I am a straight guy who met up with a gay guy (from online) and we did mutual masturbation (but with no ejaculation) where I touched my penis, then his, then mine again. He did the same. This happened November 15, and for the next two weeks (until the appearance of my jock itch) I didn’t think twice about the whole episode. We didn’t do any more than this and just ended up talking and hanging out, which was more enjoyable to me. I know I had been clean (hope I still am) and he assured me he was clean, and although he sounded a bit promiscuous, I had no reason to doubt him nor did I see any sores on his penis. I guess I did it out of sheer boredom and was seeking novelty and attention and that I felt lonely (girlfriend works a lot). I know this interaction did very little for me, was simply a novel experience, and has only caused me a lot of anxiety. I don’t think secretions were shared but maybe just a little bit. I have a wonderful girlfriend and I broke down and told her of the encounter and have felt awful about it. Two weeks after the encounter, I noticed a rash in my groin area but I think I got it from my own poor hygiene in that area (not washing enough, sometimes wearing Friday’s underwear all day Saturday) and sweating, as a doctor described it as jock itch and it has cleared up by using Lamisil (an anti-fungal). I tested for STDs two weeks after the event and everything came back negative; I also tested for HIV four weeks later using oral swab and it came back negative also. I have tried not to do too much research on this but I have felt awful about the whole event. Ironically, before the jock itch appeared, the night of the event and the next two weeks I slept fine, although work was horribly stressful the week prior to the event and also the next two weeks after it. Once the jock itch appeared, I started to question some of my novelty-seeking behaviors, have done a lot of research on STDs, HIV, and have had a lot of waking up during the night and severe anxiety, especially at night, but also during the day. I normally take 100 mg of Trazodone to sleep anyway but the last two weeks I have taken an Ambien every single night as I wake up after 2 hrs of sleep and I need to get some decent sleep as I have a very busy/stressful job. My girlfriend is a Pharm Tech and does not like that I take this Ambien every night, nor do I. I am also having these images of this gay male having anal sex with other men and this causing them to bleed rectally. I know he has had anal sex with other men and that bleeding occurred (this guy was thick, etc.) and now these images are causing me great anxiety at night. I have been having difficulty sleeping for more than a few hours at a time, even with the Ambien. I know I need to see a therapist and just can’t believe I engaged in this. The guy told me he was clean but I guess it’s looking back and realizing all the behaviors he had engaged in (it sounds like he had a lot of anal sex but said it was always done protected) that has me wondering why I did this at all. Can anyone tell me how they got over something like this? I know time, testing (with negative results), and self-forgiveness must be critical here!