Whats a good response?

[Cloudwindgate]

I was wondering how you all felt about how people respond and what you quilfie as a good response to  a bad or even hurtful one. How agresive should you be.

I'm not going to name names but ive seen some reather rude responses from both the CL's and just members people want to help that good but being judgful in my opion helps no one. This is not like critquing art point out flaws can be hurtful and just to much.

people Come here for help some of them in a bad state how much should you really push at them. When commenting it still stands here Watch what you say are you giving good advice that will aid the person or are you just flaming them?

[jwcj]

Dear Charlotte,
Seroquel is one of those drugs that tell your body to store fats from the things you are eating. There is really only one way to prevent yourself from gaining weight, and that is to constantly nibble on things that will satisfie your appitite, and not be full of calories, Stay away from any carbohidrates such as bread, and potatos, and other things full of starches.(including green beans)
I hate to say it, but celery is one of the best snacks in the world, because it actually burns more calories when you eat it, then it has in it.

[Cloudwindgate]

O.o??? srry cant help try post the question in the the forum not in here maybe someone who knows can help. Call a pharmacist or doctor otherwise  

[charlotte885]

I'm on seaquel as you know and i have gain alot of weight is this normal? thanks Charlotte88

[Cloudwindgate]

I'm not hiding i dont know what problems you are having because al my settings are set up to everyone can view

[4Maddie44]

Can you unblock so I can send you a private message.  There may be people who want to befriend you and send you messages but you are blocking them.  Is this deliberate?  If you would rather not have private messages will you put a posting here.  I care about you, and have been worrying.

Maddie

[4Maddie44]

Most people on this forum are caring and supportive.  Unfortunately there are some who are very negative and take their feelings out on others.,  Just remember they are ill too, and try not to let them upset you.  I have had unkind comments too.  I cannot understand why these people are so hurtful to others.  They should understand.  Taker no notice.  People like me care a lot about you.  Don't give up writing here.  You will get lots of support.  Feel sorry for those who are rude and judmental.  I know of people on this site who have had such sorrow in their lives, and are very ill, and yet they are so caring and supportive of others.  Pity everyone cannot be like that.  You keep in touch.  If you want to do it through messages to chosen friends, that might be easier.  You can then choose who you want to write to.

[opus88]

hi...you are so right with your views...coming here should be a place to talk and ask for opinions not a place to attack someone or be rude and judgmental.
That isn't the purpose of this forum or any forum.
However it is a DEPRESSION forum, so you will talk to and get responses from people who are suffering each in their own way, and this suffering can some times express itself as anger/rudeness/aggression...
In my opinion that is the purpose of having a CL to oversee the forums and guard against any personal attacks.
I hope we can all help each other and welcome everyone no matter what.....most here are alone and in need of a social contact so they can open themselves up without being judged!

[mammo]

Very good question.  We are not here to sit in judgement of people, just share our experiences and offer support.  I think it's horrible to attack someone, for any reason.  People looking for help  just want to know that we have experienced some of the same, we're always here to listen and offer support.  We are lay people just trying to help others.  We should not assume anything about another as we're not qualified, and have no idea what all this person has endured. I think often this forum is a person's first big step towards getting help, if met with judgement and criticism we and they lose.
You offer good avice, if we can't at least be nice, then just don't respond, and let someone else help the person.