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I think I have mental illness

I know some of you have read my previous post.  I had a protected sex with a prostitution on 22 Dec .I used condom during oral and virginal sex and no broken. If it's broken, she would tell me and I would feel it , right?

I did the HIV-1/2 Ab and P24 Ag Combo test on 9 Jan (19 days after), the result is negative.

I did another self test on 24 Jan (33 days after), the result is negative.

but I just cannot stop thinking about that night, I feel guilty and regret

Once I woke up, I start to think " Was my condom broken?"  and  "How accurate is the combe test and self test?"

I keep crying when I am alone.........I don't want to go out and meet my girlfriend and even don't want to eat

Can anyone help ?
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Its more clear that your issue is guilt rather than HIV. You made a mistake, you not the first or last to do so, but feeling so low about it will not help the matter. You made a mistake, now its time to forget about it. The HIV is just a way of punishing yourself for what you did, for a belief that it will balance out the punishment, ie you did wrong so you must suffer, also your concern is that you may give your partner HIV and increase the guilt, well that cannot happen as your tests prove you dont have HIV from a no risk exposure.

Patrick, please get over this guilt and move on with your life, as guilt is the overiding factor for you, but its time to stop that now
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nurse,
do you think I have no risk?
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Teak, I know you are an expert. Can the test prove me no risk?
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You never had an exposure.
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Yes i think you do lol. Google share is often as i call it, google scare.. Their is so much BS on it.. That said ive done it myself, infact i would most here have done so to, so lets be honest, your doing nothing more than most of us do or have done :)

So the reason im posting is that you dont waste time on somthing that cannot be, and more so feeling bad about a mistake. I know guilt is not a good thing to carry around, but in time it will go, its just a matter of time.

We have all done wrong, but its how we make a mends that counts, so please forget HIV, you have nothing to worry about buddy.

PS, listen to nursey, she speaks sence :)
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Actually, those of us who are formally educated about HIV (myself as a Nurse, Lizzie through living with and helping her HIV infected son) have not gotten our info from Teak.  I've learned things from Teak for sure, but it isn't like that is the source of our knowledge.

There ARE however, many posters who are self proclaimed experts based solely on them reading the info on this site.

OP...this forum can't do anything more for you.  Take your discussion to the HIV Anxiety Forum and seek some professional help.
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thx for supporting me~~~

do you think i read too much information from the internet?
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thx~Apollo

you are a good guy. thx for counselling me. I would try to forget this thing (hope I can do it)

Maybe the 6 weeks test on 2 Feb can help me to move on a little bit..............
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You are displaying symptoms of severe anxiety and obsessive thoughts.  You need to seek professional help.  We cannot give you the help you need.
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thx a lot Apollo

Maybe I have depression and I can't face my girlfriend. I cannot afford a psychiatrist. I can keep calling the counselor only, and they explain to me that I have no risk, I think they have blacklist me...... :(

I will do another on next Thur ( 6 weeks after). I hope this can encourage me
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You didnt have risk to worry about patrick, thats the key point you must understand.
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thx~~
I just cannot stop to search the accuracy of the test I did.
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Patrick your correct, your  issue is mental health, certainly  not HIV for sure.

You need to speak to people who deal with your condition. The internet is not a place that can help you rigth now. You need proper care and probley medication to help you calm down and get to grip with your thoughts again..

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:(
But I still cannot stop thinking, crying and nightmare.........
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It's good that you are talking to people. Meds can also help.
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I talked to some nurse and counselor. I just........cannot stop thinking
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Can anyone help? Not anyone on the internet. Talk to a psychiatrist.
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