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Really concerned! please answer
Dear Dr. Hunter
Can you please reply about this posting. I read the internet site each day hoping mine will come up. I really really really need your advice on this one, please I am really worried about this, I don't sleep much now at all.
I am a male and have had a steady partner for the last two years. We have been together and prior to that I have had only one or two sexual relationships (both protected). This girl and I have been faithful, commited and are going to be engaged soon. She has had general blood tests but never for HIV as she has always had protected sex and vice versa. She was diagnosed with blood sugar issues and has had regular screening blood tests.
Not so long ago we began to have sex together (10-12 unprotected exposures) and sex is not at all a regular thing. It's usually once a month or so. We have both had all protected sex with any partners previously and have not had a very sexual active lifestyle. Also we don't do drugs, share needles or have engaged in unprotected sex or multiple partners previously.
Around June when we last had sex, exactly 6-7 days later I developed what I thought was a flu - body aches, fevers and chills (1 night of night sweats), diaorrea (only once), dizziness, lighteadedness, a little nausea, and headache, no rashes, no weight loss The flu fever and all which lasted three days or so. This was followed by a a little sore throat for a few days and swollen glands. Everything cleared up except for the headaches which have progressed. I saw my local GP who gave me antibiotics for it which he said is extremely common this time of year in Australia and not to worry. Everywhere I look people are were and some are still sick. This all subsided with antibiotics except for the headache which is still constant and there and feels like a stuffty pressure/tension headache, and tingling in my feet. I have become extremely stressed about all this and recently felt an itchy throat with postnasal drip and a cough that comes and goes. Also I feel just generally lazy with a lack of energy and twitches and pains. I am very concerned that this is ARS in hiv and I am worried sick about my condition that I have even felt like killing myself. Can you answer
1. Is this an extremely high risk exposure?
2. I am very scared and concerned what to do?
3. I need your help and advise! please!
4. Can this be more anxiety than actual HIV risk?
My GP did not seem surprised or concerned about HIV. Rather he has said for your piece of mind we can get a test done for you to calm your anxiety.
Whats worse was during this time I may have exposed myself to the virus from a massage with colleagues from work. I had no idea it was a sensual massage and was not expecting it to extend, where the masseur performed unprotected oral for 20secs. I had no idea and when she began I moved her off and left. There was no penetrative sex and I defintely did not ejaculate from it. I have told my girlfriend and she knows this happened. She is very hurt not at the massage so much, but for me thinking that she could have HIV. she was very hurt and felt I always act like a hypochondriac (which is very true), I also thought these headaches were from a brain tumour.
My doc thinks it may be a concern and I just did a blood test 6 weeks after my the last time my girlfriend and am waiting for my results next week.I am very scared. He said alot of people have these symptoms from other viral illnesses. All of this has been in the last 4 weeks now. I don't have any assistance, or advice and I am seriously worried sick. I really NEED YOUR HELP! Please!!! my doc wants me to do 6 month tests!
Regards and thank you from the bottom of my hear for your support
Dan
Can you please reply about this posting. I read the internet site each day hoping mine will come up. I really really really need your advice on this one, please I am really worried about this, I don't sleep much now at all.
I am a male and have had a steady partner for the last two years. We have been together and prior to that I have had only one or two sexual relationships (both protected). This girl and I have been faithful, commited and are going to be engaged soon. She has had general blood tests but never for HIV as she has always had protected sex and vice versa. She was diagnosed with blood sugar issues and has had regular screening blood tests.
Not so long ago we began to have sex together (10-12 unprotected exposures) and sex is not at all a regular thing. It's usually once a month or so. We have both had all protected sex with any partners previously and have not had a very sexual active lifestyle. Also we don't do drugs, share needles or have engaged in unprotected sex or multiple partners previously.
Around June when we last had sex, exactly 6-7 days later I developed what I thought was a flu - body aches, fevers and chills (1 night of night sweats), diaorrea (only once), dizziness, lighteadedness, a little nausea, and headache, no rashes, no weight loss The flu fever and all which lasted three days or so. This was followed by a a little sore throat for a few days and swollen glands. Everything cleared up except for the headaches which have progressed. I saw my local GP who gave me antibiotics for it which he said is extremely common this time of year in Australia and not to worry. Everywhere I look people are were and some are still sick. This all subsided with antibiotics except for the headache which is still constant and there and feels like a stuffty pressure/tension headache, and tingling in my feet. I have become extremely stressed about all this and recently felt an itchy throat with postnasal drip and a cough that comes and goes. Also I feel just generally lazy with a lack of energy and twitches and pains. I am very concerned that this is ARS in hiv and I am worried sick about my condition that I have even felt like killing myself. Can you answer
1. Is this an extremely high risk exposure?
2. I am very scared and concerned what to do?
3. I need your help and advise! please!
4. Can this be more anxiety than actual HIV risk?
My GP did not seem surprised or concerned about HIV. Rather he has said for your piece of mind we can get a test done for you to calm your anxiety.
