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A little too Ironic...Don't you think?
Hello everyone. I tried to put my fears on hiatus for the week of indpendence day. I wanted to enjoy a little vacation time with my family. My method was to unfold the piece of paper that I received after my last HIV rapid test at 82 days, which states that I am negative, and read it repetedly. It helped. I proceeded to enjoy myself and my family. We were having a great time until....3 days in my wife got a significant sun burn. It actually caused her to have a little swelling in some areas of her skin. The point is, she had 2 lymph nodes to swell in her neck. One was so swollen and hard as a rock that it was visible. The other one wasn't so noticable but definately there. This scared me very badly because it has been about 3 or 4 weeks since we first had unprotected sex after receiving my 82 day negative result. I also noticed that she is experiencing dry cough, fatigue, and a severe back ache which seems to be stemming from tight muscles. This is highly unusual for her. She never gets sick at all. I am freaking out and scared that she is having ARS as a result of having sex with me.
I too am still having some strange things happen to me. My hands fall asleep very easily and for about 4 nights straight I woke up to my left hand feeling "asleep" and tingling. Also I had a place on my chest that looked like a black freckle. I picked at it and it swelled like a pimple and got infected. I have never seen anything like this. I also still have migrating pain that comes and goes. It feels like there may be a bruise, but there is not discoloration. There are numerous other things that concern me as far as "symptoms" go, but I can find ways to dismiss them.
The point of all this is that I want to accept my 12 week negative and move on. But in actuality it wasn't quite 12 weeks (it was 82 days). Do you guys think I tested too soon and these couple of days could have made a difference? Does anyone know if a sunburn could cause nodes to swell? Does the timing of my wife's sunburn and the swollen nodes make sense that the burn could be suspect of causing the nodes?
For those of you who don't know my story. I had unprotected one night stand with a shady lady. I want to take another test and I know this is the only way I will get an answer but at this point, I am scared to death to get another test. I hear many people saying that noone ever changes after a negative result at the time frame that I tested, but I just feel like I know I am going to be the one to break the cycle. I am really scared, again, and would very much appreciate feedback from many of you on the issues I listed above.
Thanks my friends. I am praying for each and everyone of us.
I too am still having some strange things happen to me. My hands fall asleep very easily and for about 4 nights straight I woke up to my left hand feeling "asleep" and tingling. Also I had a place on my chest that looked like a black freckle. I picked at it and it swelled like a pimple and got infected. I have never seen anything like this. I also still have migrating pain that comes and goes. It feels like there may be a bruise, but there is not discoloration. There are numerous other things that concern me as far as "symptoms" go, but I can find ways to dismiss them.
The point of all this is that I want to accept my 12 week negative and move on. But in actuality it wasn't quite 12 weeks (it was 82 days). Do you guys think I tested too soon and these couple of days could have made a difference? Does anyone know if a sunburn could cause nodes to swell? Does the timing of my wife's sunburn and the swollen nodes make sense that the burn could be suspect of causing the nodes?
For those of you who don't know my story. I had unprotected one night stand with a shady lady. I want to take another test and I know this is the only way I will get an answer but at this point, I am scared to death to get another test. I hear many people saying that noone ever changes after a negative result at the time frame that I tested, but I just feel like I know I am going to be the one to break the cycle. I am really scared, again, and would very much appreciate feedback from many of you on the issues I listed above.
Thanks my friends. I am praying for each and everyone of us.
It has already effed with my head. You are right. I knew what you meant, but that nagging voice in the back of my head says "what if she means this, or that". I think I have gone crazy a little bit. I do believe that if I get another negative test result, I will be able to move on. The thing is, at this point I am almost too afraid to take the test for fear it will be positive. Also, I have to wait for the 6 month mark before the clinic will let me have another test. I think it is best this way because I know if I go before six months, I will question the results.
Peek, you are great to help me like you do. If I get another negative test result, i am going to need your address so I can send you flowers or something.
