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i have a problem.
my niece has quit eating for the last few months. she eats a bowl of cereal in the morning and sometimes a bowl of corn or hominy in the evening, she does not want to live. she has lost down to 125 pounds. she looks bad. she is weak and very seldom goes anywhere. i dont know what to do. she has gone from 1xto a small in womens clothes. she has never been happy and does not want to live. she thinks if she dies this way ot will not be her fault. her doctor told her if she loses 1more pound she will commit her to the mental hospital under lockdown for 1 month. she said she is not going tom gain any weight she wants to lose more. the doctor wants me to go tocourt and have her committed i cant do that. i love her and i am at a loss on what to do. i cant make a grrown woman do what i want her to do she has her own mind. her daughter said she is worried but im dont think she is taking it seriously. she has her own problems. she gave most of her clothes to the woman nextt door and a lot of her jewelry. i am scared and this is messing up my depression. mandy876
no they did a blood test on her everything was ok cholestrol was a little high but not enough to worry about. she had lost 1 pound. the doctor said if she loses any more she will go to the hospital. she is dizzy and her stomach. she cant eat much. but she is eating some. not like she used to. i told her i will call the ambulance if anything looks bad. charlene
Is Tammy now hospitalised because she is not eating? I do hope she is getting the help she needs.
So, she's still losing weight, yet the "threats" that were made to her weren't followed through? What's everyone waiting for exactly? If this doctor is blowing this off, take her to another one.
As for worrying about shock treatment, you're getting WAY ahead of yourself. You have NO idea what her treatment plan would include, nor does that matter right now. She needs stabilized.
I don't know how else to say it, but if everyone keeps waiting, there won't be any helping her. Very very very sad.
As for worrying about shock treatment, you're getting WAY ahead of yourself. You have NO idea what her treatment plan would include, nor does that matter right now. She needs stabilized.
I don't know how else to say it, but if everyone keeps waiting, there won't be any helping her. Very very very sad.
her blood test wask cholestrol was a ittle high but not much. she lostanother pound but the docttor told her not to lose any more. she sleeps a lot. eats very little. the kids were supposed to come this weekend but at the last second thy decided to go to the coast. dont think she is that worried are realizes how sick her mom is. she was so happy they were coming. guess that is life. she probably thinner than i am in some places. i gave her some clothes i bought when i gained weight. she took all the mediums. niw they are getting a little big on her. they want her to go to her regular doctor. i cant get her to make an appointment, i dont know what to do. if they put her on lock they will probably give her shock treatments. that damages the brain. thank you so much for caring, xoxo charlene
we just got back. her blood test was good her colestrol is a tiny bit hu, but nit enough to bother about. nurse endu saidn she had to eat 3 times a day. and balance out her ni=utricians, we went and got her some good vitamins, womens centrum silver, tthank you i have a head ache and dont feel vrry good. mandy876
I know you've suffered a lot of loss, this is why I wish you'd seek out a loss support group, or something similar, so you wouldn't feel so alone and depressed.
How's Tammy doing today? Does she go into the doctor's office again? I wouldn't wait any longer to act at this point mandy, if she's still doing the same things. Time is of the essence at this point.
How's Tammy doing today? Does she go into the doctor's office again? I wouldn't wait any longer to act at this point mandy, if she's still doing the same things. Time is of the essence at this point.
