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Total lack of sexual desire with ED
I am a 50 year old man, married for 28 years. I love my wife and she loves me, but my sexual problems are causing a very big strain in our relationship. I need to find an explanation of what is causing it
Sex was a very important part of my life and it was great until 6 years ago (I was not yet 44 then), when I first started to experience erectile difficulties, then shortly after total loss of sex drive, and now I have zero desire for sex, not even masturbation. I tried watching porn as an experiment - I have no reaction at all. Feels like sex just totally cut out from my life. I do have night erections however, which seems to indicate that it's not a problem of blood flow.
I have done extensive research on this and closed out many of the factors that can contribute to my condition. Of course ED is common, but it seems like most of the time it's caused by things that I don't have.
I am not taking any medication.
Not diabetic.
No cardiovascular problems.
No difficulty with sleeping.
Not overweight.
Not clinically depressed.
No alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, minimal caffeine.
Doctors checked my testosterone levels repeatedly, sometimes it was at the lower end, but within normal range. I tried testosterone replacement therapy with injections for 6 month - no change. Some time later I tried it with Andro-gel also - again no change.
Tried Viagra/Cialis/Levitra. These work to a certain degree, but I got severe side effects, especially from Cialis. And of course they don't do anything for the diminished libido part.
I have seen doctors, urologist, endocrinologist, psychologist, sex therapist, acupuncturist, naturopath - so far no diagnosis or treatment.
This problem of course is extremely frustrating for me and my wife. She feels hurt and rejected. She thinks if I would have a medical diagnosis, (for example if I would be diabetic), it would be easier for her to accept it. Without this, she still has a feeling that I just don't desire her.
So it's a combination of chronic, long term low libido with ED - I have a feeling I exhausted all resources. I haven't found anyone with the exact same combination of problems . I need an answer...
Thanks
Sex was a very important part of my life and it was great until 6 years ago (I was not yet 44 then), when I first started to experience erectile difficulties, then shortly after total loss of sex drive, and now I have zero desire for sex, not even masturbation. I tried watching porn as an experiment - I have no reaction at all. Feels like sex just totally cut out from my life. I do have night erections however, which seems to indicate that it's not a problem of blood flow.
I have done extensive research on this and closed out many of the factors that can contribute to my condition. Of course ED is common, but it seems like most of the time it's caused by things that I don't have.
I am not taking any medication.
Not diabetic.
No cardiovascular problems.
No difficulty with sleeping.
Not overweight.
Not clinically depressed.
No alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, minimal caffeine.
Doctors checked my testosterone levels repeatedly, sometimes it was at the lower end, but within normal range. I tried testosterone replacement therapy with injections for 6 month - no change. Some time later I tried it with Andro-gel also - again no change.
Tried Viagra/Cialis/Levitra. These work to a certain degree, but I got severe side effects, especially from Cialis. And of course they don't do anything for the diminished libido part.
I have seen doctors, urologist, endocrinologist, psychologist, sex therapist, acupuncturist, naturopath - so far no diagnosis or treatment.
This problem of course is extremely frustrating for me and my wife. She feels hurt and rejected. She thinks if I would have a medical diagnosis, (for example if I would be diabetic), it would be easier for her to accept it. Without this, she still has a feeling that I just don't desire her.
So it's a combination of chronic, long term low libido with ED - I have a feeling I exhausted all resources. I haven't found anyone with the exact same combination of problems . I need an answer...
Thanks
Hi Bob
Ok what is below is a post I put out, you say you have tried natropath, and for me 18 months ago I got ED, I live in Greece and as you will read not a lot of help out here, so I started looking for my self, and what you raed below is now my life style, look all I can say is please read and give it a go, one thing its cheap.
Good luck
What is below is a reply I put in to a discussion on side effects to ED drugs, so I’m now putting So if he drugs don’t work or work well but with bad side effects, then go the herbal way, and it works, but you need to go the whole way with them and give them a good try, just like drugs its a mix and match affair to find the right mix.
Now for I'm in ED recovery and if like me you can get the mix right it will also give you a healthier life style thrown in as a side effect, so that cant be bad can it.
OK for I was given Viagra here in Greece when a was told all that I had was anxiety, its great when your told that, without any examination, and then given Viagra without any tests of any kind, all this I found out later of line, and after this decided that I then needed to find my own way out of ED if I could, the one thing if you start looking is DHEA comes up a lot of the time, so did research into it and asked on a couple of forums for info, for or against.
So I'm now on DHEA 75mgs a day, this is something you really need to read up about if you think its for you and start low to see how it sits with you,
Now and have just started to take Tribulus, this now backs up my DHEA, I'm now taken Tribulus 2 x 750mgs a day, its a bit like DHEA gives your testrone and libido a boost, but with no side effects, not that I've had any from DHEA, these I take for 5 days then rest for 2.
I also take Garlic chopped up fine with olive oil and parsley, and do a whole head at a time, I also take Cayenne, this I put into tomato paste and mix it smooth with olive oil, both of these I rotate alternate days then change them round the next week and only take for 5 days then 2 days rest, These you need to wash down with water before meals.
I also have Ginger in lemon and honey tea, I fine grate Ginger from the freezer. grate to the size of a large egg put in cup with lemon and micro wave30 secs then add your tea, Green or Black, tastes great,( on pegym they call this erection tea ) Green tea is also a help with ED, Green tea, Cayenne and garlic are all known herbs for cleaning the blood and given heat down below they all help open the veins up, and to help get blood into the penis, and believe me you will fill this some time later, I also have some herb Tribulus which I brew with green tea, and drink with ginger honey and lemon, I read that honey and lemon is good for the blood.
On pegym they have what they call the 5Gs it’s all herbal and well worth a look at, just Google the 5Gs, it will take you straight there.
