miscarried but didn't want baby

[serin7300]

Ok,kind of complicated but here it goes.  I didn't have my period for two months, took a preg test and it was negative.  Two weeks later I started bleeding really bad, went to the hospital, and found out I was pregnant.  Shocker!  My husband and I have one child that's almost ten.  Before her we had two miscarriages.  Our pregnancy with my daughter had a lot of problems.  We tried to take precautions, because we didn't want any more children.  When I found out that I was pregnant again, I cried a lot.  My husband and I were both in agreement that we didn't want another child.  Two days later we saw my regular OBGYN and he did some more test and told us that we miscarried.  I guess that it was the best case senario.  My problem is that now, even though I am  relieved, I am also really depressed.  My hormone levels are all wacky and I just want to cry.  Nobody  asks me how I'm feeling or even talks about it at all.  My mom and husband do, but none of his family.  It's just wierd.  Mother's day was really bad.  I figured that after just having a miscarriage that my husband would have recognized it in some way.  I'm just down in the dumps and want to cry all the time.  My husband doesn't understand and I told him that I'm having problems.  I would love to just take a pill and make myself happy.  I'm not being a very good mom right now either.  All the little things bother me.  Help?

[Princessdaniella]

It will be a good idea to go and see Your doctor it does sound as though You're going through depression. Although You didn't want the baby Your hormones are still up in the air and You may also be feeling guilt for what happened (not because You didn't want it) as I have experienced it while wanting it but because it can be normal after a m/c. I think You're best speaking to someone about it, males can have lack of understanding at the best of times

[anxietyfighter]

Go speak to your doctor. It sounds like situational depression. I had the same experience after I had an abortion. Although it was my choice to go through with it, as I was young and knew I could not look after a child, I became depressed afterwards. I found out no one else can understand what it feels like. Not even your husband will understand. My partner certainly didn't understand why I was so depressed. You are grieving for your lost child, and its ok that you feel this way, even if as you say you didn't want one. Maybe that makes it worse.

Your doctor will be able to prescribe you antidepressants if that's what you need. I would also suggest therapy, its so helpful to have someone understand why you feel the way you do.