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Sex with Escort who had NO RESTRICTIONS
Hello guys ,
This is the biggest mistake I ever made in my life and Im still asking myself why I did this .
On October 31 / 2015 I booked to see an escort , she was 39 year old blonde ... I was a bit disappointed when I first saw her because she was alot fatter in person then her pics , but anywho I ordered half hour service but we talked alot and I stayed for 2 hours .
Im freaking out about if I caught HIV from her because she told me she did bareback sex with some guys who requested it . Heres all the info on what happened
-We kissed a bit ... no real deep french kissing but we did kiss on the lips many times
-She gave me oral sex without a condom many times
- I put on a condom when we did vaginal sex
- We tried anal but my dick would not fit in her , we tried for a few mins and gave up
- After the anal thing didnt work out , I was gona go to vaginal sex but she told me to take off my condom and put a new one on .... idk why but she told me something about a womans PH levels
- I put on a new condom and we do vaginal sex for a few mins
- I looked down a few times and always made sure the condom was still on while we had sex
- Before we met , she told me many times shes clean and gets tested every 2 weeks , I asked her again during the sex and days after .
- The condom was on for sex ..... but we had unprotected oral sex she gave me ... I did not give her oral
- I came on her face at the end
Couple days ago I had a burning sensation while I peed in the morning , this burning feeling was for the first 2-3 times I peed .... later that day I was at the mall and went to the bathroom to pee then I found a little bit of pus coming out the tip of my penis . Today I woke up and noticed a little puss out of my penis .
Th past couple days I've had some lower abdominal discomfort ... and my testicles were in discomfort feelings aswell .... my testicles felt sore , heavy and in a little bit of pain .
She assured me shes clean and told me shes getting tested last thursday , she said she would show me her results aswell . But whenever I texted her to remind her about the test she kept coming up with some ******** like even if she gets tested today , the results will be in a week and by that time she would of ****** 5-10 guys .
It seems like she really was avoiding show me her results .
I called her a few days later and told her about the burning feeling I got and pus coming out of me and she went physco , saying I didnt get it from her .... or it was the shower gel I used at her place to washup after .... .. and she said I just prob got a yeast infection from her .
She seemed really pissed off when I told her that I caught something from her and texted me back in all caps really angry ... telling me Im not a doctor and I cant diagnose it myself and we went back and forth for a while .
I told her to just show me the tests to prove it and she kept changing the subject .
She told me she has bareback sex and offers NO RESTRICTIONS .... and she also told me she has many regular clients who see her ......... so Im guessing she might be clean if she has regular clients coming in to see her .... I think if she did have HIV then some guy would of caught from her by now and reported her or something .
Sorry for the long story but I wanted to give you guys every single detail of my situation so you can give me the best advice .
Please help me guys , Im really freaking out and soo worried I might get HIV !!! : - (
This is the biggest mistake I ever made in my life and Im still asking myself why I did this .
On October 31 / 2015 I booked to see an escort , she was 39 year old blonde ... I was a bit disappointed when I first saw her because she was alot fatter in person then her pics , but anywho I ordered half hour service but we talked alot and I stayed for 2 hours .
Im freaking out about if I caught HIV from her because she told me she did bareback sex with some guys who requested it . Heres all the info on what happened
-We kissed a bit ... no real deep french kissing but we did kiss on the lips many times
-She gave me oral sex without a condom many times
- I put on a condom when we did vaginal sex
- We tried anal but my dick would not fit in her , we tried for a few mins and gave up
- After the anal thing didnt work out , I was gona go to vaginal sex but she told me to take off my condom and put a new one on .... idk why but she told me something about a womans PH levels
- I put on a new condom and we do vaginal sex for a few mins
- I looked down a few times and always made sure the condom was still on while we had sex
- Before we met , she told me many times shes clean and gets tested every 2 weeks , I asked her again during the sex and days after .