why does god put so much on one person. I had to watch my daddy die slowly with cancer of the pancreas. then 2 years later I had breast cancer and chemo and all that. 2 years laterr my husband had a heart attack. he was just telling me he was feeling better he thought the new pills were working then he fell in the floor I thought he was joking. I ran to him and realized it was bad. I called911 they told me how to do cpr and told me to straighten him out on the floor. he weighed about 250 6/1 . I weigh 95 and 5/3. I could not but the ambulance got there really fast and they were working on him. we went to the hospital he kept dying and they kept bringing him back all night, early morning they came and told me he was gone he was too tired to fight any more. I lost it buti had my mommy sis has never been help in a serious situation she always ran home and hit the bottle. I took mom to the store every week and shopping on weekends. my sis told me I should not do this I said what I supposed to do let her walk 10 miles out on the highway to get her food. I can never forgive her. then moms alzeimers got bad and she moved in with me. I had to watcher slip slowly away. I had to watch all the people love most in the world slowly die and leave me, now he is taking my tammy she will not listen to no one. I cant do this again. god is asking too much of me he has gave me more than I can handle. during that time I lost my precious mom in law. my best friends, mandy876
we have been pretty much disowned by my family they never call this is mainly my sis and my bro in law this is her mom and dad. if things don't go their way it is no way. I want to call him she used to be a daddy girl. but her mom has destroyed all that. we go to HMR the mental health place tomorrow my doctor wants me to join. I can get my effexors maybe free. never mind that we will find out about her blood test if it is off in any way she goes straight to the hospital. locked up for 1 month. this is a bad day. I went and ordered my cemetery marker Monday. I asked tammy to see about getting a funeral. she agreed.. they have no new plots. they are now stacking the bodies. so who goes first goes on the bottom and the other goes on the top. we will have a double marker since we have different last names. he showed us one. this will save a bunch of money only 1 marker only 1 grave sight. she wanted a wooden box. it cost 1,000.00 more than the pretty casket. it is white with pretty pink. this does not mean for now we have insurance where if she dies it will be paid in full by the insurance. she told her daughter and her older daughter chewed us out for upsetting them. they should be glad I am helping them if some thing does happen. young niece just told that her boy friend lost his job again but thought he had another job. he said he thought he broke his hand. she tried to get him to go to the hospital. she went in to check on him he was playing a game there is nothing wrong with his hand he is just lazy. her car is in the shop they want 1500.00 before they will fix or release the car. this has been one of the most terrible days the thermometer went out last night got up it was 50 air conditioner ran all night. it is just now warming up. if I think she is getting seriously I will do or say something. I love her and would not give her a bullet. I will keep giving her food. thank you.you are so thoughtful and i am so worried and have everything on me. it is not right I just had to do all the same things with my mom. I don't want that again. she is the only person left that cares. I will do everything I can to keep her alive. even if it means losing her as my daughter. she is my niece but more than that like my daughter. mandy876
Mandy, this isn't about her making the proper nutrition choices, it's about her literally starving herself to death because she's suicidal:
"my niece has quit eating for the last few months. she eats a bowl of cereal in the morning and sometimes a bowl of corn or hominy in the evening, she does not want to live. she has lost down to 125 pounds. she looks bad. she is weak and very seldom goes anywhere. i dont know what to do. she has gone from 1xto a small in womens clothes. she has never been happy and does not want to live. she thinks if she dies this way ot will not be her fault."
Your own words above indicate a VERY VERY serious situation, and with all due respect, you cannot expect that everyone will have the same experiences. CRSeaside had a bad experience, which was unfortunate, but when push comes to shove, this must be dealt with, she needs to be supervised and in a safe place. Left to her own devices, she's killing herself. She stopped eating for a few months? Goodness, that's very scary....she could be in real trouble medically. There's no nice way to say it mandy, but if this continues, she WILL die.
It's great that the doctor is involved, but I fear that waiting much longer to "see" what happens, to watch if she loses more weight may be catastrophic. Your niece is in a BAD way, and again, this is literally a matter of life and death. This isn't a diet or poor eating choices.
Prayers for her. It would be great if she would help herself, but I don't think there's time to wait and see if that happens. Quite frankly, I think she should have been hospitalized before this. Please let us know how she's doing. I'm so sorry you're going through this, please please please don't minimize what's going on. You HAVE to 100% take the emotions out of this.
If she had a gun to her head and asked you to hand her a bullet, would you do it because you'd fear she'd be upset with you if you didn't? Of course not. This is no different, just a different "weapon".
