My husband

[jcrmar]

I am at a complete loss and came across your site hoping for some answers.
My husband and best friend took a terrible turn in his life. He has always been a responsible person and had a great work ethic. He got in a car accident, got addicted to pain meds and then got into trouble. Big trouble. He was arrested. If you knew him, he is the last person you would ever expect this from. I've known him nearly 20 years and this is just not him, at all. He has since lost his job, we lost our home, we lost it all and moved to another state to start over. He refuses to go to the NA meetings. He tried to go back to school but quit. He has not found work and slides further into depression each day. He hardly leaves the house, he hardly speaks to us and is horrible to be around. I've taken him to the Dr. who put him on Paxil and he is seeing him again today again because his anxiety and depression are at an all time high. I have to practically babysit him but he fights my help at the same time. He has no answers, said he is bored but still does nothing to make any changes. I have been inside his tornado of a life for the past 2 years and I can't take it much longer. I have tried everything and nothing makes him happy, nothing. I don't want to end my marriage but don't know what else to do. Please help.

[Ch0c0lat3]

I am like him, my life is crazy and I have literally reached the point of insanity! Ask him if anything is wrong and tell them that whatever it is someone can fix it, if he is angry I can suggest a free meditation app called smiling mind I know it helps me and it should help him! I hope I helped you a bit and whatever you do, don't end your marriage it adds even more stress to your life and can give you many things even suicidal thoughts but remember to stay strong! And may the lord bless you

[jo929]

i do feel for you and your husband and it is so hard for you i wish that i could think od something but all i can think of he really needs to get into some kind of therapy seems like he has lost the zest to do anything and it sounds like he needs all of th help he can get lots of places out there maybe he just does not know which way ti turn try and ask dr for therapy groups               i wish you both lots of luck   jo

[Garthorg]

I am at a loss.  I am sorry for your pain, and I wish that I had the answers for you.  I will pray for you and your marriage.  I know that this is probably not what you wanted to hear, but I wanted to let you know that you have been heard, and there are a lot of people here that really care.  May God give you strength and hope in these dark times.  If it does not offend you, may I please offer the following:

"May the Lord bless you and keep you,
May the Lord make his face shine upon you
       and be gracious to you;
May the Lord turn his face toward you
       and give you peace."