You didn't read all of the thread. No VERIFIED cases. Here's an actual study of serodiscordant partners, with no cases of transmission: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12045500
If you want to be scared about this and keep searching the internet and our site to see if you can find evidence that you got HIV, that is your choice, but we aren't going to support your anxiety.
I have no comment on the penis-to-anus incident as that was answered extensively before. If you are concerned about it, just test.