[remar]

I think it's great that you're taking responsibility for your son. It can be so very hard being a teen parent.  I was a teen mother myself, and also married. It was the hardest job in the world for my husband and myself. Babies need and deserve the very best care.
I agree with what the above posters said. Talk to your Dr. Try to find a support group for teen parents.

[nursegirl6572]

Hello and welcome!

I'm sure you're under a lot of stress!  Children add stress to our lives, and that's difficult enough to deal with as an adult, but as a teen, it certainly brings a lot more challenges.  Life as you know it has changed, you probably see all your friends running around, having fun, with little responsibility...certainly not the kind of responsibility YOU have being a father.  That's a lot to swallow for sure.

For one, I commend you for being mature enough and responsible enough to be a good father to your son, good for you!  Is the mother involved?  Does she help with your son?  Are you two together as a committed couple?

I'm sure a good bit of your health problems could be related to stress, anxiety and depression.  Any major life change brings with it stress, which can lead to chronic anxiety and depression.  Has your doctor given you any kind of medical diagnosis to attribute to having something like hypertension at such a young age?  While stress can raise BP, in someone your age, it should never be significant enough to warrant BP medication.  Have you been seen by any specialist, like a cardiologist?  If not, I would recommend asking for a referral, to rule out a medical condition.

You also want to tell your doctor you would like to seek professional help for the anxiety, and depression-like symptoms.  That
is very important, especially with a little boy at home who depends on you!  You want to be in the best physical and mental health you can  be, for him.

How is your general health?  Are you physically active?  Is your weght normal?  How's your diet?  Do you try to eat healthy foods, or do you eat a lot of fast food, and junk food?  Do you get enough sleep?  That's a good starting place, getting yourself in better physical shape, getting physical exercise, are all things you can do that will improve your emotional well being.

Also, are you out of high school?  In college?  Working?  You're going to have to start planning for your future, so you can provide properly for your son.  Having plans and working on your future will give you a sense of pride and a healthy self esteem.  Getting out, doing things with your son, having hobbies, those kinds of things will help you live a well-rounded, satisfying life.

That's a lot to consider, you don't have to change your life overnight (it's not possible anyway), but you can start gradually, by doing a little here and there.  Getting a handle on your physical and emotional health with the help of professionals should be your top priority.

Very best of luck to you and your son, please update us when you can!  This was a great first step in improving your life.  Not only will YOU be glad you did so, but your son will benefit as well.

[Kelz72312]

Think it could be depression I'm 17 with 2 kids and I suffer from depression and anxiety and panic so I feel ya I suffer from chest pains everyday I've been to the ER 9 times on the past 2 months and its not fun to suffer from all that It really does suck and just try taking walks everyday and get out of the house for a few house without your son go do something that you wanna do..