Pls help....

Hi Doctor...
I had slept with 1 woman(ist time ever in life met her in a train) whose status may be positive(not sure)
on 4th of april 2008.we involve in deep kissing and mutual masturburation.after this incidence 2 weeks later i have got fever with sore throat that went away with antibiotics in 5 days.
After this i always think of getting affected(stressi.e lost interest in  all activities of life).after 1 month I came to US for work and sudenly realize white coating specially on back on tongue and feeling exhausted and some sweat at night time(body heat increase) not able to sleep may be bcoz of stress,lost lot of weight also.After this i checked on net and all these related to HIV.Then i went to doctor and get the HIV 1 and 2 test done after 11 weeks(23 June 2008).it came negative.but still i hav the symptoms but my doctor said it may be anxiety.Pls advice me....I m almost lost hope..

[Ice_Man]

kissing and masturbating - are you serious? NO RISK for hiv. ....Geee...!

[sandeep33]

Thanks for ur quick reply but i slept nude with her and touched my penis with the hand with which i inserted.If she is positive what are the chances and worried thing is why these symptoms come...Pls advice i m very stresses notable to work also always thought i got it!!!!

[Ice_Man]

There is no possible way you could have contracted the hiv this way. You don't have to worry about it. Then you have a negative hiv test also. The symptoms you describe are not hiv specific, in fact they are more like anxiety related. You do not have hiv, no way!

[sandeep33]

Thanks for ur reply making me uplifted but the real concern is why i still have the dry mouth and night sweat/night fever and
loss of weight.Should I go for another test apart from HIV 1 and 2.How conclusive these tests are after 10-11 weeks.
I know i m askin too much out of stress but i m goin thru very worst phase of my life.
Pls advice.

[sandeep33]

Please can anyone advice me on this as i m going thru extreme stress and anxiety.not able to do anything.Pls help me....

[MasterShake]

the chances of you getting HIV from this is very low, especially after getting HIV result as negative. Most results are 99% correct especially after 10-11 weeks. If you are still worried, I suggest you do another test to make sure.

Your symptoms are caused by something else..

[Teak]

You were never at risk of contracting HIV and testing wasn't warranted.

[sandeep33]

Thanks all for ur posts...
what do u mean by testing wasn't warranted?Pls explain..
Is this all due to anxiety....as these thoughts never go out of my mind even for single minute....always thought i go it as I licked her body and boobs also...So any chance thru that?Pls advice...

[Teak]

Is it all due to anxiety? It's not due to HIV. You didn't have a risk.

[sandeep33]

Thanks teak...
ur reply gave me some relief....
Do i need to go for testing again or try to forgot the incident as this is ist time i hav done this in my life with unknown person.I m felling very guilty after that...
Pls advice.....

[Teak]

Guilt may be your problem, but you can rest assured that HIV isn't. No, you don't need to go test.

[sandeep33]

Teak,
U people r really doing a great job here.....to help others in trouble is the best thing...
I also try to help every needful.hats off to u!!!!
lat question what can i do to stop worrying as I away from my home....not able to share my feelings with anyone....Can i tell to my family abt all this but then thought but they felt abt me?Pls advice..

[CautiousMan]

How many times you were told that you WERE NEVER AT RISK OF CONTRACTING HIV? and you still repeat the same question? Move on with your life and forget about this incident. Nothing to be worried about. You were not at risk.

[sandeep33]

Thanks buddy....but my problem is still i have white tongue and watever i ate it stucks there....like biscuits....so i m still worried...hope u understand.pls advice..

[sandeep33]

Hi all..
this is my last post...
I just want to know that HIV 1 and 2 testing after 10-11 weeks is how much conclusive.
As my tongue is still coated with dry mouth.Is there any chance of having +ive down the line..
Pls advice.

[Teak]

Sure if you ever have a risk. You didn't have a risk.

[sandeep33]

but if she is positive then means there is a risk as i spent 4-5 hrs with her.in that case do i need to go for test again or is this something else...Pls advice..

[aak001]

sandeep what do you mean by ''As my tongue is still coated with dry mouth"?

[Teak]

I don't care if you spend a life time with her. Kissing ans masturbation is NOT a risk.

[sandeep33]

means i have white a coated tongue and also having dry mouth even after tested negative(hiv 1 and 2) after 10 weeks and 4 days.
I m still under extereme stress and anxiety not able to sleep also.After getting the results i got gud sleep for 2 days then again i serached on net its said dry mouth and white tongue is due to HIV.As i never had this problem in my life.only after that  incident it came.So thats why worried too much...Pls advice...

[aak001]

sandeep calm down i tested -ve at 16 and 18 weeks and i also have what i feel is a dry mouth and its due to being under stress for such a long period of time and some antibiotics i was taking. as for the white coating on the back of the tongue its normal and every one has it. you had no risk to start with and you tested -ve at 11 weeks.  

[Teak]

aak001,  the following is the risk you came to the forums with. We don't want to hear anymore about your white tongue. You did not have a  risk of contracting HIV and this is an HIV forum.

"A massage girl from Thailand was masturbating for me after the massage with baby oil and then I put the condom on and was in her for less than 3 minutes when I pulled out all of the semen was in the condom when I took it off but I read somewhere that baby oil will damage the condom in less than 10 seconds."

[aak001]

sorry Teak i was trying to tell sandeep that i also had the same thing but it has nothing to do with hiv. i was trying to calm him down only.

[sandeep33]

so u r also having same symptoms...have u been to doctor..
wat he said abt this....Pls explain..
or is this all related to stress and anxiety.....

[aak001]

my doctor told me that this due to stress and anxiety and that its a feeling of druness in the mouth becuase a real dry mouth is very painfull becuase thier would be no saliva in the mouth wich would leed to gums bleeding and craking you tongue would be very dry and swallen and it will also bleed. my case is defrent becuase i took antibiotics for treating a stomatch bug and this created a furry tounge wich also helped in making me feel the dry mouth sensation. after the test the dryness i feel became better.

[sandeep33]

so u mean to say its all due to stress and anxiety....As I have also noticed that wen i m busy doing something i wont feel
that much but wen i start thinking about it and looking into mirror its making more worried and more coated.Do i need to test again after 13 weeks or 10 weeks and 4 days test will come positive if i had this due to HIV.Pls advice.....

[Teak]

No you don't need to test. NO RISK=NO TEST.

[aak001]

sandeep i am not an expert here but i think you should listen to Teak advice he is a very knowldgable member of this forum and he told you that you dont have risk. not only that you tested at 10weeks and it was -ve i doubt that it will change :) move on and forget about it its only stress and anxiety becuase it was your first time. it also was my first time and i am sure its my last time.

[sandeep33]

yeah bro its my ist time in life and i also dont think that i can  do it again in my life as this is the worst phase of my life...
I lost interest in almost all activites of life..which i had earlier....I dont know wat to do from now onwards as I never come out of this...Hope u all understand thru wat phase i m goin...
Anyways thanks to all of you for ur support..
If u still want to give me some advice to me u r most welcome...

[aak001]

i wish you the best ;)

[LIZZIE LOU]

since you had no risk of hiv...and this is a hiv forum...you might be better served on the anxiety forum.