failure

[portmans888]

i am a single mom aged 24.i never achieve anything that so special in my life.i wasnt a good daughter to my mom,coz i liked to party alot. never had a guud relationship with a men.it always ended,and i regrets it.now that i am getting older i stop partying and drinking,i just keep thingking how many mistakes have i made that actually ruins my life.what would happend if i didnt do that 5 years ago,..etc.i feeln like a failure,..it is not a nice feeling to have.now i am changing for the better.i am raising my daughter,living back with mom(coz i cant afford to live on my own),but that failiure feeling is like a shadow that follows me,..could that be depression,???what should i do,??help pleasee

[portmans888]

thanks for all the comments,..its nice to have support out there,..

[JKJ]

no, you are not a failure.  like others have said here...what's in the past is in the past.  what's important is that you have learned from that and won't repeat that.  if you need to talk about it...talk to your mom, another relative, a close friend, or maybe see a therapist...that's up to you.

i'm a single mom also...of 2 boys...have been for 11 years.  is it easy?  of course not.  can it be done?  of course it can, and its the most rewarding thing you will ever do.
you hang in there....when things get really rough, look into the eyes of your child and somehow all the problems seem to slip away if but for a little while.
take good care...

[Jlfg]

I want to congratulate you for a what you are doing now.  I think you are now making good choices.  Now keep making good choices.  Go see a doc about how you are feeling, how you feel is important, so like above-keep talking to everyone about how you feel.  Your actions seem to be going in the right direction.  Just keep thinking about your daughter, and every decision you face, think about what you need to do to improve her safety, securty, health, happiness, and education.

[ray31]

It might be depression. See a doctor. Just know that you cant be a failure because you are doing the most important job in the world(and alone at that). You are raising a child, see the success in that. The past can poison you if you dont let it go. Say your sorry and move on. We cant go back so why dwell on it.

[Hensley258]

Your not a failure. The past doesn't have to equal the future. You are only 24 years old. Plenty of time to really turn things around if you have the desire to do so.

From the time I was 15 until I was 30 were a complete waste. Did porly in school because I was always drinking and partying. I spet most of that 15 years drunk, high, and stupid. I didn't even get seriuos about being a real adult until I was 30!

I turned things around and so can you. And I did all this while battling Cronic Severe Depressive dissorder. (thank god for meds) Anyway, you can do a 360 if you really want to. It's far from too late for you.

Remember; The past doesn't have to = the future.

Find a starting point and stick to it until it's completed and then take on another challenge after that. Keep doing it and before you know it you will have molded yourself in the image your mind knows you can be.

Trust me there are people on this forum that know how severe my condition really is and if I can do it than you can too!

[gwmclean]

I can't say if you have depression or not.  But as for the feeling of failure, all I can say is that the things you have done in the past are exactly that; they are in the past.  It sounds as if you are starting to make some good choices.  You have stopped partying and drinking.  Even if it seems like a step backward moving in with your Mom, it is a good thing for your child.  You are giving your daughter a stable and loving home.  You cannot change the things that you have done in the past; you can however learn from your mistakes.

Go and talk to a doctor if you are worried about depression.  But talk to your Mom, talk to us.  Just remember to keep talking.