mental health and crying

[shennigan]

How can I change relationships with my Dad.
If I cry he tell me that is a manipulative and immature behavior.Why is not okay to cry, I feel like I can't be myself around him anymore. I all I ever hear is the mistakes I make, I never hear anything that I do is right they always have to point out my mistakes never what I do right. I never do anything good enough so I think I go the other say
I wrecked the wood floor because I mopped it with water, they never told me how do it and if course he says he would never do that, I don't believe that he has never done stupid stuff like that and he would never admit that ever made mistakes to me. You don't have to yell me and I don't wnat to listen when people yell at me and swear. Why can't people do it in a nice way say don't do that next time.
I know I need change, but they don't accept me for who I am but I have to for who they are . Why is not it okay to cry why does see this behavior as manipulative and immature. He keeps telling me I am too stubborn and so he is not always listen to what people tell him. I can't change how I react to situations and I am never taken seriously. How do I change how they see me andI can't change my behavior, I don't accept,they change. He doesn't need to yell at swear at me when I make mistakes, Why can't he ever tell me what I do right.

I am not looking forward to holidays. I dread holidays these days. I feel like anything I do for him wouild not live up to his standards.

Why can' he accept me for who I am.
I guess I am not capable of anything anymore but making mistakes and being stubborn and immature.

The only one who accepts me for who I am are the dogs.
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[shennigan]

How do i I get along with my Dad if he all he is going to do is criticize me time after time.

[4Maddie44]

I am so sorry that your relationship with your Dad is so fragile.  I never believe in putting anyone down, and I ask why is he like that?  Seems the problem is with him, not with you.

Of course it is OK to cry if you feel miserable, but as your Dad obviously does not like that, perhaps it would be better if you could stop crying in front of him as that will give him less reason to abuse you verbally.

I don't think you should try and change who you are, but he should accept you for who you are.

My Dad was a bit like yours.  Bullied with words.  Always felt he was right, never wrong.  Would never admit he was wrong anyway.  Your Dad  won't change either.  Seems you have to try and live together.

I would keep out of Dad's way as much as possible so he doesn't have anything to blame you for.

The dogs are a comfort and seem better company.  I assume you have depression.  Perhaps your Dad finds this hard to accept, and does not know how to handle it.

Keep in touch with us here, and we will give you what support we can.