Risk of Infection if Undetectable

[mciano]

I am very anxious and am hoping you can help.

I am 33 years old and HIV+.  I have been undetectable for over 10 years with a VERY strict adherence to my medical treatment.  I get regular medical exams with my doctor (every 3 months) and have never had a detectable viral load after I started treatment.  I have no other STI's and am otherwise perfectly healthy.

I started dating someone who is HIV- and we have had unsafe anal and oral sex. We have had anal sex with no condom approximately 5-6 times where I was the top.  However, I have NEVER *** in his mouth or his rectum.

He told me he had blood in his stool after one of our experiences and I am worried about his risk of infection.  Although I never came inside of his mouth or rectum, I do precum.

What are his chances of being infected?

[furociousdinosaur]

that's pretty selfish of you

[tutu41]

It doesn't matter if he knows or not that you are HIV positive.  You have a responsibility to walk away and not infect him.  You think it is ok to ruin someones life just because they say you can.  Shame on you!

[nursegirl6572]

DITTO DITTO AMEN!

:0(

[LIZZIE LOU]

what the hell are the two of you thinking???  geeeeeeeeeeeeeeez louise...unbelievable!!!

[Jose82]

I am assuming this is a mtm relationship but it confuses me that he is neg and you are pos and he lets you do unprotected things to him.  About the whole undetectable viral load I am sure it makes him less at risk from what I have read, but there is always a risk.

[Teak]

He is aware? What is your excuse for putting someone at risk?

[mciano]

he is aware.

[Jose82]

Does your partner know that you are infected.  I mean if he does then thats his deal but still I would never want to put someone at risk if I knew I had HIV.

[Teak]

You're positive and your partner is negative and you put him at risk?