Friend terminally ill

[Pam]

A dear friend of mine was just informed that she has breast cancer for the 4th time and it has advanced to the point where she will likely not survive.  Does anyone have suggestions about how to help her or comfort her.  I try to be upbeat, but inside my heart is just breaking.

Pam

[nojustice,nopeace]

Pam, Hows things going with your friend. I know im a little late but i am new to the sight..I have recently lost someone dear to me due to cancer and all I have to say is please be with your friend and as hard as it is, be by her side every step of the way and make each moment you guys spend together count. That is the best thing for your friend to know is that you are there, That means more to an terminally ill person than a million bucks..Again Im so sorry you have to go thru this heartache..cause lord knows there is no cure for that!
  *MAY MY PRAYERS BE WITH YOU AND TO HER FAMILY ALWAYS*

[Pam]

Sorry for taking so long to reply - have been traveling.

When I got home and saw all the wonderful replies, I was truly touched!!

Thank you all for taking the time to comment to me!!

Pam

[too many docs]

I am very sorry to hear of your friend. My mom died a yr and half ago and and my Dad died this past dec , All I can say that as far as people you love dying....  I regret certain things like not knowing more about my mom,,, things like who she liked in high school or what the favorite part of her life was. My dad I wish I was able to tell him I loved him more.  I was sorta in a deep denile about my mother dying. I did not want to talk about it and I kept things "light" I wish I had acted as if she was dying...meaning I wish I did more fun things with her , I wish we talked deeper ..... mostly I wish she were still hear.   hope that helps..its hard for me to write about...

[too many docs]

I am very sorry to hear of your friend. My mom died a yr and half ago and and my Dad died this past dec , All I can say that as far as people you love dying....  I regret certain things like not knowing more about my mom,,, things like who she liked in high school or what the favorite part of her life was. My dad I wish I was able to tell him I loved him more.  I was sorta in a deep denile about my mother dying. I did not want to talk about it and I kept things "light" I wish I had acted as if she was dying...meaning I wish I did more fun things with her , I wish we talked deeper ..... mostly I wish she were still hear.   hope that helps..its hard for me to write about...

[nyc lady]

I too am a Pam...and very recently lost a good friend to Ovarian Cancer....it was and still is very difficult.  

The best thing you can do is to be there for her and to listen.  I will never forget the last conversation I had with my friend...all I could do for her was to let her know that I loved her and was here for her if she wanted to talk.  I told her that I wasn't family and would be able to remove myself and would be honored to help her walk her final journey.  My friend was my hero, she fought this horrible disease until the end.

I am so sorry to hear about your friend....my thoughts are you with both.

Pam

[scarlet37]

      I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. I know when my aunt was diagnosed with brain cancer the best thing we did was  visit when SHE felt like company & listened to HER. We cried & laughed together and shared so many things- I'll never forget that. I'm glad for those moments becuase unfortunately they had to remove part of her brain that controls her memory which has left her without much to talk about.

   Even if you have to cry and say I'm sorry for you and i wish I could say something to make it better - is a comfort because they know you care! Just knowing you ARE there and litsening is enough. When the times comes to say something special your natural instincts will kick in.

  God Bless