Risky ?

[Tricia312]

I recently had sex with a partner and he has HIV. When we preceded to have sex, he put the condom on backwards and then flipped it over the correct way. When he put the condom on the wrong way he touched the tip with it only then took it right off b/c he never started rolling the condom down his penis. Afterwards we preceded with anal intercourse. There might have been precum on the outside of the condom.

My questions are:
Do I have HIV because of the precum even though he didnt go directly in right away?
How much of the semen on the condom would it take for me to catch HIV?
Did the HIV start to die automatically once it was exposed to the air?
Does it die fast enough for me not to get infected?

[Tricia312]

Ok thanks.

[nursegirl6572]

I stand corrected, I see that he put the condom on for a second, then when he realized it wouldn't roll down, he flipped it.

I don't see a reason for concern, but for added reassurance, talk to his ID doctor.

[Vance2335]

That would not be a risk.

[Tricia312]

Anyway.. we were going to have anal sex, and he started to put the condom on, realized it was inside-out (he was basically just pressing it over the head of his penis and realized his mistake) then flipped it around and put it on the right way. This means his penis head was in contact with the side of the condom that went into me. In between his putting the condom on and inserting in me I jerked his condom-ed penis a little and he applied lube to it etc. He only stuck it in a few centimeters and then I decided I didnt want to go through with it, so we stopped.

[nursegirl6572]

There's no way to put a condom on wrong.  They only roll one way out of the package.  You'd literally have to unroll it, and turn it inside out.

[Tricia312]

Vance? Nurse girl ?

[Tricia312]

Would someone please comment on this ASAP if they could ?  Thanks

[Tricia312]

Thanks for the reply...but, I think you may have misinterpreted my risk.

He flipped the condom over as soon as he realized he was putting it on wrong. We DIDNT have sex and then reverse the condom.  Follow me?

[HowardH]

With entirely unprotected sex, when an HIV infected person ejaculates in the rectum, the receptive (bottom) partner has roughly 1 chance in 200 of catching HIV.  With this exposure, with trivial amounts of secretion exposure, the chance you were infected was very low, probably zero for practical purposes.

There is another crucial issue you don't mention. Is your partner on anti-HIV drugs? If so, what is his viral load? If he is on successful treatment, i.e.with an undetectable viral load, then his is non-infectious.

To your specific questions:

"Do I have HIV"? Probably not. See above.

"How much of the semen"? Unknown, but probably a whole lot more than you were exposed to.

"Did the HIV start to die..." and "fast enough"? No, not that quickly. Air is not immediately toxic, only as the secretions dry out.

Bottom line: Probably little or no risk, zero if your partner is on effective treatment and very low otherwise.