Unprotected sex with a bar girl in Vietnam

[idiout]

Hi
I unfortuantly did something totally out of character and had sex with a bar girl in Vietnam.Initially,i used a cindom,however,in what only i can describle as a moment of insanity,i asked the girl to take it of which,she did not hesitate in doing.From,there,i would say we had 10 mins of sex.Now,i am very anxious about the chances of catching HIV.My worry is mainly due to the fact that the girl was so readily complient about having sex minus a condom which arouses my suspicion that she was in the knowledge that she had a std and who knows perhaps even hiv.I also realize this could be complete parnoia on my part.My secondary concern is that there is a 51%infection rate of hiv on bar workers in Saigon where the event occurred.So,please,could you access my risk of forstly hiv and secondadly any other std.

Thanks

[lostone08]

well if she had a std your chances of getting one is a lot higher than hiv because hiv is a very fragile disease and believe it or not its not as easy to catch as stds i got ngu from a massuse through a handjob dont know if i was allergic to the lotion she used or if she just had it on her hands but all stds but herpes is curable and none of them are deadly so just go get checked if you have one they will just give you antibiotics and it will be over

[idiout]

Thanks all for your replys which have lessened my anxiety to a degree but until i have the 12 week test i feel like im in sime sort of limbo.I just hope i can find the mental strength to put this incident to the back of my mind because at the moment im obsessed by it and if i dont get a grip im heading towards depression.As Normski said i too an also racked with shame.
Can anyone give me any risks for any other std?or do i need to post in a different forum?

[LIZZIE LOU]

if men would just think like women...this whole "numbers game" would be simple.  instead of throwing around all the statistics...worrying about one in every 500, 1,000, 2,000...we just say we have a 50% chance that we got it or a 50% chance we didnt...lol.

[normski]

Where on earth did you get the 51% infection rate statistic?

As a Brit working in SE Asia, I have some knowledge of this stuff and if what you are saying is true then Saigon has a 'bar girl' infection many, many times higher than he regional average! Even the infamous, hard core brothels outside of Phnom Penh, Cambodia, do not have infection levels even close to 51%.....

My understanding is that brothel based girls in Saigon had an infection rate of about 20%, which would suggest that the rate among bar girls is far lower because of testing programs etc. I am only quoting from memory - but 51% just seem a ridiculous figure.

It's easy to panic more when you hear statistics being banded around.

I spent weeks and weeks in misery worrying about an encounter in Cambodia which every doctor told me was zero risk! I still had nagging doubts and ultimately I had to pluck up the courage to take a test. It was the longest minute of my life when I took the Rapid Test - but it was negative and it gave me my life back. My real problem was guilt because what I did was out of character and against my own moral standards.....

Good Luck,

Normski

[chandu2905]

See if you have had this only unprotected encounter then possibility of  you catching HIV is very less nearly 1 : 2000. So forget it and move along with life. If you find it difficult to forget the incident which is quite natural gather courage and go for a Test coz. after that either you have HIV or you don't but if you don't get tested the tension of HIV will surely ruin your life.

regards
chandrakant.

[lostone08]

hello i totally know what you are going through i was also in your same situation 3 months ago i had a encounter with a bar girl in vietnam also unprotected when i returned to the us i was convinced i was infected i just want to let you know that calculating your risks mean nothing i gaurantee it i did the same thing till it drove me crazy so i had the courage to go get tested at 8 weeks it was neg i was relieved but still worried then at 10 weeks it was neg i was relieved and had a good indicator then at 11 weeks and 3 days it was neg and i thought i could put it behind me but i still had a small doubt so tested again yesterday 15 weeksit was neg now i know i am not infected however when i tested at 11 weeks i was diagnosed with ngu that really freaked me out but my point is your risk was low it was a one time encounter the chances of you getting infected was 1 in 1000 if she was even infected just go take a test get your neg and put your mind at ease then re test at 13 weeks for final results 95 percent will test positive by 6-8 weeks good luck to you even though your not going to need it