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Why isn't suicide a solution?
I am lonely and for the first time in my entire life I started thinking that suicide may be the solution. I am tired, so tired.
As long as there's someone around who cares about you, there's a reason to keep living. My fear is being truly isolated with no family or friends left, hope that never happens.
Please dont think like that!!!!! I know lifes tough but never....never ...give up!!!!! May god bless you.......
Thank you sweetie! I was over-reacting! I was just so down! I've just been so down. My life is nothing that I thought it would be at this point. I know I will never commit suicide. I was just so sad. I do always wish the world would end by Armageddon, an asteroid, etc....I am not sure that is a much healthier thought.
Hey hon...I'm sorry you're having such a rough time.
You already know the answer to your question. It's NOT a solution. And, it comes with such a terrible fall-out for the loved ones....it's just not something that makes sense.
I know when you're in that dark place, it seems that the only way "out" is to not be here anymore, but it's not. You've surely heard people say that suicide is selfish...and while it's certainly awful that people feel they have no other choice but to end their suffering, it's TRUE that it is a very self centered "solution", considering the pain it inflicts on those who love you so much. And I'm talking lifelong all consuming pain.
I have a few friends who have experienced a suicide of someone close to them, they have NEVER recovered, WHO they are was forever changed at that moment. The emotions are crazy...they are torn so bad between missing their loved one, and being SO mad and resentful. My one friend put off buying her husband a tombstone for YEARS because she felt he didn't deserve it!! Isn't that nuts? She would say..."he wanted out, he's out....now WE are here to pick up the pieces...I'm not going to waste my time or money on something to acknowledge him..after all he didn't want to be here anyway". It was SO darn sad! Painful to watch. It took her YEARS to work through those emotions JUST to be able to buy him a tombstone. That's not to mention all of the other struggles...like her not allowing her children (his children) to talk about him for months...which of course affected the children and their grieving for their dad! It was horrific. My friend used to be funny as can be, care free, laid back. Since her husband took his life, she's been bitter, negative, anxious, and not very personable at all. She's NOT the same person by a long shot. AND she had to then deal with one of her daughters becoming suicidal herself because she wanted to be with her Dad. :0( They will question EVERYTHING they once knew...THEIR feelings for the loved one, the loved one's feeling for them, their religion, you name it. She also hasn't been to church a DAY after he died. She's had therapy, gone to support groups, and she told me, despite TRYING to find peace with it, she just can't. She's lost.
The other thing I tell people who are in that dark place is that people who commit suicide lose EVERYTHING good about themselves, speaking in terms of their memory . Their LEGACY becomes that they committed suicide, and that's it. NO one remembers anything else that they did, good or bad. They become defined 100% by that ONE fact. A whole life of accomplishments, and love and relationships, just wiped out by one act. That's so very tragic!
Of course we always tell people in this situation to seek immediate help if you're suicidal. Same goes for you. Only YOU know if this is a fleeting thought, or a true suicidal ideation. If you're not sure, don't risk it, get help now. If you don't think you're at risk for harming yourself, and this is more a fleeting thought, you still need to get help, because if you don't, those thoughts will become more frequent, and more intense.
You have worth, your life has worth. Heck, from the past few years of interacting with you...you have worth to ME...a complete stranger on the internet. I don't want you to NOT be around anymore. Your loved ones, well...it's a given that they would feel the same way, only multiplied by a gazillion.
Keep talking to us...please update us, because we will worry. You've fought through so much through the years...you can fight through this too. You just have to dig deep, and remember the GOOD stuff, and remind yourself that as hard as it's been, you WILL get through this, like you have every other time.
You're in my thoughts and prayers, my friend.
You already know the answer to your question. It's NOT a solution. And, it comes with such a terrible fall-out for the loved ones....it's just not something that makes sense.
I know when you're in that dark place, it seems that the only way "out" is to not be here anymore, but it's not. You've surely heard people say that suicide is selfish...and while it's certainly awful that people feel they have no other choice but to end their suffering, it's TRUE that it is a very self centered "solution", considering the pain it inflicts on those who love you so much. And I'm talking lifelong all consuming pain.
I have a few friends who have experienced a suicide of someone close to them, they have NEVER recovered, WHO they are was forever changed at that moment. The emotions are crazy...they are torn so bad between missing their loved one, and being SO mad and resentful. My one friend put off buying her husband a tombstone for YEARS because she felt he didn't deserve it!! Isn't that nuts? She would say..."he wanted out, he's out....now WE are here to pick up the pieces...I'm not going to waste my time or money on something to acknowledge him..after all he didn't want to be here anyway". It was SO darn sad! Painful to watch. It took her YEARS to work through those emotions JUST to be able to buy him a tombstone. That's not to mention all of the other struggles...like her not allowing her children (his children) to talk about him for months...which of course affected the children and their grieving for their dad! It was horrific. My friend used to be funny as can be, care free, laid back. Since her husband took his life, she's been bitter, negative, anxious, and not very personable at all. She's NOT the same person by a long shot. AND she had to then deal with one of her daughters becoming suicidal herself because she wanted to be with her Dad. :0( They will question EVERYTHING they once knew...THEIR feelings for the loved one, the loved one's feeling for them, their religion, you name it. She also hasn't been to church a DAY after he died. She's had therapy, gone to support groups, and she told me, despite TRYING to find peace with it, she just can't. She's lost.
The other thing I tell people who are in that dark place is that people who commit suicide lose EVERYTHING good about themselves, speaking in terms of their memory . Their LEGACY becomes that they committed suicide, and that's it. NO one remembers anything else that they did, good or bad. They become defined 100% by that ONE fact. A whole life of accomplishments, and love and relationships, just wiped out by one act. That's so very tragic!
Of course we always tell people in this situation to seek immediate help if you're suicidal. Same goes for you. Only YOU know if this is a fleeting thought, or a true suicidal ideation. If you're not sure, don't risk it, get help now. If you don't think you're at risk for harming yourself, and this is more a fleeting thought, you still need to get help, because if you don't, those thoughts will become more frequent, and more intense.
You have worth, your life has worth. Heck, from the past few years of interacting with you...you have worth to ME...a complete stranger on the internet. I don't want you to NOT be around anymore. Your loved ones, well...it's a given that they would feel the same way, only multiplied by a gazillion.
Keep talking to us...please update us, because we will worry. You've fought through so much through the years...you can fight through this too. You just have to dig deep, and remember the GOOD stuff, and remind yourself that as hard as it's been, you WILL get through this, like you have every other time.
You're in my thoughts and prayers, my friend.
Love the penguins.
A lot of us feel like you do know. I know I have. I am lonely too. Have you been diagnosed with depression and prescribed medication?
Would you like to tell us a bit more about yourself?
Depression is such a difficult ilolness to deal with, I know from experience, as most people on this site do.
Keep in touch, and I advise you to see doctor.
A lot of us feel like you do know. I know I have. I am lonely too. Have you been diagnosed with depression and prescribed medication?
Would you like to tell us a bit more about yourself?
Depression is such a difficult ilolness to deal with, I know from experience, as most people on this site do.
Keep in touch, and I advise you to see doctor.
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