- The condom was on for sex ..... but we had unprotected oral sex she gave me ... I did not give her oral
- I came on her face at the end
Couple days ago I had a burning sensation while I peed in the morning , this burning feeling was for the first 2-3 times I peed .... later that day I was at the mall and went to the bathroom to pee then I found a little bit of pus coming out the tip of my penis . Today I woke up and noticed a little puss out of my penis .
Th past couple days I've had some lower abdominal discomfort ... and my testicles were in discomfort feelings aswell .... my testicles felt sore , heavy and in a little bit of pain .
She assured me shes clean and told me shes getting tested last thursday , she said she would show me her results aswell . But whenever I texted her to remind her about the test she kept coming up with some ******** like even if she gets tested today , the results will be in a week and by that time she would of ****** 5-10 guys .
It seems like she really was avoiding show me her results .
I called her a few days later and told her about the burning feeling I got and pus coming out of me and she went physco , saying I didnt get it from her .... or it was the shower gel I used at her place to washup after .... .. and she said I just prob got a yeast infection from her .
She seemed really pissed off when I told her that I caught something from her and texted me back in all caps really angry ... telling me Im not a doctor and I cant diagnose it myself and we went back and forth for a while .
I told her to just show me the tests to prove it and she kept changing the subject .
She told me she has bareback sex and offers NO RESTRICTIONS .... and she also told me she has many regular clients who see her ......... so Im guessing she might be clean if she has regular clients coming in to see her .... I think if she did have HIV then some guy would of caught from her by now and reported her or something .
Sorry for the long story but I wanted to give you guys every single detail of my situation so you can give me the best advice .
Please help me guys , Im really freaking out and soo worried I might get HIV !!! : - (
YOU NEVER HAD A RISK FOR HIV!!!
Your jaw is most likely sore from clenching your teeth which is triggered by your ANXIETY. Poking and prodding it for HOURS is just making it more painful and is reinforcing your anxiety.
When you get tested 28 days post exposure (which you NEVER had) make sure it is a 4th generation DUO test. IT WILL BE CONCLUSIVE!!!!!
You do NOT have to retest in 3 weeks and again in 3 months.
If, after testing, you are STILL having fears and uncertainty, please look into therapy.
Your jaw is most likely sore from clenching your teeth which is triggered by your ANXIETY. Poking and prodding it for HOURS is just making it more painful and is reinforcing your anxiety.
When you get tested 28 days post exposure (which you NEVER had) make sure it is a 4th generation DUO test. IT WILL BE CONCLUSIVE!!!!!
You do NOT have to retest in 3 weeks and again in 3 months.
If, after testing, you are STILL having fears and uncertainty, please look into therapy.
@RubyWitch
Hi , I really really appreciate you commenting and helping me out .
Im trying my best to stay calm and positive but anything thats different in my body my mind automatically links it with HIV symptom .
Like yesterday my right jaw felt a bit weird , so for HOURS I was touching and feeling my jaw , neck , back of ear , searching for any lumps or swollen parts , I was really freaking out . I called HIV hotlines and spoke with specialists for a long time , this is a really hard time for me .
I will get tested asap once the 28 days pass , then again in 3 weeks and 3 months .
I will try to stay positive but the fear is always in my head unfortunately , its now just a waiting game for me and I pray to GOD that everything turns out good and I am healthy , Im asking for a second chance , I will never ... ever ... pay for an escort again , Im done with that ! Definitely learned my lesson , and will be alot more safer now .
Hi , I really really appreciate you commenting and helping me out .
Im trying my best to stay calm and positive but anything thats different in my body my mind automatically links it with HIV symptom .
Like yesterday my right jaw felt a bit weird , so for HOURS I was touching and feeling my jaw , neck , back of ear , searching for any lumps or swollen parts , I was really freaking out . I called HIV hotlines and spoke with specialists for a long time , this is a really hard time for me .