Thank you for dealing wiht my craziness.
Peek, you are great to help me like you do. If I get another negative test result, i am going to need your address so I can send you flowers or something.
Thank you for dealing wiht my craziness.
I was hoping maybe another negative test would decrease your very obvious anxiety over this, but deep in my heart I know it won't.
Why would you think I would tell you I am sure you are negative, if I thought you might be positive?
I even said it would be to try to settle your anxiety. See how you are trying to inject a doubt into something that was clearly the opposite? Far, my friend, that's not normal thinking.
You are not crazy. You are wracked with guilt and fear. It is effing with your head.
Why would you think I would tell you I am sure you are negative, if I thought you might be positive?
I even said it would be to try to settle your anxiety. See how you are trying to inject a doubt into something that was clearly the opposite? Far, my friend, that's not normal thinking.
You are not crazy. You are wracked with guilt and fear. It is effing with your head.
Hey nervous. Not trying to debate you, but I just found several sites that say that swollen nodes behind the ears can be a result of skin irritation such as sunburn. The nodes in this location are responsible for "policing" problems with the skin and the skalp. This is where her's is swollen. This makes me feel a little better.
I think we are probably in the same position with guilt and anxiety drving us crazy and us noticing everything and feeling happenning to our body.
The thing that is drving me crazy and making it hard for me to chalk things up to anxiety is the fact that my wife is also having symptoms (similiar to yours). I know her symptoms are not from anxiety, but maybe I am just noticing weird things and comments she makes more then if none of this was going on.
You have had a neg test at 12 weeks so I am sure you are fine. I am not in a place where I can get a test so I am so scared.
The thing that is drving me crazy and making it hard for me to chalk things up to anxiety is the fact that my wife is also having symptoms (similiar to yours). I know her symptoms are not from anxiety, but maybe I am just noticing weird things and comments she makes more then if none of this was going on.
You have had a neg test at 12 weeks so I am sure you are fine. I am not in a place where I can get a test so I am so scared.
At first I had a problem with tingling hands and feet that came off and on throughout the day. Once I got my 6 week negative they came less, and once I got my 12 week negative it disappeared for a while so I passed it off to anxiety. Here lately I have been having problems with my left hand going to sleep when I sleep. I don't think I am laying on it or anything but it is hard to tell. I don't have any rash like symptoms, but like I said earlier, I had this black spot uner my skin that looked like a freckle but got swollen when I picked at it. I have had other strange symptoms, like a blood blister on my palm and an occasional pimple here and there. I wouldn't call them rashes though.
I too am scared that my one time f up is going to cost my family dearly.
I don't think you have much to worry about. Probably just guilt and anxiety driving you crazy.
I too am scared that my one time f up is going to cost my family dearly.
I don't think you have much to worry about. Probably just guilt and anxiety driving you crazy.
I had a very low risk exposure where I possiblly came into contact with blood from deep kissing. Everyone seems to say this is not a risk, but like you I have had so many sypmtoms and now have seen some symptoms in my wife that are driving me crazy.
I am so scared that my one time mistake could cost my family so much.
Does you tingling and hands and feet falling asleep all the time seem to come and go. Do you have any other rash like symptoms?
I am so scared that my one time mistake could cost my family so much.
Does you tingling and hands and feet falling asleep all the time seem to come and go. Do you have any other rash like symptoms?
Thanks for the advice. The thing with the node is that she got a sunburn the day before, compunded it with more sun the next day, and later that night she noticed that it was sore and swollen. She felt like **** all that night. It was not there until that day. It is on its way down now, but still there. It is scaring the **** out of me that she is having ARS. Nervouskid seems to think that I am saying that the sunburn is somehow a result of ARS. What I am saying and hoping, is that the swollen node was caused by the sunburn and not ARS. Peek, you think I need to test again? You have told me repeatedly that I am good with my result, but now you are kind of suggesting that I test again. Is this because of the symptoms I am talking about, or just because it is obviousl that I will not be able to let this go?
