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What are my odds of having/passing it?
I recently (one month ago and two weeks ago) received anal sex from a male who just found out he has HIV. I'm really nervous and and scared as hell.
- He didn't ejaculate inside me
- The sex wasn't very long either time (5 min)
- no condom (I'm an idiot)
I also had unprotected sex with a female in this time frame. What are my odds for having HIV, and is it possible that I've given it to her?
Please help.
- He didn't ejaculate inside me
- The sex wasn't very long either time (5 min)
- no condom (I'm an idiot)
I also had unprotected sex with a female in this time frame. What are my odds for having HIV, and is it possible that I've given it to her?
Please help.
i realize I've been lax in updating this. That's the problem with these boards: Once you're negative you feel relieved and want to move on, and if you're positive you have better things to do than get people scared online.
Anyway, I'm negative. I tested at 4 and 6.5 weeks initially, and was confident after talking to doctors that this was long enough. Then, just to be sure, I tested again after a few months to get it out of my mind forever.
I'm 100% sure I'm fine now, but it's still in my mind when I have sex. As a result, the emotional scarring of this incident has affected my sex drive in profound ways. Basically, I'm scared of sex, even in completely safe situations, and this is my fault for not being safe.
Be careful out there.
For the record, and to all of the nutcases here, my situation was a valid one. Rubbing up against a stripper or getting/giving head isn't going to give you HIV. Ever.
Anyway, I'm negative. I tested at 4 and 6.5 weeks initially, and was confident after talking to doctors that this was long enough. Then, just to be sure, I tested again after a few months to get it out of my mind forever.
I'm 100% sure I'm fine now, but it's still in my mind when I have sex. As a result, the emotional scarring of this incident has affected my sex drive in profound ways. Basically, I'm scared of sex, even in completely safe situations, and this is my fault for not being safe.
Be careful out there.
For the record, and to all of the nutcases here, my situation was a valid one. Rubbing up against a stripper or getting/giving head isn't going to give you HIV. Ever.
"1) First of you should not say "can't believe gold you didn't wear a condom" Most porn stars dont wear condoms and never recieve any std's. "
porn stars are tested on a regular basis. that is the most stupid comment ever posted on here! What he did was irresponsible and he is going through all of the precautions, that a responsible person should take.
porn stars are tested on a regular basis. that is the most stupid comment ever posted on here! What he did was irresponsible and he is going through all of the precautions, that a responsible person should take.
who gives a rat's @ss whether or not someone "sees" the test results. if someone even "thinks" they may have been exposed to hiv...if someone has unprotected sex...they should be tested. PERIOD!
I see that I actually mis-wrote my OP. I don't know yet that the guy has HIV (should know today or tomorrow) but it seems pretty likely since his ex bf of one year does. All the same, I'd prefer to assume he has HIV under these circumstances.
This is highly encouraging, by the 4 week mark ~90% of people will have tested positive. Hang in there. Your 6 week result will give you a better indication of your status.
I'm not gonna go into it, but I also know his ex who has since moved. These are friends of mine, and I know they aren't lying.
Just got back from my test, though it was free and will take a week. Since it's only been 4 weeks and a week and a half for each exposure, I'm not going to feel much better with a negative at this stage anyway and will get tested every 2 weeks.
I know the odds are in my favor. The odds may be low, but higher than zero sucks. The guy I was with will get his results today or tomorrow, and since he's my only exposure (I hadn't had sex with a guy for over 4 years) I can feel much better if he's negative. I'll still continue testing of course just to satisfy myself.
Just got back from my test, though it was free and will take a week. Since it's only been 4 weeks and a week and a half for each exposure, I'm not going to feel much better with a negative at this stage anyway and will get tested every 2 weeks.
I know the odds are in my favor. The odds may be low, but higher than zero sucks. The guy I was with will get his results today or tomorrow, and since he's my only exposure (I hadn't had sex with a guy for over 4 years) I can feel much better if he's negative. I'll still continue testing of course just to satisfy myself.
