Post Partum Depression or?

Our just turned 17 year old daughter-in-law sleeps all day and she and the baby sleep in the big bed together. She keeps him asleep all day while her husband ,my son, works all day. BUT! she slept like this all day before she was pregnant. They live here and she stays in their room all the time, she has no personality, she is mean to my son, she feels the baby belongs to just her,although we think our son takes better care of the baby. She never talks to me, she does not want to be here. She comes from a family of which we do not care for any of her family. They have no manners, the mother is bi-polar, had two girls and just married a man with two brat boys. Our grandbaby is precious, but we never get to see him, or we have to ask to see him. but, she goes to her mothers. When my son gets off work, she gets up and they dress and go out-where???Staying out till 2/3/4! Larely our son told his Dad all they do is go to her mothers and her stepdad, she has another stepdad,she claims as her real father, but her real father is in prison. We are not rich, but we sent our son to private school, prepared him for the real world, taught him correctly, dressed him well, now he at the age of 19 met her at  14 at 15 got engaged, we tried everything, and at 16 they married. Right off the bat, a baby. she treats our son like a dog one minute, the next is lovey-dovey! Her real father is also bi-polar. Also 5 weeks before they married her mother almost killed her, she is an abuser, but now she is tight as a tick with her. The girl has NO manners, is rude, never calls us grandma and grandpa, never calls me by ny name. My son loves her, she has not washed a pe
ice of clothes in eight months, nor before that! She never asks if she can help around the house. She told me once to shut my bad word, ,bad word mouth up! In my house! She has called me a --bad word{B}. My son and her are fighting now a good bit, he told his Daddy. He is about to explode. His education is over.   FROM BORKEN HEARTED PARENTS!p.s. WE HAVE TALKED TO HER, TO THEM, TILL WE ARE BLUE IN THE FACE, TOLD THEM TO WASH, ETC. SHE IS NASTY. sHE LEAVES DIRTY AND WET DIAPERS IN A SACK AND MY HUSBAND HAD TO TELL OUR SON TO THROW IT AWAY PLUS SOME OTHER HORRIBLE THINGS IN THE SACK! tHEY HAVE CLOTHES PILED UP AND YES, EVERYONE SAYS WE SHOULD TELL THEM TO GO. bUT, WE LOVE OUR SON, HE AND THE BABY ARE THE ONLY ONES WE HATE TO SEE GO, YET WE KNOW HE WILL BE DEVASTATED IF THEY BREAK UP. They are "supposed" to move down two blocks sometime and live in her mother's house.{ But, now, we think they will NOT move,as her mother is a controlling person and so is this girl!} no rent, but our son will be OBLOGATED! The story just goes on and on!!! I do not think she is fair to the baby making him as she sleeps all day, I think his diapers are not getting changed properly, I think she does not feed him enough, I think she is totally in a deep depression, I have actually seen her shake.{ I have mentioned depression to our son,but, he knows she will blow!} I think now, she has post partum depression, I think eventually she will take it out on the baby! Abused children generally turn out to abuse! My son does not know what to do, he feels he can never be anything else but a waiter, this the person who was invited by Duke University in the seventh grade to take the ACT and never studied, and made an 18! This the person who has a 4.0 grade average, this the person who was valadictorian in the fifth grade, thei the person who has a KIND heart, I have heard her call him a f retard! I have heard him cry and say he loves her. I do not know what will become of this. They may be this way all their lives, or? But, I do know she will never be anything, and I know she will ONLY GET WORSE!

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For the sake of your grandson, you MUST report her to social services.  If you think she has abused or neglected the baby, it is your obligation to contact the authorities.  Could you live with yourself if something happened to that baby?  The baby MUST come first.  If your son chooses to stay with her, that is his choose.  He is an adult.  You do NOT have to have them live with you.  However, if you have witnessed her not taking care of him properly, that is neglect.  If she makes him sleep all day, she is an unfit mother.  Please, for the baby's sake, if she will not get help, help your grandson, and report her.  This baby deserves to have the best life can offer, and his mother is the fartherest thing from that.  That is my advice.

Peace and blessings,

Ellen