HIV risk please help

[Helpapril2015]

Met someone today about an hour ago of a gay dating app in the uk. I'm male (bottom) he was a top. Oral was preformed on him with a condom (no ejaculation), he rimmed me for about half a minute and spat on my hole while doing so once, and fingered me deeply. Couldn't see any visible cuts on his nails or hands or mouth area, but could be small ones or bleeding inside his mouth. What are my changes off catching him from these acts. Is there a risk so scared can't sleep. Please some one help I'm 22 gay male, he was 34 and when asked about status he ignored me. Should off asked before but was so stupid not to I know it's my fault.

[alpha_index9]

Thank you.

[Iwan25]

Alpha index 9 is absolutely correct. I work with HIV patients and pre-clinics for screening in the UK. You do not qualify for PEP. If it had been an unprotected penetrative act with his penis then PEP will be recommended. For fingering there is no risk. Even if he had a cut the chances of it bleeding is so minimal as to be almost non-existent. The body contains platelets which almost immediately begin to plug up a wound, and thus prevent us from bleeding to death. I think anxiety suck was well intentioned, but in this case the advice is not warranted. You did well to ask his HIV status, however unless you are in a monogamous relationship and feel confident that the other person is HIV negative, always engage is safe sex. However fingering is not a risk of HIV.

[Helpapril2015]

Just to clear the miss guidance

[Anxietysuck]

Im sorry  that i made you anxious

You said wwhat if there is blood etc...

I just wanted you to seek proffesional help and they would tell you what best to do since u had chance of pep

I know they wouldnt prob give u pep cuz ur exposure was rllly low risk

But being too safe about those stuff is important

[Helpapril2015]

Thank you alpha_index9 makes sense as wasn't no penetration , oral with condom and as you explained the other risks are like virtually impossible. Thank you.

Aniqietystuck even I know as much as to know Pep would definitely never be given for these circumstances as its for people that actually have penatrative sex without a condom. Please have more knowledge as I read your comment first and felt even worse till the above explained.

[alpha_index9]

Hi, PEP is only given for significant risk. They are not normal pills to be given for risk free situations. PEPs are heavy and can have side effects. The testing window also advances according to the course. Answering queries without thorough knowledge will only scare people and increase their anxiety more. The user doesnt qualify a risk for HIV and does not need any kind of PEP.

[Anxietysuck]

U are right

But any case didnt pass the 72 hours  must visit a doctor

They have morre knowldge than us

And they will decide if they put on pep or not

Please hiv is not joke just visit a doctor as soon as possible ..just in case

Thx

[alpha_index9]

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[alpha_index9]

Hi, no risk still. For a finger to bleed profusely it needs a deeper cut and blood in mouth never poses a risk as HIV is not friendly with the saliva in the mouth. Had the activities stated above been a risk, half of the world would have been positive by now. Imagine so many people have sex every minutes, there must be cuts on peoples fingers and blood in the mouth due to injuries that goes unnoticed, still people are safe. Just use a condom for penetration thats more than enough.

[Anxietysuck]

Go visit a doctor and tell him

If its before 72 hours of exposure

Sesly rush to a doctor and tell him the story so he put u on PEP if needed

Pep is post exposure meds that prevent hiv

[Helpapril2015]

Thanks you enjoy yours to but I'm to busy stressing you made it better but just need clarifying about follow up question

[Helpapril2015]

Are you sure, what if he had cut fingers or blood in his spit?

[alpha_index9]

Hi, you had no risk what so ever from the above act. You are absolutely safe. Just relax and have a great weekend ahead.