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Scared I contracted HIV

Hello,

I am scared that I contracted HIV. I met this girl at the club, went back to my place and had sex. We had protected vaginal sex. I however did go down on her with a cut on my lips. I am not sure if the cut was scabbed over and I had a cold sore on the bottom of my lip at my gum line. She also went down on me and sucked my scrotum. My scrotum had a scratch on and i am not sure if it had a scab either. I am really scared because I don't know if she is HIV positive. ANy help or information is appreciated. Thank you.
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I got my results 1.5 weeks ago on the HIV Viral Load. My doctor said it was negative (after reading the different websites, my test says <20 cop/ml) the doctor told me to test again in 6 months. Thank you!
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You didn't have a risk and didn't need testing.
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I took an Elisa test and it came back negative. I am waiting for the viral load test. I am nervous on this one. What are the chances the negative on the elisa can turn positive on the viral load?
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Hello,

The girl just got back to me and said that she is negative however, here are the issues that I am still nervous about:

She had unprotected sex in February and got tested immediately turned out negative.
She went for the test last week and came out negative, however I thought it has to be three months for an accurate test, which for her will be May.
She also told me that when I went down on her she started her period later that day, I don't remember seeing blood on the condom or tasting blood. If my cut on my lip or canker sore in my mouth weren't scabbed over can I get infected if she is HIV +?
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You had no risk because saliva contains protiens and enzymes that render the hiv virus inactive and thus unable to infect.You don't need to be scared anymore,you are safe.Hiv does not have the ability to reproduce outside it,s host-this answers your question about vaginal secretions.
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I am not sure what the status of my cuts were. Every morning when I wake up my lip is bleeding cause I bite it in the same spot while I sleep and I scratch my scrotum because I am hairy down there. That's what makes me nervous is that I don't remember what status my cuts were in either open or closed. I apologize for being a pain in the a**, I am just scared.
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Unless the cut on your lip was a huge gash or freshly opened. No Risk. Same goes for thes sore on you scrotum. When a cut stops bleeding it makes a small barrior that protects anything from entering. You had no risk. Always use condoms and stay safe.
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Not to sound redundant, but what about my open cuts on my lips, sore and my scrotum? I am hard headed and also very scared please forgive me
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No incident HIV infections among MSM who practice exclusively oral sex.
Int Conf AIDS 2004 Jul 11-16; 15:(abstract no. WePpC2072)??Balls JE, Evans JL, Dilley J, Osmond D, Shiboski S, Shiboski C, Klausner J, McFarland W, Greenspan D, Page-Shafer K?University of California, San Francisco, San Francisco, United States

Oral transmission of HIV, reality or fiction? An update
J Campo1, MA Perea1, J del Romero2, J Cano1, V Hernando2, A Bascones1
Oral Diseases (2006) 12, 219–228

AIDS: Volume 16(17) 22 November 2002 pp 2350-2352
Risk of HIV infection attributable to oral sex among men who have sex with men and in the population of men who have sex with men

Page-Shafer, Kimberlya,b; Shiboski, Caroline Hb; Osmond, Dennis Hc; Dilley, Jamesd; McFarland, Willie; Shiboski, Steve Cc; Klausner, Jeffrey De; Balls, Joycea; Greenspan, Deborahb; Greenspan
Page-Shafer K, Veugelers PJ, Moss AR, Strathdee S, Kaldor JM, van Griensven GJ. Sexual risk behavior and risk factors for HIV-1 seroconversion in homosexual men participating in the Tricontinental Seroconverter Study, 1982-1994 [published erratum appears in Am J Epidemiol 1997 15 Dec; 146(12):1076]. Am J Epidemiol 1997, 146:531-542.

Studies which show the fallacy of relying on anecdotal evidence as opposed to carefully controlled study insofar as HIV transmission risk is concerned:

Jenicek M. "Clinical Case Reporting" in Evidence-Based Medicine. Oxford: Butterworth–Heinemann; 1999:117
Saltzman SP, Stoddard AM, McCusker J, Moon MW, Mayer KH. Reliability of self-reported sexual behavior risk factors for HIV infection in homosexual men. Public Health Rep. 1987 102(6):692–697.Nov–Dec;

Catania JA, Gibson DR, Chitwood DD, Coates TJ. Methodological problems in AIDS behavioral research: influences on measurement error and participation bias in studies of sexual behavior. Psychol Bull. 1990 Nov;108(3):339–362.

There is no debate (among experts) about the HIV risks associated with oral sex. The risk is so low that almost nobody who cares for HIV infected patients has ever had a patient believed to have been infected that way. Among experts, it's a semantic issue about using terms like "no risk" and "very low risk". There is no difference between my or Dr. Hook's use of "low risk" and other experts' "no risk".
DR. HANSFIELD

"And oral sex is basically safe sex -- completely safe with respect to HIV and although not zero risk for other STDs, the chance of infection is far lower than for unprotected vaginal or anal sex. Please educate yourself about the real risks. If you stick with oral sex and condom-protected vaginal or anal sex, you have no HIV worries and very little worry about other STDs. " DR HANSFIELD

"I am sure you can find lots of people who belive that HIV is transmitted by oral sex, but you will not find scientific data to support this unrealistic concern..." DR HOOK

"HIV is not spread by touching, masturbation, oral sex or condom protected sex."- DR. HOOK

in the public HIV Prevention forum of MedHelp, TEAK and the other moderators maintain that oral sex in all forms is a zero risk activity. Would you agree with this assessment?
I TOTALLY AGREE / DR GARCIA

"The observation on thousands and thousands of observations is that HIV is not spread by oral sex (of any sort)." DR HOOK
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but if you read what is said all over the internet, it say's vaginal secretions has the hiv virus
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You never had an exposure. HIV is not transmitted by oral sex.
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