Got tested for HIV, new anxiety

[devkop]

I am male, 25 from Sydney, homosexual and only had 3 partners who i have only done mutual masturbation and deep kissing together.
I never have given oral sex or never have had anal (receptive and top). I have only had 5 encounters in total in my whole life.

I had 2 encounters on separate occasions with this guy who i think is on HIV medications, because i realised later that he had some signs of lipodystrophy. He didnt say to me he was HIV positive.

We only did deep kissing and mutual masturbation,I touched his ass hole a couple of times with my finger and sucked his nipple.I couldnt see any blood or taste blood.

He came on my hand on both occasions. I dont think i had any obvious cuts or open wounds. Also as soon as he came i washed my hand with hot water and soap. What is the risk that i will catch HIV.

I was very paranoid on both occasions so i was making sure that his penis does not touch my penis. Also he was only touching me,he gave me oral sex for about 2-3 minutes but i never ejaculated in both instances. I never have given oral sex or never have had anal (receptive and top).

My last encounter was in May.I went and got myself tested for HIV, Hep B and Hep C in Dec. The results came out negative but i had tested positive for Hep B antibodies, that raised a question so when i went back to the doctor, the Lab admitted that they had checked the serum of the wrong person, name similar to mine.

The Doctor raised this issue with the Director of the pathology, they re-did the tests and everything came back negative. I have spoken to the Lab technician 2 times and he re-assured me that he checked the name on the serum this time and this result was accurate and i dont have to worry. Although they assured me, i still keep thinking that this result is wrong.

I think the activities i was involved in were low risk, but i have been worrying too much about this for the last 2 weeks and i think that i am going to have a nervous breakdown. My problem i think is that i searched the internet too much and i have got too much information which is probably causing anxiety.

I just want to ask since i am not sexually active anymore and that the test results are  negative, do i need to worry about it and have another test? I hope i dont get a nervous breakdown, as it is affecting my work and normal day to day routines and  i cant get good sleep at night.

Thanks for listening to  me, i feel so much better now. Awaiting your response

Dev

[snippets69]

Maybe doesn't mean much as I myself am scared witless at this point (MSM condom broke and had cut on my penis), but you have 0 to worry about.  At 4 weeks an antibody test is 95% accurate...In my opinion your contact was low risk which combined with the negative results woud put you at about 1 in 2 MILLION.  

Seeing as how you had the test 6 months later (6 WEEKS is 99% accurate) ...you are home free.  If you want to hear it from the Dr. Himself... check out this thread (about half way down are the Dr's stats)

http://www.medhelp.org/forums/HIV/messages/558.html

[devkop]

sparkeler, any thoughts on this? You seem to be so convincing, are you a doc by any chance?

[JohnnyV]

Devkop,

Relax, you are totally fine. I'm more worried about the possibility that you'll go crazy not having any sex.

If you live in a bubble because you're so scared of HIV, you may end up cracking at some point and going hog wild, losing your virginity in a bathhouse on crystal meth, heels to Jesus, with not a condom in sight. Sometimes it's better for us mentally and emotionally to introduce ourselves to sex bit by bit, without the fear hanging over us.

Why not start out by trying oral with a guy after a date or two? Oral is fairly safe. If you ask him his status and he says "I'm negative" then you're in okay shape to drop to your knees and experience a little bit of heaven! :)

J

[perjaka]

I agree with JohnnyV. No sense getting worked up like I did. Rather than live in fear of HIV I simply chose to find a monogomous partner and enjoy my time after 3 months and both of us comitted and testing clean. I've had 3 HIV scares in my lifetime and don't enjoy them at all which prompted me to avoid risky behavior. People make mistake and sometimes things happen that are out of our control. Take life by the horns. If I was to catch HIV, I'd rather catch it by means out of my control than out of a few minutes of pleasure seeking by unsafe means. Either way, I live in San Francisco and in my life have never met so many people living productive lives with the virus. However, it does take quite a lifestyle change and some people here call it the "gift". I thought before that this was a crude term but they taught me that the "gift" means it changed there lives for the better and to consider it a precious thing and left their distructive ways behind them in a quest for personal enlightenment. A lot of them became councilors teaching safe sex and conducting tests at clinics.

[OralMistake]

Hey man, you have got to relax about this. You had NO risk. HIV is never transmitted via hand to genitals contact neither by kissing (unless perhaps if you had punched your partner in the mouth and he was bleeding profusely!) As far as lipodistophy is concerned, it is hard for medical practitioners to diagnose it; so if I were you I wouldn't go there.

Chill, you'll be just fine.

[devkop]

Thanks a lot everyone, i went for another test today, hopefully i will have the results by Friday.

[devkop]

Got my results as negative at 24 weeks for HIV, Hep B and C