I will get tested asap once the 28 days pass , then again in 3 weeks and 3 months .
I will try to stay positive but the fear is always in my head unfortunately , its now just a waiting game for me and I pray to GOD that everything turns out good and I am healthy , Im asking for a second chance , I will never ... ever ... pay for an escort again , Im done with that ! Definitely learned my lesson , and will be alot more safer now .
You had NO RISK for HIV.
It sounds like your doctor is being very thorough checking for STD's
If you can't get past the fear of HIV, get tested at 28 days post exposure with a 4th generation DUO.
Again, you do not have HIV and STD'S are curable. You really must relax and trust your doctor.
RubyWitch
It sounds like your doctor is being very thorough checking for STD's
If you can't get past the fear of HIV, get tested at 28 days post exposure with a 4th generation DUO.
Again, you do not have HIV and STD'S are curable. You really must relax and trust your doctor.
RubyWitch
So I went to the doctors couple days ago and explained to him my situation and he told me I had symptoms of gonorrhea and offered to give me the medicine for it , which was 1 shot and 4 tablets . I asked him how come my test results came back negative and he wasnt too sure about that . So he gave me the medicine and this was basically to cover alot of STD's . He also asked me to pee in a cup and to take my blood . And he also put a cotton swab in my penis which hurt like crazy !
Im trying to stay clam , I really ham doing my best , but just the fear of HIV is very anxious to me . Tmr would have been 2 weeks since the encounter .
Im trying to stay clam , I really ham doing my best , but just the fear of HIV is very anxious to me . Tmr would have been 2 weeks since the encounter .
Who said you had a yeast infection? Did I miss something?
Do you have any allergies?
Your itching could simply be dry skin. Or anxiety, which you are fixating on as "something scary and related to HIV."
Take a bath with baking soda and if you have some lotion like Dermasil or Vaseline.........something without a bunch of perfume crap, use that.
STOP freaking out.........it is NOT helping in any way! Whatever is going is NOT related to HIV!!!!!!!!!!! Your doctor will give you all your answers tomorrow. And please see your doctor, not that clinic you went to!
Keep in touch and PLEASE calm down!!!
RubyWitch
Do you have any allergies?
Your itching could simply be dry skin. Or anxiety, which you are fixating on as "something scary and related to HIV."
Take a bath with baking soda and if you have some lotion like Dermasil or Vaseline.........something without a bunch of perfume crap, use that.
STOP freaking out.........it is NOT helping in any way! Whatever is going is NOT related to HIV!!!!!!!!!!! Your doctor will give you all your answers tomorrow. And please see your doctor, not that clinic you went to!
Keep in touch and PLEASE calm down!!!
RubyWitch
Alright , Im def going to go to my doctors tmr .... I wanted to go today but once I finished work he was closed .
Quick update and question : I got home today and went on my laptop then I noticed I started itching quite a bit all over my body ... I tried to keep my mind away from thinking about it but I would get the urge to sratch random places on my body , Im trying to control myself , theres no real red bumps or blisters but on some areas the skin is dry and little piece of skin peeled off .... Im really scared right now .
I tried doing some research .... I hope Im dealing with ONLY yeast infection and nothing more serious .... Im going to the doctors tmr but how do I deal with the itching ? what can it be ?.... is it possible for the yeast infection to affect my body all over with itching ?
Quick update and question : I got home today and went on my laptop then I noticed I started itching quite a bit all over my body ... I tried to keep my mind away from thinking about it but I would get the urge to sratch random places on my body , Im trying to control myself , theres no real red bumps or blisters but on some areas the skin is dry and little piece of skin peeled off .... Im really scared right now .
I tried doing some research .... I hope Im dealing with ONLY yeast infection and nothing more serious .... Im going to the doctors tmr but how do I deal with the itching ? what can it be ?.... is it possible for the yeast infection to affect my body all over with itching ?
