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Possible ARS Exposure from Cunninlingus

Hi,
I am a lesbian who had unprotected oral sex with another female with whom I am unsure of her HIV status. About 3-4 days after exposure I came down with a dry/sore throat, mild fever, and sinus problems.

I generally would not be too concerned - and consider it just a common cold; however, I know that she has had multiple partners...both male and female in the last year; & although she tells me she's been tested recently, and her HIV status is negative, I am not 100% reassured that she's telling the truth.

Also, ANOTHER major concern of mine is that I had two wisdom teeth extracted about two weeks prior to this incident. Although, I am not gushing blood and the wounds do not appear to be visibly bleeding/infected, I can tell that there is still some exposed area & bone, and it tastes kind of like a canker sore (raw taste - can't really explain). This is very bothersome because I am now pondering whether it was an open invitation for the virus to infect me...

What are the chances of my symptoms being ARS from this scenario...and showing after only 3-4 days post exposure? Would I need to be gushing blood & her menstruating in order for this to be a cause of concern? I am very worried....I do not normally engage in risky behaviors with partners until I know their status/trust them, but this was very poor judgment for me.
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There is no debate (among experts) about the HIV risks associated with oral sex. The risk is so low that almost nobody who cares for HIV infected patients has ever had a patient believed to have been infected that way. Among experts, it's a semantic issue about using terms like "no risk" and "very low risk". There is no difference between my or Dr. Hook's use of "low risk" and other experts' "no risk".
DR. HANSFIELD

"And oral sex is basically safe sex -- completely safe with respect to HIV and although not zero risk for other STDs, the chance of infection is far lower than for unprotected vaginal or anal sex. Please educate yourself about the real risks. If you stick with oral sex and condom-protected vaginal or anal sex, you have no HIV worries and very little worry about other STDs. " DR HANSFIELD

"I am sure you can find lots of people who belive that HIV is transmitted by oral sex, but you will not find scientific data to support this unrealistic concern..." DR HOOK

"HIV is not spread by touching, masturbation, oral sex or condom protected sex."- DR. HOOK

in the public HIV Prevention forum of MedHelp, TEAK and the other moderators maintain that oral sex in all forms is a zero risk activity. Would you agree with this assessment?
I TOTALLY AGREE / DR GARCIA

"The observation on thousands and thousands of observations is that HIV is not spread by oral sex (of any sort)." DR HOOK
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thank you
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The answers aren't going to change.
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Thank you both for your helpful answers.

I guess my main worry is the fact that my gums are still healing from surgery. I actually thought I was completely healed at the time, but several days later, I can now taste blood at the site of the wound. :(  I've read on different sites that saliva kills a great deal of the virus; however, I've also read that "extenuating" circumstances, like open cuts/sores increase my chances of infection.

If she is HIV-pos and her vaginal fluid/blood got into my open unhealed gums, what are my chances that I was infected?
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Hi,
Thank you for your reply. I've read on different sites that it is possible to contract HIV from oral sex....I just want to know what my risks are considering I just had oral surgery.
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ARS does not show that early. But better news is that oral sex is not a risk for HIV.
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