There are lots of other things you can try, Borax see earthclinic for this under ED, Glycine, Nutmeg, but watch this one they say it could be a mind bender,D-Apartate at 3 grams, Ginseng, Ginko Biloba and zinc, but the list is endless.
There does not seem to be many side effects to most herbs, I did get some high blood pressure from Viagra but now since being on mostly herbs I feel and get some real good hardons, and the morning woods are good, I even get woken in the night with some real boners and never had that before.
Look I do hope this may help with some of you guys out there who think that the doctor is the only place to get help, I do some answering on medhelp and webmd the doctor on webmd does not like me given people advice on herbs, but he forgets that all modern drugs come from herbs in the first place, and a lot of new drugs have there roots in herbs, and druggists are still researching roots, herbs and flowers to find new drugs.
Good Luck We Need IT
Tail End
Lots of the above can be Googled by just adding ED on the end of them, Cayenne can give lots of support to the prostate, also by mixing things with olive oil boosts your omega intake, and by taken to spoonfuls of olive oil a day gives you even a bigger boost of omega.
My DHEA I take 50 mgs first thing in the morning, this I got from a web site on dosage of DHEA, this is because the body’s own DHEA is at its highest then, and so what we take can help boost it.
Yes and don’t forget your vitamin D, just get yourself out in the sun and you can pack your body with it, its free that way, they say you only need 15 minutes a day to get enough of it , me I’m out in it all day long here in Greece, and most of the time naked.
And the last thing I got my wife a **** ring for Xmas, it’s a Hardwear Ice made of glass and works really well, once you get used to wearing it, and can give you some fantastic boners that are really strong.
Ok what is below is a post I put out, you say you have tried natropath, and for me 18 months ago I got ED, I live in Greece and as you will read not a lot of help out here, so I started looking for my self, and what you raed below is now my life style, look all I can say is please read and give it a go, one thing its cheap.
Good luck
What is below is a reply I put in to a discussion on side effects to ED drugs, so I’m now putting So if he drugs don’t work or work well but with bad side effects, then go the herbal way, and it works, but you need to go the whole way with them and give them a good try, just like drugs its a mix and match affair to find the right mix.
Now for I'm in ED recovery and if like me you can get the mix right it will also give you a healthier life style thrown in as a side effect, so that cant be bad can it.
OK for I was given Viagra here in Greece when a was told all that I had was anxiety, its great when your told that, without any examination, and then given Viagra without any tests of any kind, all this I found out later of line, and after this decided that I then needed to find my own way out of ED if I could, the one thing if you start looking is DHEA comes up a lot of the time, so did research into it and asked on a couple of forums for info, for or against.
So I'm now on DHEA 75mgs a day, this is something you really need to read up about if you think its for you and start low to see how it sits with you,
Now and have just started to take Tribulus, this now backs up my DHEA, I'm now taken Tribulus 2 x 750mgs a day, its a bit like DHEA gives your testrone and libido a boost, but with no side effects, not that I've had any from DHEA, these I take for 5 days then rest for 2.
I also take Garlic chopped up fine with olive oil and parsley, and do a whole head at a time, I also take Cayenne, this I put into tomato paste and mix it smooth with olive oil, both of these I rotate alternate days then change them round the next week and only take for 5 days then 2 days rest, These you need to wash down with water before meals.
I also have Ginger in lemon and honey tea, I fine grate Ginger from the freezer. grate to the size of a large egg put in cup with lemon and micro wave30 secs then add your tea, Green or Black, tastes great,( on pegym they call this erection tea ) Green tea is also a help with ED, Green tea, Cayenne and garlic are all known herbs for cleaning the blood and given heat down below they all help open the veins up, and to help get blood into the penis, and believe me you will fill this some time later, I also have some herb Tribulus which I brew with green tea, and drink with ginger honey and lemon, I read that honey and lemon is good for the blood.
On pegym they have what they call the 5Gs it’s all herbal and well worth a look at, just Google the 5Gs, it will take you straight there.
There are lots of other things you can try, Borax see earthclinic for this under ED, Glycine, Nutmeg, but watch this one they say it could be a mind bender,D-Apartate at 3 grams, Ginseng, Ginko Biloba and zinc, but the list is endless.
There does not seem to be many side effects to most herbs, I did get some high blood pressure from Viagra but now since being on mostly herbs I feel and get some real good hardons, and the morning woods are good, I even get woken in the night with some real boners and never had that before.
Look I do hope this may help with some of you guys out there who think that the doctor is the only place to get help, I do some answering on medhelp and webmd the doctor on webmd does not like me given people advice on herbs, but he forgets that all modern drugs come from herbs in the first place, and a lot of new drugs have there roots in herbs, and druggists are still researching roots, herbs and flowers to find new drugs.
Good Luck We Need IT
Tail End
Lots of the above can be Googled by just adding ED on the end of them, Cayenne can give lots of support to the prostate, also by mixing things with olive oil boosts your omega intake, and by taken to spoonfuls of olive oil a day gives you even a bigger boost of omega.
My DHEA I take 50 mgs first thing in the morning, this I got from a web site on dosage of DHEA, this is because the body’s own DHEA is at its highest then, and so what we take can help boost it.
Yes and don’t forget your vitamin D, just get yourself out in the sun and you can pack your body with it, its free that way, they say you only need 15 minutes a day to get enough of it , me I’m out in it all day long here in Greece, and most of the time naked.
And the last thing I got my wife a **** ring for Xmas, it’s a Hardwear Ice made of glass and works really well, once you get used to wearing it, and can give you some fantastic boners that are really strong.
Have your head checked out. Make sure no tumors or anything is bumping against the pituitary. If your head is fine then I'll have to agree with your wife that you just don't desire her anymore.
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