You are safe from HIV so should stop dying inside with worry and are so safe that you don't even need to test.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from fingering or any sexual activity outside the vagina or anus. It doesn't matter if you and they were bleeding or wet with her fluids at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.
Only adult risks are unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal sex or sharing needles that you inject with but you didn't do that so you had no risk.
Even with blood, lactation cuts, rashes, burns etc air does not allow inactivated virus to infect from fingering or any sexual activity outside the vagina or anus. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so nothing you can add will make it a risk.
As our member has stated, fingering is not a risk for transmitting HIV. We are now closing this discussion as HIV is not a consideration.
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