Can you go and get another test, then? To try to settle your anxiety? Or do you think you would doubt that test, too?
I know you are negative, so I'm not a bit worried about your status.
I'm doing ok, don't go to the doc til the 16th to investigate the heart thing. Just short of breath, coughing, sweating, and in general feeling like cr@p all the time. Working like this is just loads of fun, but I have no choice.
If the node doesn't go down, she needs to see a doc to rule out things like cancer. I doubt its that, but you never know. If its indeed "huge and hard as a rock" it needs to be looked at by medical eyes to be sure its just an inflamed node, and not the result of anything malignant.
I know you are negative, so I'm not a bit worried about your status.
I'm doing ok, don't go to the doc til the 16th to investigate the heart thing. Just short of breath, coughing, sweating, and in general feeling like cr@p all the time. Working like this is just loads of fun, but I have no choice.
If the node doesn't go down, she needs to see a doc to rule out things like cancer. I doubt its that, but you never know. If its indeed "huge and hard as a rock" it needs to be looked at by medical eyes to be sure its just an inflamed node, and not the result of anything malignant.
i have a suggestion for you. Google DSC Sexual health clinic.
Go to their questions and answers forum and punch in 82 days. Set the domain to HIV/AIDS and see what the conculrs say there for an 80-90 day result. This is a Singapore based website and follows official guidelines from WHO. I hope this will help you. 2 days don't matter.
Go to their questions and answers forum and punch in 82 days. Set the domain to HIV/AIDS and see what the conculrs say there for an 80-90 day result. This is a Singapore based website and follows official guidelines from WHO. I hope this will help you. 2 days don't matter.
Yep, it seems as if there are a few crazy people on the forum. I think that I am becoming one of them. Thanks for your response. It just drives me crazy that I took my test two days too early, and I can't test again for a nother month.
Im sorry to hear that peek. I hope you are getting plenty of rest and medication for what ails you.
I know sh*t happens, but like the title of my post says, it seems a little too ironic.
The one node is definately swollen. No doctor is needed to determine that in this case. It is huge and hard as a rock, and she is not a bit concerned about hiv like I am, so she doesnt go poking in her body to find things.
I know that the paper I have says negative, but I don't feel negative, and I have seen several places that say 12 weeks is conclusive if you feel OK and have no symptoms. These wierd things happening to my body just match the description of HIV infection too closely. I really, really am trying to let this go, but everytime I get close some crazy sh*t happens to drag me back in. Now it is my wife having the wierd symptoms, and infecting her has been my worse fear all along. I just feel like throwing up all the time. Whether I have HIV or not, HIV (the fear of) is going to send me to an early grave.
I hope you get better soon. You don't deserve to have to suffer. Take care of yourself.
I know sh*t happens, but like the title of my post says, it seems a little too ironic.
The one node is definately swollen. No doctor is needed to determine that in this case. It is huge and hard as a rock, and she is not a bit concerned about hiv like I am, so she doesnt go poking in her body to find things.
I know that the paper I have says negative, but I don't feel negative, and I have seen several places that say 12 weeks is conclusive if you feel OK and have no symptoms. These wierd things happening to my body just match the description of HIV infection too closely. I really, really am trying to let this go, but everytime I get close some crazy sh*t happens to drag me back in. Now it is my wife having the wierd symptoms, and infecting her has been my worse fear all along. I just feel like throwing up all the time. Whether I have HIV or not, HIV (the fear of) is going to send me to an early grave.
I hope you get better soon. You don't deserve to have to suffer. Take care of yourself.
Far,
You have to realize that waiting for 3 months to get a conclusive answers scars people deep emotionally. When you are mentally preparing yourself 3 months to listen up to the worst news of you life, the good news is often not believable. Even the most conservative of people w.r.t window say that 12 weeks negative is negative. You are negative. You do need a test but a therapy which will help you accept the truth and make you go about doing things the way you did before this scare. You have brainwashed yourself to believing something non-existent. Now, you need help to erase the memory of past 3 months.