"my niece has quit eating for the last few months. she eats a bowl of cereal in the morning and sometimes a bowl of corn or hominy in the evening, she does not want to live. she has lost down to 125 pounds. she looks bad. she is weak and very seldom goes anywhere. i dont know what to do. she has gone from 1xto a small in womens clothes. she has never been happy and does not want to live. she thinks if she dies this way ot will not be her fault."
Your own words above indicate a VERY VERY serious situation, and with all due respect, you cannot expect that everyone will have the same experiences. CRSeaside had a bad experience, which was unfortunate, but when push comes to shove, this must be dealt with, she needs to be supervised and in a safe place. Left to her own devices, she's killing herself. She stopped eating for a few months? Goodness, that's very scary....she could be in real trouble medically. There's no nice way to say it mandy, but if this continues, she WILL die.
It's great that the doctor is involved, but I fear that waiting much longer to "see" what happens, to watch if she loses more weight may be catastrophic. Your niece is in a BAD way, and again, this is literally a matter of life and death. This isn't a diet or poor eating choices.
Prayers for her. It would be great if she would help herself, but I don't think there's time to wait and see if that happens. Quite frankly, I think she should have been hospitalized before this. Please let us know how she's doing. I'm so sorry you're going through this, please please please don't minimize what's going on. You HAVE to 100% take the emotions out of this.
If she had a gun to her head and asked you to hand her a bullet, would you do it because you'd fear she'd be upset with you if you didn't? Of course not. This is no different, just a different "weapon".
her doctor has put heron watch. they did a blood test we go in wednesday and get the results and the docttor said if anything wrong she is going to lockdown. if she loses more weight she is going into mental lockdown at the hospital. i think for 1 month. CRSeaside said after she got out she weighed 106 and when she went in she weighed 125. they did not help her she was worse. i saw my doctor today. he said therr was nothing wrong in losing weight but she had to balance out her nutricians. he said he used to weigh a lot and that is how he lost weight he ate a bowl of cerreal in the moirning and tuna and vegrtables forluch and a sandwich for dinner. she needs to balance and and choose more vegetables and fruits. i hope she listened.
This is a serious situation mandy, literally could be life or death. You cannot worry whether or not she will be mad at you. If her daughter doesn't act, you must. Bottom line. Or, sadly, she may not be around much longer. Starvation (which is what she's doing) can take a person many ways. There are electrolyte imbalances, which can cause sudden cardiac arrest, there is organ failure, etc.
I wish you the best and I'm sorry you're put in the middle, but really, someone must do something, and fast.
I wish you the best and I'm sorry you're put in the middle, but really, someone must do something, and fast.
we have a problem. she has noinsurance she has been with. MHMR since she was young. she is about 5'6" now weighs 125. unlss she haslosttmore. she ate a baked potato and some chicken today and it made her stomach burn and she did not get sick just hurt. she has no insurance they pay for her meds and she talks to a therapist and a nurse everyother time she goes in. her doctor kept telling her she was too fat. now she says she is too thin. she was supposed to go to group when we were there last time. we leeftt. i told her if i could i would go to. she wants me to go there to. i diont see they help her just change her meds each time she goes in. she has been on effexor for years. she will not let them change that she does not wantto commit suicide when she is on that. she is on 150 and now she added another pilll of 75 to ttake along with it and doubled up on aanother medicine she takes.she is shaky. i am worried. mandy876
she is the only person in ts world that cares about me.she said if i did she would never forgive me. she stands by her wordi know. i have told her daughter and what she needs to do. she will always forgive her. i love her and am trying ti encourage her tto eat. i have an eating problem because my meds make me nauseasandi dont feel like eating. so that is what gave her the idea. i am going to my doctor tomorrow.mandy876
if you love her you will commit her. She is not thinking clearly and is damaging her organs. If she overdosed would you take her to the hospital? Starving herself is no different than overdosing except it take longer. Take her in.
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When I was younger I weighed 125 lbs & I'm 5' 10". I wasn't starving myself. But I had a nervous breakdown ( they used to call it that) and was admitted to a mental hospital. Guess what? I weighed 107 upon release.
Be careful. I know you love her & she's important to you. Pamela