I know this may sound like an STD question, but please bear with me since my gut feeling is that it's something else. I'm a gay man, in a monagamous relationship for 12 yrs. Early in Apr,07 my partner performed oral sex on someone else and got some of the ejaculate in his mouth. 3-4 weeks after that he got one very tiny (smaller than a pin head) blister on the inside of his mouth, which was very sensitive. The blister eventually broke and produced a very small ulcer which healed in a few days. About a week later the exact same thing happened on the opposite side of his mouth. During this time period he performed oral sex on me. Now I have a very definite sensitivity on the head of my penis which started about six weeks ago,then dissapated a bit after a few weeks,then returned pretty much continually since then. No burning, but it feels abraded. I have no rash, see no bumps or can identify anything abnormal looking at my penis. When I am erect, several reddened areas about the size of this O, near the urethra show up. They disappear when I lose my erection. Last week my partner had bloodtests which ruled out HIV, HSV-2. We both have HSV-1. He has chronic jock itch (which I don't) which extends into his rectal area. We do have anal sex (where I penetrate).I have tried to identify/eliminate possible irritants (i.e. clothing, soaps, etc) without any improvement. My sx seem to get a bit worse after having sex.My questions are:what is the likely hood that this is another STD or herpes? Is there a chance that his blisters were herpes type 2 and he still has a neg blood test?Can jock itch cause these symptoms?Could this be some kind of other infectious situation?
Any recommendations or suggestions would be most appreciated.