What a long post, the longest I've read here so far. Focusing in the really important facts would help you to get faster and better answers in the future and will make our job easier.
Any of the symptoms you describe sound like the ones you could expect from a recent HIV infection at all.
ARS is the first stage of an HIV infection, is the body’s reaction to the infection. Some HIV positive people, but not all of them, reported that around 20 days after their exposure they had fever, sore throat, rash and flu (not cold) like symptoms, all of those came together, or within a few days of difference and lasted for a few weeks.
As you see, the same symptoms are present in many other illnesses and not everyone had them, so, we can’t rely on them to diagnose HIV.
You were exposed to a small risk, but testing is required, you already did it, but 20 days is too soon for a result to be reliable.
A 3rd gen Elisa will give you an excellent indicator about your status around 6 - 8 weeks after exposure and 4th gen 4 - 6 weeks after exposure. A result given in those times is very unlike to change, but only a doctor, based on your risk level and his experience could advice you to skip the confirmatory test after 12 weeks post exposure.
Hope this helps.
It kind of helps but I must admit it is not the answer I was looking for. Everything I read seems to say that if I had the onset of ARS I would know it, it would take a heavy toll on my body. I have not had this besides the anxiety, I have been fully functional and as mentioned after getting my self calmed down last night I was feeling great today and going forward. Then out of absolutely no where my right cheek/jaw muscle swells up and my lips feel shrunken. It feels like there is fluid all throughout my face and my ears are starting to feel it too now. Now even more whacky, everything I read does give this ailment aka parotitis a connection to HIV if it is not due to something else, yet it is a rather low correlation. So I guess I am just so confused, as you said I was exposed to a small risk, from what I read online 4/10000 to be exact and now I'm going to be even more of an outlier and not have any of the stand out symptoms but some random case of the mumps?
I'm sorry I rant, it just feels so off what is happening. My saving grace is that I feel the fluid and dull pains throughout my head which gives it more signs of a bacterial infection. But I've been on so many antibiotics I feel like that would not be likely. So if I am infected, I am really going to be a complete anomaly and contract it from such a low risk act and then not exhibit any of the telling signs? That is just cruel.