Whats worse was during this time I may have exposed myself to the virus from a massage with colleagues from work. I had no idea it was a sensual massage and was not expecting it to extend, where the masseur performed unprotected oral for 20secs. I had no idea and when she began I moved her off and left. There was no penetrative sex and I defintely did not ejaculate from it. I have told my girlfriend and she knows this happened. She is very hurt not at the massage so much, but for me thinking that she could have HIV. she was very hurt and felt I always act like a hypochondriac (which is very true), I also thought these headaches were from a brain tumour.
My doc thinks it may be a concern and I just did a blood test 6 weeks after my the last time my girlfriend and am waiting for my results next week.I am very scared. He said alot of people have these symptoms from other viral illnesses. All of this has been in the last 4 weeks now. I don't have any assistance, or advice and I am seriously worried sick. I really NEED YOUR HELP! Please!!! my doc wants me to do 6 month tests!
Regards and thank you from the bottom of my hear for your support
Dan
Big will definately want to stay with her is she looks anything like HIlary Swank in that movie where she played a boy...lol
You guys really know what its like....I am in a great job (well at least I like to think) I am working for an Investment Bank and I literally come in, sit down now and have done nothing for the last month. Have you guys felt the same? because you were in the worry like me?
well, i cant pay for anything until I get a new job.
I have had a few interviews but I am not there, my eyes are vacant and I dont answer the questions right because I keep thinking I have HIV.
I have had a few interviews but I am not there, my eyes are vacant and I dont answer the questions right because I keep thinking I have HIV.
Yes. But I don't think it is going to happen. She is very mean. I realized that is why I strayed in the first place. A man needs to feel respected. She only wanted me for my body. LOL.
The next county does not offer rapid tests. I am screwed.
Even if I get a job soon I wont get a home access test. If I have to be told I have HIV I want to be there with someone, so when I pass out they can call 911.
Even if I get a job soon I wont get a home access test. If I have to be told I have HIV I want to be there with someone, so when I pass out they can call 911.
I thought I would try posting to myself too. Just kidding. I know how you feel blue, I almost lost a job I worked very hard to get because of this. I didn't do a thing for 2 months at work.
Have you considered Home Access? i got banned from my local clinic too as far as rapid tests go. I just drove over to the next county.
It would feel good to know a woman can pay for a couple of meals, instead of me reaching for my wallet all the time.
The only contact I have right now is my cat.
Even if I wanted human contact there is nobody.
I live in this city alone. My friends and family live an hour away.
I am so depressed.
Even if I wanted human contact there is nobody.
I live in this city alone. My friends and family live an hour away.
I am so depressed.
I have to be independent, who else will take care of me? Obviously that jerk didnt care or else he wouldnt have taken off the condoms.
I feel like drinking. But alchohol is how I got into this mess in the first place. I have not had a drink since my HIV scare. I dont plan on EVER drinking again. Alcohol is the devil. It should be banned.
I feel like drinking. But alchohol is how I got into this mess in the first place. I have not had a drink since my HIV scare. I dont plan on EVER drinking again. Alcohol is the devil. It should be banned.
There is one other place I can get a rapid test for free, but its a Gay Man Clinic that ONLY caters to gay men, I called, explained my situation and they told me I cant be tested there.
I am thinking of just going in disguise as a gay man or transexual. Hopefully it would work and they would rapid test me.
I am thinking of just going in disguise as a gay man or transexual. Hopefully it would work and they would rapid test me.
Thanks for the reply. My apologies for making everyone feel like they have read the worst post in the world. I really feel bad about all this right now and am scared that my doc keeps making me feel "uncertain". That is all.
It was meant to go in the Doctor forum but wound up here. Sorry about it but I haven't slept at all since I did my tests....Sorry everyone.
Bye
It was meant to go in the Doctor forum but wound up here. Sorry about it but I haven't slept at all since I did my tests....Sorry everyone.
Bye
Yep, I went back for my six week test and they told me it was pointless and that I can't waste tax payers money like that. They said I could do the ELISA if I wanted to, but I would trip having to wait 2 weeks for a result.
I am unemployed. I cant spend money, I need it for bills. I have a mortgage to pay, car payments etc.
9 day negative
10 day negative
3 week negative
Then they banned me from Public Health, told me the next time they give me a rapid test will be at my 12 week mark in September.
I am showing up Sept 1, a week early. They better give me one or I will raise HE**
10 day negative
3 week negative
Then they banned me from Public Health, told me the next time they give me a rapid test will be at my 12 week mark in September.
I am showing up Sept 1, a week early. They better give me one or I will raise HE**
This is not the forum to post questions to Dr HHH, this is the patient-to-patient forum.
You don't have HIV
You wont get HIV from receiving oral sex.
Your test result will be negative.
If your girlfriend has only had protected sex, the only way she could have HIV is if she was sharing needles and you stated she doesnt do that, so she doesnt have it.
You don't have HIV
You wont get HIV from receiving oral sex.
Your test result will be negative.
If your girlfriend has only had protected sex, the only way she could have HIV is if she was sharing needles and you stated she doesnt do that, so she doesnt have it.
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