If the person has come to the original poster with the information that their boyfriend has just tested positive, it is extremely extremely unlikely they are lying. Rather, they are making sure goldsounds was possibly exposed. The only solution is for goldsounds to go and get tested.
Again what evidence do you have to support that this person has HIV? Did you see his test results? What I am saying is that you cant get HIV from someone who doesnt have it even if you had unprotected anal sex multiple times. Here is what you posted "Well, he'll actually get tested tomorrow. His ex boyfriend (whom he was with for a year until....well....a month ago) just tested positive.. And how do you know this is accurate information? How do you know his boyfriend tested positive? I am not saying it's not possible but your originally post was this, I recently (one month ago and two weeks ago) received anal sex from a male who just found out he has HIV. Now your saying its not him that tested positive but his boyfriend. So this sounds a hundred times better already. Alot of my friends are very good looking men have sex with multiple women most of the time with no condoms except when a women requests it. So what I am saying is all my friends are healthier than a horse. A 1 time exposure will most likely not give you HIV. The odds are clearly in your favor however I am just saying never take a persons word on face value. If this guy is talking to you on the phone thats mean you have "open communication with him' therefore when his tests results come back in meet him at "starbucks etc" and visible look at the results. If I told you that I won the lottery would you believe me or would you want to see a copy of the winning lottery ticket? Today people cannot be trusted end of discussion.
You should not wait for the other person to test. This is your health, and you need to be CERTAIN of everything. Do not base your health status based on what the other person says.
First, receptive anal intercourse is considered high risk for contraction of the virus. There is a chance you are not infected, however, because the virus does not always transmit every single time. Sometimes it does, but sometimes it does not. The fact that he did not ejaculate lowers this risk, however, HIV is found in pre-ejaculate and is potentially infectious. A test now will give you a very strong indication of what your status is. At this point in time >95% of people who are going to test positive will have, so you can get a very strong indication of what your status is. Since you had a high risk encounter, you need to follow this up with a 12 week test. It is highly unlikely for your status to change.
Second, you need to get tested in order to inform the woman you had sex with whether or not she was exposed to the virus.
Try to stay calm. Honestly, the best thing for you to do is to go and get a point of care test. These tests can give you results in 10-20 minutes and are just as good as the traditional blood test.
Good luck, but go and get tested. Go tomorrow if you can. At least you will get some peace of mind.
First, receptive anal intercourse is considered high risk for contraction of the virus. There is a chance you are not infected, however, because the virus does not always transmit every single time. Sometimes it does, but sometimes it does not. The fact that he did not ejaculate lowers this risk, however, HIV is found in pre-ejaculate and is potentially infectious. A test now will give you a very strong indication of what your status is. At this point in time >95% of people who are going to test positive will have, so you can get a very strong indication of what your status is. Since you had a high risk encounter, you need to follow this up with a 12 week test. It is highly unlikely for your status to change.
Second, you need to get tested in order to inform the woman you had sex with whether or not she was exposed to the virus.
Try to stay calm. Honestly, the best thing for you to do is to go and get a point of care test. These tests can give you results in 10-20 minutes and are just as good as the traditional blood test.
Good luck, but go and get tested. Go tomorrow if you can. At least you will get some peace of mind.
Sorry, that previous message was supposed to be for you.
No symptoms by the way, but I think that the stress will manifest itself in that way anyhow. Now I'm sweating because I'm nervous!
No symptoms by the way, but I think that the stress will manifest itself in that way anyhow. Now I'm sweating because I'm nervous!
Well, he'll actually get tested tomorrow. His ex boyfriend (whom he was with for a year until....well....a month ago) just tested positive. The odds that the guy I was with has it are pretty good in my book, but you never know. Right now I'm waiting for his results to see whether I should be worried, but I'm really worried anyway and can't sleep. He just told me last night about an hour before I first posted. Sexually, what we did wasn't too long or intense, but since I was the bottom I'm kind of freaking out. He was usually the bottom for his ex, so if he doesn't have it he really beat the odds. So, my life kinda sucks right now.
