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Anal Intercourse With Condom
Hello Community,
I am sure this question has been asked several times on this platform but I need to put my mind at ease by directly asking this question as it relates to my specific situation.
In early January, I had protected sex with someone that I had been physical with a few times before. However, this was our first time having penetrative sex. I was the top and he was the bottom. I used a condom and ejaculated into the condom at the same time he was climaxing. My concern is two things. When I asked about his status, he stated that he was negative. When I asked to see his results, he refused to share them and blocked me which leaves me concerned regarding the truth of his negative status.
During the climax, after I ejaculated, I did not pull out right away, and may have gone a bit flaccid with the condom on, and still inside my partner. I don't know where I read this, but I am under the impression that the effectiveness of the condom is only if you pull out right away, and if you begin to go flaccid, there may be cause for concern. When I did pull out the condom was in tact, and was completely covering the entirety of my penis. I am wondering if there is a possibility of a risk with consideration to not having pulled out right away/being slightly flaccid while inside, or was the condom effective in that it was covering my penis the entire time? Someone please put my mind at ease.
I am sure this question has been asked several times on this platform but I need to put my mind at ease by directly asking this question as it relates to my specific situation.
In early January, I had protected sex with someone that I had been physical with a few times before. However, this was our first time having penetrative sex. I was the top and he was the bottom. I used a condom and ejaculated into the condom at the same time he was climaxing. My concern is two things. When I asked about his status, he stated that he was negative. When I asked to see his results, he refused to share them and blocked me which leaves me concerned regarding the truth of his negative status.
During the climax, after I ejaculated, I did not pull out right away, and may have gone a bit flaccid with the condom on, and still inside my partner. I don't know where I read this, but I am under the impression that the effectiveness of the condom is only if you pull out right away, and if you begin to go flaccid, there may be cause for concern. When I did pull out the condom was in tact, and was completely covering the entirety of my penis. I am wondering if there is a possibility of a risk with consideration to not having pulled out right away/being slightly flaccid while inside, or was the condom effective in that it was covering my penis the entire time? Someone please put my mind at ease.
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I'm just going to address the relevant portion of your post:
As long as the head of your penis was covered during intercourse - during the time when your penis was inside the other person's anus - you had no risk for HIV, and should forget about this event and move on.
I'm not interested in trying to parse what the other person's motives were regarding showing you results, because his status isn't relevant unless you had unprotected intercourse.
As long as the head of your penis was covered during intercourse - during the time when your penis was inside the other person's anus - you had no risk for HIV, and should forget about this event and move on.
I'm not interested in trying to parse what the other person's motives were regarding showing you results, because his status isn't relevant unless you had unprotected intercourse.
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Thank you for the response. I was not trying to make something more of the post by mentioning what my partners supposed intent was with not showing me his test results. My skepticism mainly came from the flaccid aspect.
No worries - just wanted to be clear that my response focused on the relevant details.
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