Take care n move on...This forum is not going do any good to you. Plenty psychos here.
You have to realize that waiting for 3 months to get a conclusive answers scars people deep emotionally. When you are mentally preparing yourself 3 months to listen up to the worst news of you life, the good news is often not believable. Even the most conservative of people w.r.t window say that 12 weeks negative is negative. You are negative. You do need a test but a therapy which will help you accept the truth and make you go about doing things the way you did before this scare. You have brainwashed yourself to believing something non-existent. Now, you need help to erase the memory of past 3 months.
Take care n move on...This forum is not going do any good to you. Plenty psychos here.
I'm sure its possible to get swollen nodes from a severe sunburn. You can get very sick from a bad sunburn. Or, the swollen nodes have nothing to do with the sunburn, and are just run of the mill swollen lymph nodes from a garden variety infection (you mentioned a cough and fatigue), of which there are literally millions swarming around us every day.
Or, her nodes are not swollen at all, and you are mistaking whatever is swollen to be a node.
You are negative, so she can't have HIV unless she's had sex with an HIV positive person. No, I don't think an 82 day result would change.
Look--I cropped up with bilateral pneumonia out of nowhere. I'm very ill still, and just the other day found out my heart is enlarged. As I say repeatedly, "sh*t happens". Who knows why we get sick when we do. It just happens sometimes.
Or, her nodes are not swollen at all, and you are mistaking whatever is swollen to be a node.
You are negative, so she can't have HIV unless she's had sex with an HIV positive person. No, I don't think an 82 day result would change.
Look--I cropped up with bilateral pneumonia out of nowhere. I'm very ill still, and just the other day found out my heart is enlarged. As I say repeatedly, "sh*t happens". Who knows why we get sick when we do. It just happens sometimes.
I knew you were going to post that as your follow-up response. But If you already know that sunburns are not relevent to HIV, then you should know that ARS occurs in individuals who were infected with HIV. So my question again, where's the logic of sunburn caused by HIV infection??
And sunburns don't cause 'swollen nodes' or the sameday for that matter. If you or she get sunburns, then you should apply sun protection cream on the skin.
And sunburns don't cause 'swollen nodes' or the sameday for that matter. If you or she get sunburns, then you should apply sun protection cream on the skin.
I have read alot a forums and have done alot of research and cannot seem to find a definate answer related to tingling and hands and feet falling asleep easier then normal and if it related to a primary HIV infection.
It sounds like farfromperfect is having these symptoms and I have also been having these symptoms on and off for the last three weeks. I wake up in the middle of the night at least a couple of times a night with either my hand or feet asleep. Also during the day it seems like this happens easier then normal and I am noticing my hands or feet tingling on and off all the time.
Does anyone know if this is a sign of primary HIV?
Thanks
It sounds like farfromperfect is having these symptoms and I have also been having these symptoms on and off for the last three weeks. I wake up in the middle of the night at least a couple of times a night with either my hand or feet asleep. Also during the day it seems like this happens easier then normal and I am noticing my hands or feet tingling on and off all the time.
Does anyone know if this is a sign of primary HIV?
Thanks
The sunburn is not relevant to hiv. I am trying to determine whether or not a sunburn can cause swollen nodes, because my wife got a sunburn and swollen nodes within the same day. I am trying to determine if these are due to her possibly having ARS or if the burn caused it. I do not have any noticably swollen nodes. Hope that clarifies, sorry for the confusion.
I think you've been told by others, but for your reconfirmation, your 82days negative result is totally conclusive.
Where's the logic of getting a sunburn from HIV infection? Your swollen lymphnodes have nothing to do with it.
Where's the logic of getting a sunburn from HIV infection? Your swollen lymphnodes have nothing to do with it.
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