Recent Relationship and HIV Risk

I realize that everyone's risk exposure is different and a test is needed to confirm diagnosis etc.  But I've been trying to schedule a test for the past wekk and have been unable to do so, and I'm looking for reassurance or at least a realistic outlook on HIV transmission likelihood.

I am a 29 y.o male and began a homoesexual relationship with a male (in June of this year) who had reportedly been quite sexually active.  I have not been as active my previous partner by any means.  For the first few weeks of the relationship there was no sex and mostly just talking and getting to know one another.  During the second month, we began spending a lot of time together and having protected sex.  My partner and I often talked about STD and HIV status and he indicated that he is tested regularly and does not have HIV.  However, he denied being tested for other STDs in the months prior to us getting together (he indicated being tested once a year for STD/HIV).  Well we decided that our relationship was going to be monogamous, and given his sexual history, he agreed to go get a rapid HIV test, which he showed me the results of.  It stated no HIV antibodies and seemed to be legitimate.  So shortly after that we began unprotected sex with me being both the insertive and receptive partner.  I was receptive less often but we had full on sex without pulling out etc.  Well about two weeks later (after probably a handful of unprotected sexual encounters with versatile roles), some things came up that made me question my ability to trust this person... nothing major but small hints, so I asked if we could return to using protection until I could be more certain that it was safe.  We agreed to do this and for the last month of the relationship used protection again.  

My concern is that I can't get a rapid HIV test anytime soon.  I've tried to call and call, and my mind has me worrying probably entirely too much.  I wish I had been safer and had not ever allowed unprotected sex, but given that the relationship seemed to be going well and was reportedly monogamous, I dropped my guard a bit.  Now that I'm entering a new relationship, I want to know my status before possibly dragging someone into a relationship with me, as I now this person is very health conscious and may find it difficult to establish a relationship under those circumstances.  

It has been about 2 to 3 months since we discontinued unprotected sex, and I am going to get the rapid HIV antibody test asap, but for now, I am just concerned about what my risk may be like from a medical standpoint and whether or not I really should be as concerned as I am.  I was DNA tested in February with no positive findings, and I have only had oral sex and mutual masturbation outside of the relationship described above.  Nevertheless, some of the information found on the internet is alarming.  And, while some of it is reassuring, a more personalized response is certainly welcome.  Thanks.

[LIZZIE LOU]

poster:

of course you are aware that having unprotected sex is a risk for not only hiv, but other stds as well.  you also should know that the only way to know one's status is by testing.

your partner's negative test result should be reassuring...as long as your partner had not had unprotected sex with anyone, 3 months prior to testing.