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Kissing and bleeding lips
My apologies if this question has already been covered in some ways in previous forum posts. My scenario is different, hence the reason for my question. Last night I was at a nightclub where I met and kissed a 33-yr old woman who I have never spoken to before, although I have seen her there before on a couple of occasions. The reason for my worries is that I suffer from dry and chapped lips and consequently have a bad habit of biting or peeling my lips.
On this occasion, whereas there was initially no bleeding from my lips, they were a little sore as I had peeled away some dry skin the day before. During french kissing with the woman, I tasted blood in my mouth, and so pulled away. I noticed blood on her lips, although I was unsure if it was hers or mine.
I immediately went to the restroom at the nightclub to wash out my mouth thoroughly and noticed blood as I spat into the sink during rinsing. I washed thoroughly for several minutes and then returned to the woman. I apologised to the woman for my hasty exit and gave her the reason. She was insistent that she had no cuts on her lips or mouth and showed me. I could not discern anything, even though we were in a reasonably well lit area. I talked to her about her sexual history (it may have been my paranoia, but I kept looking at her lips and noticed a tiny line which I imagined to be a crack in the skin. In hindsight this may just have been anxiety on my part).
The woman explained that she had 4 children and just 3 sexual partners in 8 years, 2 of which were long-term. The third was a Turkish man she met at a holiday resort in Turkey last year and condoms were used. My history is just one partner in 9 years, hence the reason for my concern/ worry.
I think that the blood in my mouth was mine as I had cracked and sore lips (I noticed when I got home later that as I sucked my lips, blood entered my mouth, so maybe this had happened when she kissed me?), but I cannot say for certain. Am I at risk here, or are the volumes of blood involved too small to pose a significant HIV risk? I am very anxious as I recently got divorced and am keen to get involved in a new relationship and have more children in the future.
On this occasion, whereas there was initially no bleeding from my lips, they were a little sore as I had peeled away some dry skin the day before. During french kissing with the woman, I tasted blood in my mouth, and so pulled away. I noticed blood on her lips, although I was unsure if it was hers or mine.
I immediately went to the restroom at the nightclub to wash out my mouth thoroughly and noticed blood as I spat into the sink during rinsing. I washed thoroughly for several minutes and then returned to the woman. I apologised to the woman for my hasty exit and gave her the reason. She was insistent that she had no cuts on her lips or mouth and showed me. I could not discern anything, even though we were in a reasonably well lit area. I talked to her about her sexual history (it may have been my paranoia, but I kept looking at her lips and noticed a tiny line which I imagined to be a crack in the skin. In hindsight this may just have been anxiety on my part).
The woman explained that she had 4 children and just 3 sexual partners in 8 years, 2 of which were long-term. The third was a Turkish man she met at a holiday resort in Turkey last year and condoms were used. My history is just one partner in 9 years, hence the reason for my concern/ worry.
I think that the blood in my mouth was mine as I had cracked and sore lips (I noticed when I got home later that as I sucked my lips, blood entered my mouth, so maybe this had happened when she kissed me?), but I cannot say for certain. Am I at risk here, or are the volumes of blood involved too small to pose a significant HIV risk? I am very anxious as I recently got divorced and am keen to get involved in a new relationship and have more children in the future.
the mouth/saliva has over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that inhibit infection.
What if it was her blood and not mine? Am I then at risk with my cracked and sore (possibly bleeding) lips?
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