any suggestions?

[witheredrose]

Sometimes, I get in these hostile moods and don't want anybody to talk to me. I try telling people when I don't want to be talked to and  they don't listen and it just intensifies the hostility and I end up snapping at people and then get chewed out for snapping at people and that puts me in am even MORE intense hostile mood. I have poor control over feeling like this and over snapping at people and sometimes I just want to go on an angry rage. But if people would just give me my space and leave me be when I ask for it l, I wouldn't do it. I've tried communicating this with everybody hoping they would understand, and listen but nobody does. I dont want to be like this, but I can't control. What am I suppose to do to make everybody understand even just a little. It would help me get past these moods a lot easier if they would just listen to me when I try telling them I need some space or to let me be when I want to be and not talk to me. Its overwhelming sometimes

[mandy876]

i need someone to talk to but there is no one.  my niece does not like to talk  and she will say all you do is talk about negative things.  we are both in depression she is also bi polar skitzofrenic and all of that stuff.  yjry go her down to where she still needs help with her bi polar.  but i try to talk to her she ignores me or gripes at me.  i feel so alone.  mandy876

[Nighthawk61]

Or , the other thing is, that you may feel aggression when you want to be alone, because in fact, you wish someone would ask you how you're feeling and try to help you feel not so alone, when you're feeling down?
Heart

[Nighthawk61]

Well, we learn that life is about our partnerships, the trick to becoming an adult is to stop yourself from having any aggression at all when engaging with a spouse, a child, a boss, co workers and i think, maybe, that

*your folks may be trying to teach you to be even tempered and engaging when in the company of others , even when you don't want to be , because it's a requirement of polite society

i think they may feel you get enough time to yourself
remember all that time you spend alone in your room when you thought nobody in your family cared?
well your parent's were aware that you were alone for all that time

* they may feel guilty for having left you,
instead of going in your room alot more than they did,
and going way out of their way to teach you how to engage yourself with the world , in many many different and fun ways
they've done so many things to bring you close, like all the barb e ques and family gatherings, but they maybe be concerned that their actions in life possibly may have failed you in some respects, due to the drinking

They know that you need time to yourself, because they feel that way themselves. It's can be difficult telling your family you need a break from them. The best way to do it may be to SLOW DOWN and put a hand on their shoulder, and give them a smile (this will let them know that your wanting to be alone has nothing to do with them) and say "Mommy, I just need some time to myself" That's if they want your time. If they just want to say hi, all you have to do is to learn how to keep calm, and say Hi Mom. and keep going.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with what you're doing, or how you feel. It's 100% normal. Unless your rich, we all live in pretty tight quarters right?

[mandy876]

I know hey don't understand.  but everyone needs some time to think by themselves.  when I feel like  am going to cry I go to my room and shut the door.  everyone knows I need to be alone.  they know I will come out if I need to talk. my niece just ignores me and want talk to me.  but that is her way of saying leave me alone.  when my Logan was up here when he was small.  his mom said don't go in chachas room her door is shut she does not want you in there.  I went to the door and said logan it is ok come in.  he looked at me and said do you want a hug.  I sad yes he came running to me.  then he started to leave he turned around and said I think you need another hug.  I held out my arms he hugged me and crawled up in bed with me and we played a game on my computer. there is different ways peple handle the situation. your friend chacha

[witheredrose]

I just hate how whenever I protest my need for privacy, I'm suddenly the bad guy and get yelled at!

[mandy876]

hi.  wish I knew an answer.  people think they are helping.  they just don't get it.  some times we all need our on space to just think.  and be left alone.  but that seems to make them bug you more.  just hang in there.  you have a good heart.  it will get better.  talk to your doctor about this.  it might help you.  hugs to a really sweet gal.  love Charlene