Lonely and Desperate

[Hopewelltex]

Hello I'm a 19yo male who made the biggest mistake of his life. I have always been rejected by women and for the first time in my life another person was attracted to me, just so happens it was another male. Bottom line all that happened is that i received oral sex from this person three times during december 2007. I also performed oral sex on him for about two to three minutes, and he did not ejaculate. I didn't notice any sores of any sort and he assured me that he was clean. The second encounter right after the head of my penis hurt if i applied a little pressure. The third encounter i never ejaculated in his mouth, unlike the first two times. I waited about two weeks later to go see a doctor, and he said the odds of catching an std trough oral sex was rare. He treated me for a UTI, but the discomfort kept up and I finally went to a urologist where he prescribed me with doxycycline, and when that didin't work Levaquin both for two week periods. The discomfort I was feeling was painful ejaculation towards the end of ejaculating, sore abdomen(as if being punched in the abs), Sore testicles, Lower back pain in the area of the kidneys, and a general discomfort in the whole genital and groin area. He then went in with a scope through my urethra and found that my veru montanum was inflammed and he split it open and let it drain, thus leaving a cathedar in me for two days after the procedure. He told me that that could be the root of my painful ejaculations, but i just feel it could be more.  Just before the procedure i was noticing a little discharge right after peeing and still a week after the procedure I have had a little discharge right after peeing. I am still feeling general discomfort but the doctor said to give it time to heal and if it wasn't getting progressively better then to call him. I haven't gotten any official tests run for std or hiv, but i just need some help with what you think I could be experiencing, and what i should do. My mother is great to me and is helping me through this but i feel so scared and lonely that i just would like some answers. Please please help give me some peace of mind!

[Uniquelymen]

Hi there,

Your symptoms are not HIV specific.  I don't think it has to do with HIV.

Based on what you have describe, you do not have any real risk.  

Cheers!

[troggs]

I forgot to mention condoms are going to always be your best bet Tex, especially when engaging in intercourse. I think you already know this but need to practice it.

[Teak]

At no time were you at risk for HIV. You should look into having oral std checkups annually as long as you are sexually active and not in a committed relationship.  

[HSci34]

First, you should calm down a bit. Your encounters are low risk.

HIV transmission by oral sex is a very rare event. That is not to say that it cannot happen, but that it's not a common occurence. Factors that may increase chances include ejaculation in mouth, having open cuts, or having sores. The evidence shows, however, that it is a very rare event - so I hope this helps to reassure you.

I agree with chapeau. STD battery should probably be in order. STDs like Chlamydia or Gnorrhea can be transmitted via oral sex, and are much more common.

You need to trust your doctor, they are experts, after all. Tell your doctor about your STD and HIV concerns, and they can order a test for you.

[troggs]

As you mentioned hiv risk was low, but i'd suggest getting an std battery.