HCD,
I had an anal fissure in November '15. I noticed a stinging sensation as I was bottoming for a guy. It lingered for two months, so I went to the doctor and got tested. I ended up testing positive for syphilis. At this point, the anal fissure was pretty painful. Getting penicillin shots immediately made the fissure begin to heal, but it still opens up from time to time (and I don't bottom at all anymore). I'm thinking about getting surgery.
Definitely go get tested, and make getting tested a regular occurrence.
Yeah, Mr. Lucky is an idiot.
that's just your opinion. Anal sex causes no problem as long as it is practiced within reason
I have the same exact problem and I'm a gay man as well. I've sexual partners in the past and I've never this problem, this problem arose with an ex of mine about a year ago and I've had difficulty with it ever since. It usually heals up within a few days and the actual fissure pain doesn't really come until about 24 hours after like he said. I would just like to know if there is something I'm doing wrong during intercourse and if there is a way to prevent this from happening cause it is quite annoying.
You may also want to consider checking any lubricant you may be using. Product ingredients can change over time, or people can become intolerant to certain ingredients. It's not unusual for women to have problems with certain personal products even ones they've used for long periods of time. So it certainly wouldn't be difficult to assume the same might not be true in this case.
Why would you think that your medical problem is "inexplicable?"
Greg seems like have some sound advise. I just can't stop thinking about how anal sex isn't really a natural response, that is to say it's a big price to pay. all the best
The way anal fissures work is, anal sex rarely causes them, rather some difficult bowel movement in the past does it. Lots of people get them, usually heal by themselves. But they can also take a long time to heal, which is what is happening to you. It can take up to 8 weeks, so that's how long you have to be abstinent and also not strain when you pass waste. Following a movement, use baby wipes to keep the area clean, soak in the tub a couple times a week. Increase your water intake by a glass of water a day, eat cheerios with Acidophilus milk daily or eat 100 percent wheat toast daily, and add several easy walks weekly, for the next 8 weeks. It will feel better within 3 weeks, but give it 8 weeks for it to totally heal, or else you will have to start all over again.
If this still doesn't produce good results, of course you should see your doctor, topical 0.5% nifedipine ointment prescribed by him should help it heal better. The only reason it wouldn't heal is on account of your physical makeup, somehow the anal muscles are a little too active, and that medication will relax them, and it has other healing properties, too. Over-the-counter medical products won't help very much, but if it hurts when you pass stool, a little KY jelly put on there after you shower should ease the discomfort, it's good because it's water-soluble. Oily stuff just makes it harder to keep the area clean.
The reason you should abstain is not because it causes the fissure, rather it will irritate it. Nothing wrong with your relationship or your sex life at all. And just think how much fun you'll have in 8 weeks....that's real close to Valentine's Day...if you start today. :)
Anal fissures can be notoriously difficult to heal. Like mr.lucky said, you're going to have lay off the sex until it's healed.
You should not have anal sex and the problem should get better. How important is it? you have to choose.