Please help, does this seen like possible exposure?

[xoxo28]

Hello, so in May 10 of this year started dating a man casually and we have had unprotected sex since up until now. I had a full check July 18. My HIV test came back negative. He recently had a child with someone before me,and claims their tests were negative. I had sex with two other people, however it was protected. I went to the hospital because my blood levels were very low and I am anemic and the doctor wanted me to have a blood transfusion. I have been having headaches nausea diarrhea but no fever, heart palpitations, and what seems to be a yeast infection in my belly button. Which has gotten very sore itchy and smelly.. I know you can't base HIV on symptoms, but I just want to know if this seems like a high risk situation. please help me. I get sick and lose sleep over this... was testing too early??

[AnxiousNoMore]

"I know you can't base HIV on symptoms, but I just want to know if this seems like a high risk situation. please help me."
You can get those "symptoms" from numerous causes (plus they are just self-diagnosed so potentially just in your head as you mentioned about the smell),
so no one diagnoses HIV based on symptoms.
If you are concerned about your health then advise your doctor, but leave HIV out of it since you know you can't have it.

[xoxo28]

Thank you. I appreciate your response greatly. I know that looking up symptoms can also add to my anxiety about it because had this belly button issue for a couple years now and I've been tested many times since. I guess I am just afraid that I tested too early

[AnxiousNoMore]

You are worried that you tested too early for a disease you can't have?

It sounds like no amount testing will relieve your anxiety, so a therapist might be a good option to see if they can help.

[CurfewX]

It's a little bit difficult to fully understand this scenario.  I'm not sure what the transfusion has to do with anything, but it would never be an HIV risk.

Back to the sex - if he hasn't been having unprotected sex with anyone apart from you since May 10, and he tested HIV-negative recently, then he does not have HIV and cannot give it to you.

Condom-protected sex is no risk for HIV.

[xoxo28]

Thank you for responding... I was just mentioning everything that was wrong with me. I know it sounds all crazy. But, yes, he said he got tested after he and his ex got together, then she recently had a baby and I know they test for everything. I just wanted to know was testing at 9 weeks (about) was too early...

[CurfewX]

I still don't understand fully.  Why would they test him for HIV just because he and his ex had a baby? They don't routinely test the father for HIV.

If you are still having unprotected sex with him and aren't certain of his status, then your test is not at all conclusive.  If you are certain of his status right now, then he could not have given you HIV ever.

If you were tested 9 weeks after your LAST unprotected encounter, you're good to go.  Some recommend taking a final, confirmatory test at 12 weeks (or beyond), but modern tests are quite sensitive and accurate much earlier.

[xoxo28]

No, I was just saying that they both got tested when they got together and I was saying that everyone gets tested for any kind of STD when a woman is having a child so I was just saying that I know they are both negative as far as I know and yes as of now as far as I know she is negative because he is only been with the other person and me this whole year