There are a number of other STD's you could have acquired and I'm a bit surprised this clinic did not test for them.
SYPHILIS can be contracted from oral sex and with the symptoms you've described, I suggest you go to your doctor immediately. Syphilis requires a blood test for an accurate diagnosis. This is NOT an STD you want to ignore!!!!
You can also acquire herpes, HPV, HEP A, B and C as well as gonorrhea and chlamydia.
You NEVER had a risk for HIV.
SEE YOUR DOCTOR! NOW.
SYPHILIS can be contracted from oral sex and with the symptoms you've described, I suggest you go to your doctor immediately. Syphilis requires a blood test for an accurate diagnosis. This is NOT an STD you want to ignore!!!!
You can also acquire herpes, HPV, HEP A, B and C as well as gonorrhea and chlamydia.
You NEVER had a risk for HIV.
SEE YOUR DOCTOR! NOW.
Guys Im really scared right now : - (
I called my sexual health clinic about my urine tests results for chlamydia and gonnarea ... and both of them came back Negative ! .... I was freaking out because if Im negative for both those sti .... then how come Im having all these problems like discharge puss from my penis ... lower abdominal pain .... penis discomfrt .///..... my balls hurt at times ...... odor from my penis ...
It must mean I have something alot worse ?? could it be possible that I have HIV ??? I was freaking out yesterday soo bad ...... I went back to the health clinic and I think they are doing a retest and checking for other infections . I did pee in 2 cups and they examed my penis and put a cottom swab around the tip
PLEASE HELP GUYS , IM REALLY PARANOID RIGHT NOW..... WHAT COULD I HAVE /??? they told me to go to the doctors because I tested negative and dont know what I have atm ..
I called my sexual health clinic about my urine tests results for chlamydia and gonnarea ... and both of them came back Negative ! .... I was freaking out because if Im negative for both those sti .... then how come Im having all these problems like discharge puss from my penis ... lower abdominal pain .... penis discomfrt .///..... my balls hurt at times ...... odor from my penis ...
It must mean I have something alot worse ?? could it be possible that I have HIV ??? I was freaking out yesterday soo bad ...... I went back to the health clinic and I think they are doing a retest and checking for other infections . I did pee in 2 cups and they examed my penis and put a cottom swab around the tip
PLEASE HELP GUYS , IM REALLY PARANOID RIGHT NOW..... WHAT COULD I HAVE /??? they told me to go to the doctors because I tested negative and dont know what I have atm ..
NO RISK from kissing.
NO RISK from the oral sex she performed without condom
NO RISK from protected insertive vaginal sex
NO RISK from the protected anal sex attempt
NO RISK from the second round of protected insertive vaginal sex. (She was VERY smart to make you change condoms......she was protecting herself from a number of infections)
While unprotected oral sex is not a risk for HIV, it CAN put you at risk for other STD's. Some of which can be extremely serious if left untreated.
With the symptoms you've described, I STRONGLY suggest you see your doctor and tell him/her the complete truth regarding your exposure. This will ensure they test you for all possibilities.
The best way to "stop freaking out" about contracting HIV is to educate yourself about safe sex and practice it every single time.
NO RISK from the oral sex she performed without condom
NO RISK from protected insertive vaginal sex
NO RISK from the protected anal sex attempt
NO RISK from the second round of protected insertive vaginal sex. (She was VERY smart to make you change condoms......she was protecting herself from a number of infections)
While unprotected oral sex is not a risk for HIV, it CAN put you at risk for other STD's. Some of which can be extremely serious if left untreated.
With the symptoms you've described, I STRONGLY suggest you see your doctor and tell him/her the complete truth regarding your exposure. This will ensure they test you for all possibilities.
The best way to "stop freaking out" about contracting HIV is to educate yourself about safe sex and practice it every single time.
If you you were using condom during vaginal intercourse you are safe, receiving unprotected oral sex isn't a risk, don't worry, you are fine.
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