Hiv risk from oral sex with mouth problems

[Fizzyy100]

Hi I’d like some advice I know quite abit about hiv as I’ve had scares in the past my last encounter was about 3 weeks ago, it was a stranger I met online so don’t know his status, we had unprotected oral which last a few minutes off an on, when he was giving me oral he was quite rough an his teeth kept scraping against my penis, sorry for the details.

Anyway I did give him oral an stopped when I tasted pre cum, I didn’t notice any cuts or sores in my mouth at the time but I do suffer with bleeding gums an that day I had brushed about 8 hours before an there was some bleeding would that put me at risk? The other thing that happened was after the pre cum we just mastubated together an he eventually ejacualted onto my penis an then I continued to masturabte, again sorry for the details I didn’t notice any cuts on my penis at the time either.

Fast forward 3 weeks an I’m starting to get a slight throat irratation an I’ve noticed about 6-7 spots around my collar bone they’re all kinda spread out but thought maybe it was a rash, anyway any advice would be helpful

[Fizzyy100]

Ok thank you for your explanation, it’s just reading about it on other websites like nhs they make it out to be that any cut or sore or even bleeding gums can pose a risk to infection

[Fizzyy100]

I honestly don’t know the full criteria to that but I think it’s a combination of different things, like there could be a patient who said they got it from recieving oral but there would be no way to prove that it was that encounter maybe they had it from before, maybe they did do other riskier things.

There has been a few different studies done where a positive an negative couple have done protected sex apart from oral sex which was unprotected an there was no hiv infections amongst them I can’t rememebr the exact number of ppl who participated but that’s where a lot of ppl get there facts from because that is evidence that hiv through oral isn’t a risk, but some website still state it as a risk because of a theoretical risk.

I’m no expert though I’m sure there’s a lot more knowledgeable people on these forums.

[AnxiousNoMore]

You are safe and a test would be a waste of time, so enjoy your life.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex
3. sharing needles that you inject with. Knowing these 3 are all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV. Your situation is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so there is no detail that you can add that will make your encounter a risk for HIV. No one got HIV from the situation you encountered in 40 years and likely no one will in the next 40 of your life, so there in no more likelihood of HIV transmission happening than of you getting hit by a meteor as you read this.