Help me please HIV chances

[whatitiz22]

I let a girl preform oral sex on me their was no bleeding that I am aware of or no cuts we also kissed and I am not aware of her sexual status. I worked out monday but my keft arm is unusually sore and I had a bumb grow on my shoulder that went away quickly. I feel ok other than that but me and my girlfriend who does not have hiv had sex 2 days ago . I beleive it was just salavia from the girl who did this to me I did not give her oral sex though is it worth getting tested is their a chance and I don't feel any knots on my body just my left arm is really sore plz help!

[whatitiz22]

so what would be the best thing to do, because I thought just one little drip of blood, although I saw none, you can get infected. It only lasted about 45 sec to a minute tops. It was a co-worker and I did not do any thing to her. If my chances are higher than 20-30% then I think I should get tested. Can some one help me out. @ doctors said I shouldn't and I answered  and told them what happened to the best of my ability.

[monkeyflower]

The risk of contracting HIV from receiving a blowjob is about 1 in 20,000... and that's really only theoretical, since it's never been a proven path of transmission. She would literally have to be gushing blood from her mouth and from every pore for this to be any kind of measurable risk to you. You are fine. Relax.

[RockRose]

Compared to what,  Monkeyflower?

Compared to all sexual encounters worldwide?  

Where do you get the 1/20,000?

Does it include marital sexual encounters from people who have been married for like,  20 years?

Look hard at statistics before  you dismiss risk.

[seUK]

RELAX.  In the past 25 odd years in which HIV has been extensively studied, not one case of HIV has occured through receiving unprotected oral sex.  And I am 100% certain that others on this site will back me up when I say that testing is not required, and to carry on enjoying your life with your girlfriend.
i have been through exactly the same situation.  searching the internet will only add to your anxieties because of the amount of information out there.  go through the archives here and you will realise that you are worrying over nothing.  thats what i did.

[RockRose]

seUK,  that's not true.

[whatitiz22]

What do U mean Rock22

[RockRose]

I mean there are documented cases of HIV transmission through oral sex, although it's minimal.    If you are healthy and are not immuno-compromised,  you're probably okay.  

If you had oral sex with a prostitute,  the chances are a little greater than if you had oral sex with like,  a co-worker,    but still minimal,  but in fact there are many documented cases of HIV transmission through oral sex.  

It's not impossible.  In Africa,  it's about 4 per 1000 oral sex encounters.   And Africa is probably higher than the US.

[Teak]

Rock that is incorrect. If you would have read the reports you would see that there was no way to prove that the person got infected by oral sex alone. Studies on sero couples shows that with the use of condoms with anal and vagianl and non-protected oral results in NO infection.

[whatitiz22]

Well RockRose what is the risk, do you think it is best to get tested

[Xhost]

Let's put this all into perspective. First, even if you do believe that documented cases of having contracted HIV from oral sex do exist, how many might there be? I am curious about the answer that I will get to this question because I do not believe that there are "many". In fact, if any do exist, they are a handful. Think about that in terms of how long HIV has been around. It would still seem to me that the risk is so minute as to be not worth concerning oneself about. If you are still concerned, you might also start being concerned about dying from ice falling from a plane, being struck by a meteor, etc. The key here is perspective, and putting the "risks" into perspective.

In the studies that I have read, and I have read them, that focus on sero-discordant couples (one is HIV +, the other is HIV -) that use protection for anal and vaginal intercourse, but not for oral sex, not one HIV - study participant has turned up HIV positive. Not one.

What that tells me is that oral sex is a rather safe activity to engage in. It doesn't mean that I run around giving oral sex to everyone I meet on the street. It also doesn't mean that I live my life with sexual abandon. I take the appropriate precautions when needed. What it does mean is that I don't get overly afraid of HIV if I happen to perform oral sex on someone, or have it perfomed on me, unprotected. Why? Because I understand the risks. I have learned perspective.

In the end, we all will do what we feel comfortable doing. But, when someone comes to this forum with a story such as yours, I will always tell them the same thing: your risk was so low as to be barely measurable. Thus, there is no need to be anxious about it, or to worry yourself needlessly. If you cannot get past your anxiety, sure, go ahead and take a test at 6 weeks, get your negative result, and then move on with your life.

Take care of yourself,

xhost

[seUK]

i am not disputing that there have been documented cases of transmission through oral sex but check the details carefully.  All of these have occured through PERFORMING oral sex on an HIV+ person, NOT receiving.  The risk is to the person performing.  There are no documented cases of a person aquiring HIV from Receiving oral sex (insertive oral sex)

[juststupid]

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"It's not impossible. In Africa, it's about 4 per 1000 oral sex encounters. And Africa is probably higher than the US"

you have probably read my situation...blow job in africa a few days back. Reading through this thread I spotted the above quote and it doesnt really put me at ease. It was stated that I have virtually no probablity of HIV...now with te above...I'm kinda worried again. Whats true really???

[monkeyflower]

Listen. You have to consider that this is just a public forum. Anyone can post literally anything on here. Be careful what you believe. And you know, even if the 4 in 1000 figure is correct (where did that statistic come from?) it's only .4%. What about that is scary?

My 1 in 20,000 statistic comes directly from the CDC--and that's a purely theoretical risk, because there has *never* been any proven HIV transmission via receiving oral.

[phazed]

HI,

I know this has been asked a million times but please help.

I received unprotected oral sex from a prostitute 3 months back. There was no visible cuts or blood. Can i assume it is 100% that i am not infected with HIV or should i test. Going for a test makes me dam nervous.

Please help it has been FREAKING me out lately...

[Teak]

You were never at risk.

[phazed]

teak is that reply for me.......??

[Teak]

Yes

[phazed]

thanks :D