Not sure if this in entirely in the right sub-forum (mods, feel free to move) but, long story short:
*Whilst using a condom* 3 weeks ago, had both oral (received) and vaginal sex with a random / stranger (status: unknown). The condom did not break and I showered immediately afterwards. Too bad it didn't get rid of the immediate regret. Anywhom:
24 hours later -> onwards, I've had (unprotected) sex with my girlfriend numerous times. Several weeks have passed and I have since had *every* 'standard' single seroconversion symptom (fever / diarrhea / sore throat / hives / muscle ache / fatigue). I'm not sure if this is (hopefully) just due to over-research / guilt / anxiety BUT:
My girlfriend - who is completely unaware of the situation / therefore not even remotely anxious - has also had all of the above, PLUS blood in urine, bladder incontinence, mouth ulcers AND weight loss of >1kg in less than a week.
If not what-I-really-*really*-hope-this-isn't, what could it be...? Ideally just flu + UTI + hayfever(?) I had mono 8 years ago but surely I couldn't only just be passing that on now?
For the record: I had a full blood/urine/swab STI test at the 8 day mark (all came back completely negative), but after recent research I've discovered that would be far too early to be conclusive anyway, right(?)
Please advise / help. Have resisted posting this for 3 weeks now but it's at the point where I am literally CONSUMED by this worry and completely sick to my stomach. Many thanks in advance.
Apollo is correct. Seek medical advice for traces of blood in your urine. This is more indicative of a UTI or a bladder disturbance. If you used a condom them you certainly have nor acquired HIV. The most important thing is that you don't worry. There is a good chance that these 'ARS' symptoms you speak of are only noticed due to a heightened state of awareness. Very common in people who obssess over any particular condition. Relax.
I had similar experience. Every thing and anything wrong with my gf I thought was related to HIV. Spotting between period. Heavy heavy period. Sore throat blah blah. But after 3 months I tested neg. I was told I didn't even need to test. I guess they were right. Symptoms mean nothing. You are very stressed and your anxiety is taking over rational thoughts
You didn't have a low risk exposure, you had NO risk at all. You wore a condom and it did.nt fail. For the sake of your sanity, stop what your thinking. You had NO risk in the first place, you feel guilty so now your becoming ultra paranoid. You need to think logically here...
The little - irrational - things just find a way to niggle themselves right into your mind though: 'I had a mouthful of beer before I kissed her breast - was she lactating?! Did the alcohol stop my saliva killing the virus!? The condom was wet when I took it off - had it split or was she just moist?!'
I'll / we'll (God help us) hopefully be just fine. Will test at the 12 week mark. Until then...
Yeah, just a few hours ago / after that post. Results will be in next Saturday. With combined symptoms like these I honestly don't know what else it could be. Neither do they. I don't even... what have I done(?)
I now have a rash on my chest. It's a deep pink - with one main hive - about 2 inches across and 1cm high. It's not itchy and definitely not an insect bite. In my mind there is now absolutely nothing else this could be. Are there any actual doctors here? Will taking PEP at this stage do *anything*?
This article definitely isn't helping my anxiety (the majority of condoms aren't always effective?):
Sorry, only just saw your comment (after posting). Friend, I truly, truly appreciate your comforting but underneath all the sugar coating: I had a VERY high risk encounter; the two of us have since had EVERY typical symptom (plus more) (hers definitely aren't even remotely anxiety related); and it's all exactly fit the average timeline.
This isn't just an 'I kissed a girl and now have a headache' thread. I'm almost positive I've not only contracted it but already spread it to the one person who I truly love, admire and adore. I already can't live with myself. I have no-one else to talk to. I am so sorry.
Just calm down, you might want to talk to a doctor. I know how u feel it ***** but it's not going to be HIV u say your only a few days from 3 months? I doubt symptoms would still be on going. I am not a expert. But I scared myself to death as u have. I still have off and on joint pain. But a 3 month rapid test was non reactive so I know it's not HIV. U will get through this. Maybe u need to see your negative test first like I did
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