Hiv through anal fingering and masturbation?

[Jawser]

Hello,

Eleven days ago I had a date with a bisexual guy I met on a gay dating site. We went to his place, took our clothes off and started kissing. Before we took any further steps, I said that I was 8 years ago I dated a guy (also  I am bisexual), that I tested 2 years ago hivnegative and that I was scared for hiv infection and other std's.
We were naked on the bed and he fingered my anus. First without lubricans, then with a bit a his saliva. I can't remember if he had precum on his finger(s) too, only that I had precum. I wanted to suck him off with a condom, but the condom didn't fit and so I didn't suck him. I remember during the kissing and fingering, he used a handkerchief for wiping his hands off. Was it clean handkerchief, I don't know. He also gave me a blowjob without condom, I know he had precum from me in his mouth.
Then we stood up, I behind him and gave him a handjob. I think he did the last bit till he came. He wiped his hands off the same handkerchief. Afterwards we went to the bathroom, he stood behind me and gave me handjob too till I came.
Before I went home, I told him again that I was scared for std's. He answered he too because he has a wife and 2 kids, and doesn't take cum in mouth and no anal intercourse without condom.
The day after we both were on the gay chatsite but I had a different alias and he didn't know it was me. I asked him if he had any form of unsafe sex and told me he had once cum in his mouth. His answer made me worried a lot and got me thinking. Day after I had terrible headache, then 3rd day bit sore throat and  itchy rash (looks like acne) on chest, upper legs and bit on back. Headache was just 1 day, throat only 2 days and rash increased a bit and diminished two days ago but still itchy. But until now no fever. Now a sore throat on day 11 but not sure if lymfnodes in throat are a bit swollen.
Luckily I have his phone number and he even told me where he works and lives. He told the thruth but on the gay chat he worried me with the answer of cum in his mouth. Then again on the chat he said he uses condom for anal intercourse. He blowed me without condom, so that's a risk too isn't it? I was stupid to let him suck me off without.

Question 1: Could I have hiv when he fingered me, even if there was precum on his finger(s)?
Question 2: Could the handkerchief be source of transmission for hiv?
Question 3: If he is in the window period (don't know when he had cum in his mouth), was I at risk for the things we did?
Question 4: Was the handjob dangerous? Because before he used the handkerchief.
Question 5: Was the blowjob (I didn't cum in his mouth), a risk for me? He was neat, very nice teeth, nice clothes but that doesn't mean nothing of course. No appearance of skin disorders or anything else.

Regards,

Jawser

[AnxiousNoMore]

You don't have any risk for HIV so don't need to test.

HIV is instantly inactivated in air and saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching or oral. It doesn't matter if you and they were bleeding at the time either because it is effectively dead.

The ONLY adult risks are unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal sex or sharing needles that you inject with so you had no risk because you didn't do any of these.
Even with blood, lactation cuts, rashes, burns etc air does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching or oral. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so nothing you can add will make it a risk.

[Jawser]

Hi,

I'm still anxious. I try to keep calm but still have itchy skin. This monday I went to doctor for blooddraw and my esr was slightly elevated 14 after one hour (should be <10). Could it be due to hiv infection?

[Kirstie_MHModerator]

Since you had zero risk for HIV infection, whatever lab test results you received have nothing to do with HIV.  We suggest continuing to work with your doctor to find the non-HIV cause of your itchy skin and elevated esr.

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