No one cares about me

Im a 21 yr old male and heres whats going on in my life.

I feel like noone cares about me in all honesty.
I have very few close friends. I dont really want lots of friends but at the same time i feel bad that i dont have many.
I've been having a really hard time with singleness. ive never have a girlfriend or been on a date. I had a girl on facebook who i never meet talk to me and i thought she was interested in me but now its pretty much over since she doesnt wanna hangout out with me and i said it wouldnt work. But now i feel horrible because i feel like it could have been something if wasent so stupid.  and even though i said it wouldnt work out i still want her to message me back but she wont :(. I feel like ill never have a girl as pretty as her interested in me again. and the fact that she could get lots of different guys makes me feel jelous and angry and bitter, and just wishing i were better somehow to compete with her.

This feeling is gut wrenching and my hearts broken. I just need this feeling gone. I dont want my life to pass me by. I wanna be free of the jelousy, regret, and lonliness she and other people have made me feel. Im in a rut of just sitting on the internet wishing she'd start talking to me again and that it would work out.

I have nothing else to make me feel whole. i need help. how can i have a happy life and feel good about everything? Im th ekind of person who cant be happy unless everythings been set right. What should i do

[colleen01]

wow, you remind me of me when I was young.  I'm an old grandma now(53) and hopefully have learned at least a couple of things!  First of all it's obvious you don't think much of yourself at all...STOP THAT!   Fake it until you make it actually works.  Don't let the whole world know you don't like yourself and have such a low opionion(which are lies) of yourself, that is rule #1.  If you have a counselor(good idea) share the low self esteem with them.  Then see if you can get a good physical  and if clinical depression get some help for that.  Sitting, thinking, ruminating, staying idle all serve to intensify feeling bad and getting more and more depressed.  Start working on yourself one day at a time, with God's help each day, whether thru working out,running, biking, get active out in the world and act(yes, pretend) at first like you are soooo confident that people will be drawn to you, trust me.  Start today, do one thing active outside to get your endorphins going instead of dwelling on that girl and her rejection.  Ok?  One day at a time.

[mammo]

Hi.  The quantity of friends we have doesn't matter...it's the quality of our friends that is important.  You need to put yourself out there, start enjoying time with your friends, and get involved in things you enjoy so you can meet like minded people. Don't beat yourself up over this girl, it's all part of life and all we can do is learn from it and move on.  You can't move forward while hanging onto the past. Everyone has something to offer and this includes you!  Start thinking about all the good you posses, and build on that.  Look people in the eye, smile and say hi or hello.  This not only shows confidence but you just may make someone else feel better that you noticed them. Don't be offended if you don't get a smile or hello back, it's about you and how good it makes you feel right now. It's hard in the beginning, so start out slowly, and you will be amazed at how much better you feel when you're not walking around feeling like nobody cares....you have to allow others to get to know you.  You have a lot to offer the world and that special someone, get yourself in a better place, start living life and it will all come together.  There will always be bumps in the road, and disappointments in life, it's how we handle them that makes us the stronger and wiser person.  Everyday decide to do something you normally wouldn't, like saying hi to a perfect stranger.  The more you do these things the easier they get.  You shared with us and that's a big step, now decide that you are going to live a good and fun life and make it happen...one day at a time.  Enjoy the friends you do have and as you open up and become more positive you will meet others.  We're always here for you so never hesitate to ask for advice, share or just vent.  We can help you as you move along to a better place emotionally.  I know you can do this and I wish you all the best!!!

[senile1]

FIRST, GET OFF COMPUTER AND GET OUT IN THE REAL WORLD. I PERSONALLY THINK YOU CAN'T HAVE A RELATIONSHIP ONLINE,IF THEY WANT HAVE A RELATIONSHIP,THEY NEED TO MEET EACH OTHER IN PERSON. DON'T DESPAIR, THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE FOR YOU.  TAKE YOUR TIME,YOU HAVE YOUR WHOLE LIFE IN FRONT OF YOU. REAL FRIENDS  ARE HARD TO COME BY.  THER IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. JUST CHILL OUT AND WAIT FOR IT TO HAPPEN. AND PRAYER WILL HELP

[RainLover71]

Chin up you can do it,just motivate yourself because only you can do that, no one is going to do it for you,it includes doing the things you love and find interesting,you must have some ambitions in life, everyone does.I was a prisoner in my own home for so long until oneday i said no more and went for a walk with the dog,got my old job back as a support worker and made something of my life and so can you,just go for it man.All the best.