Update on me and BFP on 3/8/08

[jenandjon]

Ladies I'd thought I'd swing by and give you an update.   I am now 21 weeks and preggo with a baby girl.  Out of November due dates, there seemed to be an overwhelming number of boys.  3 girls and I think 11 boys.  That could be from everyone watching their OPKs so closely and timed BD and IUI so close to O.  I think Shettles was the one who said baby girls from BDing a few days before O and boys from right around O.  My pregnancy sure supports that.  My DP was traveling and we were only able to BD up until 3 days before O.  I was so sure it wasn't my month, but was excited because we were scheduled for Clomid/IUI cycle that next month.  Even more excited when I got my BFP and was able to save the $600.

We've had a few bumps along the way.   I was really emotional those first few months with the hormonal flux.  My DP and I almost called it quits several times along the way.  We've had a few long talks these past few weeks and things are soooooo much better now.  My big scare came about 12/13 weeks when I had my nuchal translucency done.  My reading came back at 2.8 which was high.  At 3.0 they get really worried, and I had found tests that stated that anything over 2.75 should be concerned and high-risk for downs (10-12%).  So I stressed, and cried, and was a basket case for a month until my u/s at 16w6d.  Everything looked great at that u/s.  The nuchal fold was small, all the markers were negative, baby looked great.  

My DP had wanted a boy so bad and during the u/s I saw the 3 lines for a girl.  The u/s tech asked us if we wanted to know and I told her that I already saw, but asked my DP if he wanted to know.  He said yes, and she told him it wa a girl.  He just let go of my hand and sat back and was quiet for the rest of the u/s.  I started crying and later he apologized for being such a poo-head.  He was just disappointed.  He's now convinced that we need to do IVF with family balancing so that we can get a boy.  LOL...men.

But I'm now 21 weeks...due 11/18...and feeling pretty good.  Still need to get the baby's room together.  My "baby" girl starts school next week.  I'm glad I had the time to spend with my first two before this one.   I really was able to enjoy the two of them so much.  Now they are so excited about this baby and can really share in it.

Hope everyone is doing OK and I wish you guys much success and tons of SSBD.  Hugs to all.

Jen
TTC for six months with timed BD, OPKs & charting, 1 chemical 12/25/07 and BFP on 3/8/08

[bny807]

SO happy for you!!! its great to hear positive stories! I hope that everyone on here can be a success story with a baby in their arms soon!    I know what you mean we finally got preg (shocked) and then a whole new set of worries, granted unfortuntely the worries were justified, it was a blighted ovum : (   and miscarried.. But i always thought once i'm preg the worries should at least wane!   man!    GOOD LUCK cant' wait to see pics of your little one in NOV! : )

[jenandjon]

Thanks everyone.  And hugs to all of you still on the TTC journey.  Never give up...breaks are ok when u need them...but know that you can do it!!!  Hang in there.

Jen

[Helen72]

I am glad your baby girl is doing so well.  Pregnancy is such a stressful time for everyone.  I am glad you and your DP are working things out.
I hope the rest of your pregnancy is uneventful.

[mommyof3andhopefully4]

We have been trying for 12 months.  I would take whatever I can get at this point.  It is so interesting to see though that the shettles method works so well!  It's amazing!  With all of us doing IUI's and all that around O time, we will all have boys!  Wow...how cool.

Jen, Good luck on the second half of your pregnancy.....I hope all goes well.  It should be smooth sailing from here!

[alikat1205]

With my oldest daughter, we both wanted a boy, I wanted it b/c I knew he wanted it.  So at the ultrasound, we found out it was a girl, and when we left, I started crying my head off, and he was upset.  After we got it out, we promised to each other that we would never let her know that we had that moment.  I just had a feeling though that he wasn't over it, and sure enough, we got divorced when she was six months old (after being together 10 years! and married 8).  He went on to remarry and have a son.  We have still never told her anything and wont, she is 12.  I can't imagine her being anything other than herself, and I'm not disappointed!  You need to really talk out that issue.  When you have your heart set on one sex or another, it isn't healthy, and you need to let him know it isn't fair to his new girl!  But I understand it.  I am glad to hear you are doing well!

[miky72]

I'm so happy that things are finally going in the right way for you!
Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and keep us posted!