After all this, am I still infected?

[blueduy]

I am a 23 y/o gay male. On January 16 of 2010, I had protected anal sex with a man whose status is unknown.   I got no symptoms or anything then.  But I am well aware that that means nothing, so I was extremely anxious and took a rapid test at exactly six weeks.  That test came out negative.  So I was extremely happy and never took another test as I read somewhere that a test at six weeks is over 90% accurate.  So later that year I got in a relationship.  A month after we became sexually active my boyfriend became terribly ill.  Night sweat, high fever, sore throat.  earlier that year he had been in a relationship of 5 years.  His boyfriend was HIV+ for over ten years but my boyfriend was aware of this and always took precaution.   Anyway, my boyfriend took an elisa test which came back negative but he continued not feeling well so i made him take an hiv test that deosnt look for the antibodies, but for the virus itself (i'm sorry I do not recall the name of the test), which came back negative.  

My question is... is it possible that I was hiv+ from that first encounter and i didn't wait long enough?  I am terribly concerned now because I rarely get sick.  And I've gotten sick TWICE this month.  I always get itchy nose, eyes, soft palate hurts, so does my throat,  post nasal drip, cough, etc.  the funny thing is that I don't actually feel weak, or that heavy feeling u get when u get a cold...  people tell me it might be allergies... but as long as i know im not allergic to anything!  please help?

[blueduy]

I just got tested.  Since this incident happened 2+ years ago, my result is conclusive.  

I'm negative!!!! Thanks everyone for all the responses :)

[Vance2335]

What is going on here?

blueduy  
13 hours ..It's just been confirmed.  That guy I had sex with is HIV +.    I asked him together tested and he has HIV.   My life is over.  I haven't gotten teste but when we had sex and the condom slipped and  there was blood as it was my first time getting anal.  My life is over.  

You have been told before about testing.

[nursegirl6572]

Reread my last post.  You already told us your partner was +, yesterday.

Go get tested.

[blueduy]

I have some
Bad news.  So I was finally able to contact the person who i had sex with and he told me he's HIV +.    What are the chances of
Me havin it?  I know this gapped. A bit over two wars ago but I'm still very scared.  I could go get tested right now... But I am a mess.   I can't even get myself to do it.  I'm so scared

[nursegirl6572]

From what you explained, it sounds like your partner lost the condom upon withdrawal, which, like Teak already told you...wouldn't be a risk.  If the condom had come off any other time, it would be more likely that the condom would have ended up INSIDE you.

Even IF your sex with the newly positive partner was not completely protected, it still doesn't mean you contracted HIV.  There is a better chance that you didn't.  You didn't describe anything remotely consistent with HIV symptoms.

The only way to know is to test.  We've told you the testing guidelines.  A result at 3 months after exposure will be conclusive.  A negative at 8 weeks+ post exposure is almost surely not going to change.

While the news that your partner is infected is certainly upsetting, it isn't a reason to panic just yet.  Go get tested, it's the only option here,  good luck!

[blueduy]

It's just been confirmed.  That guy I had sex with is HIV +.    I asked him together tested and he has HIV.   My life is over.  I haven't gotten teste but when we had sex and the condom slipped and  there was blood as it was my first time getting anal.  My life is over.  

[RainLover71]

You have to test,it's the only way.I know you're scared but think of the total relief when you get a negative result.Take the test.

[blueduy]

I am suffering from great anxiety.   I can't concentrate and I have horrible nightmares... I know I need to go get tested.   But I just can't being myself to do it.  I'm terribly scared.  I don't know what I would do if they tell me I am infected.  I'd lose my mind.  

[Mommy2one2007]

Your boyfriends test has nothing to do with you status. Only why to know if YOU have HIV is for you to be tested. You csn obtain a conclusive result three months post exposure.

[blueduy]

Let's suppose  i did contract hiv, would my boyfriend show as infected during his test?  He tested a month after we became sexually active.  And he did that test that looks for the actual virus as opposed to the antivirus.  Does that test have the same window period as the standard tests?



  what's the truth regarding the six weeks mark?  Conclusive? encouraging? Not conclusive?  

And, would my

[Teak]

More than likely he lost it on withdraw which isn't a risk Had he losted in when having sex he would have shoved the condom up you.

[blueduy]

When we began having sex it was on his penis.  then we switched positions and he penetrated me about four times then i puled away and when i did this i noticed the condom wasn't on him anymore and i looked to the floor and there it was.  so I'm thinking that when we switched positions the condom somehow slipped.  

[Teak]

Slipped? Either it was on his penis or it wasn't.

[blueduy]

oh, im sorry.   i forgot to mention the condom slipped and i was penetrated two or three times without it.

[Teak]

You had protected sex and didn't have an exposure.

[blueduy]

crap I should have mentioned that my concern comes from the fact that the condom slipped and he did penetrate me a couple times before i noticed.