I am looking for some reasurrance and support really as me and my other half have had a worrying revelation just last evening.
I had the Triple Test done last week which as you probably know means a blood screening test that looks at hormones in the blood, your age, weight etc, to determine your risk of have a baby with Down's Syndrome. Not expecting anything to come back wrong, being a healthy weight and just 25 years old, I thought I would just have the test as a precaution.
Well my midwife left a note through my door to tell me to contact her, which seemed serious to me. She told me my test had come back as High Risk with a 1 in 207 chance I could have a baby with Down's Syndrome. My partner and I did cry because you don't expect this at 25, but we are trying to be positive. I keep thinking out of 207 babies, only 1 would be at risk.... then I woke in the night (it's always worse thinking about things at night) worrying about how I'd cope with a special child. I would love my child at all costs but it would be hard seeing your child not fit in at school and worrying about him/ her needing constant help to cope with life from someone around them. How do parents cope who go through this..... I eventually went back to sleep after stopping the negative thoughts and telling myself 1 in 207 is ok.
Nevertheless I'm going to have the Amniocentesis next week to know where I stand.
Has anyone been through this and can relate? Thanks, your thoughts and support would be hugely appreciated.
In the first place your risk level is very low, in the second place a Downs child is not a "Poor" child at all, they have their happy times at school and anywhere they may be, they do not need constant care, my son was one of the greatest things that ever happened in our family, you should stop worrying and enjoy your pregnancy. I get so tired of the posters on here doing the gloom and doom thing when someone in the medical field tells them results of a blood test, wouldn't it be better for everyone if you looked at the positive side for a change. every child you have has a special place to fill in this world, let your baby grow to his/her full potential and quite worrying about liabilities. I just lost my oldest and only daughter to cancer, that is far, far worse than having my Downs son, he is a love that I can nevdr rerplace, I am sure that you will have a very "normal" healthy baby, if you are really worried, get to know some families that have a Downs child, see how it has enriched their lives, teach your child to love all people, we are all Gods children.
I never said a Down's child is a ''Poor'' child, you chose that word yourself.
It is only natural that some of us who look for support on these forums are indeed worried and shocked in the first instance of recieving any worrying news. I have since done some research on Down's and decided I am very much more sure of what I may have to face and as a result I, and my partner, are happier. I would love my child no matter what. I have been complimenting a mother who has a Down's baby on another forum and called them inspiring. He is a beautiful baby.
Was it really so bad that I sought support from what I would have thought was a group of people who have experienced the same sort of news about a baby or loved one in their family. You too, I'm sure, MUST have had some concerns and doubts when you were first told your child had Down's syndrome. For a start I was aware that it could mean my baby would have problems of the heart. Only a loving mother would be concerned about that. My baby's health in all aspects is important to me.
''Liabilities'' ?? ''normal'' babies?? When did I ever use those words - you need to quit manipulating people in your so-called advice.
Seeing as you want to get high and righteous quoting God, don't judge me, only God has the right to judge - I don't care how old and wise you think you are, you are no better than me or anyone else.
I am also sick of the sort of people on here, like you, that pretend they are here to help people when really all they want to do is use their age as so called power and wisdom to make other people feel bad who are looking for support.
May the Lord judge You !!
Chill out and stop being such a hateful person to those that offer you help/ I am a retired OB nurse and knew what my son was as soon as he was born, I am very sorry that you feel you must hit back like this. God has already judged me to be good enough to send me a wonderful child. you my friend should not try to judge others. Peace to you. Marty
Then you should think about the way you convey your so-called ''advice'' - you were very rude and inconsiderate to me. You implied I have no right to post on this forum based on a Blood Test. That my concerns were undue. And you manipulated me with words I did not use. I would never tell anyone looking for advice that I am sick of the sort of people they are. You were hateful in your reply, hence a hateful retaliation. You initiated any hatefulness.I have also been judged as Good by God - I am a loving, doting mother blessed with two beautiful, healthy children - I have definately been blessed by God, I am sure of that. I also have been blessed with a wonderful partner.
You too should stop judging others, and certainly when you do, you should not judge so harshly when someone is looking for support.
Quote: ''As I have said many times to mothers in your situation, the amnio was not available when I got PG with my 5th child at age 40, ***I have often wondered what I would have done, had I found out,*** but I am so happy I did not abort because Chris is a great son, there are many false positives in the tests and your chances of having a very healthy baby are great.''
You have already asseted here, from another post, that you would have had doubts if you had known you had a Down's child/ if the amnio was available when you were expecting ( *** ) ??
Sounds quite different to what you have posted on my post.
Kate~ I have a post on the Pregnancy 18-34 forum with info on down syndrome risks and causes. :) I'm 22 yrs old and have a son with Downsyndrome. We've been through alot, but he's come through just fine. :)
You can go to my profile, and look under posts. Pretty soon (like tomorrow) ill put up a journal with the same info!! Your risks are VERY minimal. I wouldn't worry about your baby having D/S.
Try a Level 2 U/S to check for soft markers and a fetal echo to check for heart anomalies.
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