I tried everything !!! The only relief I got was from solarcaine-spray on your hand and wipe where it's sore....makes living livable. I have now had the surgery-worst part is the removal of the packing-hurt like the devil. It's been 6 days now, the pain is only there after a bowel movement , so I will stay on a stool softener, but each day it is less painful . Glad I had the surgery done. P.S. If you are having painful bowel movements, try toilet paper with vaseline-sure helps !!!