Forget about symptoms, you are asking other people to tell you their symptoms so then you can compare them with yours, the Dr. already told you that symptoms are useless, so dont search for more symptoms, or ask people that had a high risk exposure about them, you are incresing your already out of proportion fear, just get tested again at the 6 week and then at 12 week, and forget about symptoms.
I cannot believe that you had sex with the woman without a condom. Wear condom and get tested. Any symptoms so far?
1) First of you should not say "can't believe gold you didn't wear a condom" Most porn stars dont wear condoms and never recieve any std's.
Now regarding goldsounds.....what evidence "do you have to support your claim that this male partner was diagnosed with "hiv"? I mean did he tell you did you see his test results? Most people who were recently diagnosed with "HIV" would take better measures to use protection.
People play mind games, maybe this guy said he had HIV to see if you have it. People sometimes say they have things to force someone else to test for it so they dont. It's sad but we live in a society today that doesnt seem to play by the rules.
So dont believe what he said until you see "evidence" of his test results.
2) Then even if he was recently just diagnosed with "HIV" doesnt mean you have it. Take precautions if you feel sick simply dont have sex. Test at 12 weeks and I believe your results will be negative.
3) Contact the female "dont freak her out" just tell her that you may have been exposed to std's and you think you both should be tested. Be the man if you have to pay for her tests at planned parent hood and ask the guy to test with you. He might be lying about his positive test result.
4) relax take one step at a time I just reached my 12th week with a negative HIV test. I was paranoid I took (5) HIV tests every week after the 7th week because I wanted to make sure. I had to go to different counties so they didnt know I re-tested. All negative but I was so sick I thought in my mind i was 100 percent positive. I had almost every HIV sympton and it was all negative. So, dont freak out take it slow relax the sun is at the end of the tunnel.
Now regarding goldsounds.....what evidence "do you have to support your claim that this male partner was diagnosed with "hiv"? I mean did he tell you did you see his test results? Most people who were recently diagnosed with "HIV" would take better measures to use protection.
People play mind games, maybe this guy said he had HIV to see if you have it. People sometimes say they have things to force someone else to test for it so they dont. It's sad but we live in a society today that doesnt seem to play by the rules.
So dont believe what he said until you see "evidence" of his test results.
2) Then even if he was recently just diagnosed with "HIV" doesnt mean you have it. Take precautions if you feel sick simply dont have sex. Test at 12 weeks and I believe your results will be negative.
3) Contact the female "dont freak her out" just tell her that you may have been exposed to std's and you think you both should be tested. Be the man if you have to pay for her tests at planned parent hood and ask the guy to test with you. He might be lying about his positive test result.
4) relax take one step at a time I just reached my 12th week with a negative HIV test. I was paranoid I took (5) HIV tests every week after the 7th week because I wanted to make sure. I had to go to different counties so they didnt know I re-tested. All negative but I was so sick I thought in my mind i was 100 percent positive. I had almost every HIV sympton and it was all negative. So, dont freak out take it slow relax the sun is at the end of the tunnel.
Receiving unprotected anal sex is a high risk exposure, the ods of this type of exposure are 50/10000, the ods that you could have given hiv to your female partner are 10/10000 if you where in fact infected, since ther has been a month after the first exposure and 2 weeks since the las exposure, wait at least 4 more weeks to get a test so you can have a test 6week after the exposure that is 95% accurate and then at 3month another test, If I where in your position I would like to contact your female partner about this, since she deserve to know her risk, and she as well as you should start using condoms every time whether you where or not infected.
Good Luck
Good Luck
i can't believe gold you didn't wear a condom,...please get tested today 6TH WEEKS is a good sign of where you stand but will you need 3 months past exposure to conclude. you need to also speak to the female and let her know. i'm in the same boat as you, except my condom broke and i'm not sure if he his hix status is unknown-when i was the bottom. get tested today even if are showing or NOT showing symptoms. Start protecting yourself bro.
Hang in there and get tested!!!!
T.
Hang in there and get tested!!!!
T.
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