Still Worried

[farfromperfect]

Hello all.  I had a risk a few months back (unprotected sex with a female I didnt know).  I found out not too long after the experience that this "lady" has a very shady past which may include the use of IV drugs.  I am married and strayed this one time.  Some of you may remember me from past posts but i havent been here in quite a while.  I tested extensively before having sex with my wife again after we got back together.  I tested at 1 week, 6 weeks, 12 weeks, 20 weeks, and 24 weeks all with the Oraquick Advance rapid finger stick method.  All tests were negative.  The problem is that even though I disregarded all of the crazy symptoms that I had during the window period after my negative results, I am still worried because of my wife's symptoms.  She has had a very bad cough now for a long time that is going away but very slowly.  It is almost like bronchitis.  She will not go to the doctor because she never worries about anything and has not tested for hiv in over a year.  She does not know of my infidelity and I don't want to ever tell her if at all possible. Believe me I learned my lesson and will never do it again.  Do you guys think that my tests were accurate?  Does anyone feel that more testing is in order?  Wife has never had a sickness like this before.  It is freaking me out.  Thanks,  FFP.  

[ExtremeStress]

for you to have a questionable result from the oraquick, those tests would have to be less than 25% accurate. You tested three times past the conclusive time frame, so for a later test to be positive from that event would be impossible. You tested negative everytime because you are negative. Now start thinking positive towards your family.

[meworried]

You may be right from your own cultural back ground. I am not from the United States, therefore I speak about the environment, I am familiar with. You have all the rights to disagree, but I still believe that generally, males are polygamous, while females are not, excluding some exceptions.

[meworried]

Exceptions are always there, and based on exceptions, you can not pass on a generalized statement. Men by nature, are polygamous Period. On the other hand, majority of women is monogamous and she would only look around, if not satisfied physically or emotionally, again due to incompetence or maltreatment of we, the  male husbands. .

[meworried]

If you are "negative" (and certainly you are, after getting 13+ week test), and if your nice loving and caring wife is strictly monogamous with you only, then rest assured and be positive that she is not infected. What drives you to assume that she is not negative? Wives generally limit themselves to the man of their dreams, its we the husbands, who look around here and there and cheat them.

[farfromperfect]

Hi there.  I just want to clarify.   I am not saying that I think my wife has HIV unless she got it from me.  I am about 100 percent certain that she has not strayed from our relationship, but of course, you never know.  My main fear here is that she got it from me and for whatever reason the tests did not pick up my infection.  

[meworried]

Although I never went for Oraquick kinda stuff, but read that these tests are equally reliable and accurate. Therefore you are 100% safe after getting your negative test anytime after 13 weeks.
Stop investigating about the "shady" past of others and care for yourself. If you are OK, then its alright. Even if you find her a "positive" you can't do much to help her. Everyone is responsible for his own doings.