Unprotected sex with a masseuse

[marcopolo_7]

Hi everyone. Around 3 days ago I ended up having unprotected sex with a masseuse. It included me giving her oral pleasure for not more than a minute/minute and a half. Her doing the same to me for not more than 5-6 seconds and Unprotected vaginal intercourse for somewhere between half a minute to a minute.

She said she is super clean and has to worry about herself too just how Im worried about myself and she swore upon her 2 kids (hope she has kids) that she is clean and told me I got nothing to worry about. She was honestly super clean and hygienic and was also using a vaginal suppository for whatever reason that may be.

What is the risk I have of contracting HIV? Is this a high risk exposure? I will be grateful of any help. Thank you so much in advance.

[snippets69]

Sure the shorter time means less of a chance. But even beyond this, generally speaking it's highly highly highly unlikely you would have gotten HIV from this single exposure. I had sex with many many sex workers unprotected and never got HIV. Given the short duration, even lower chance. I would lay every penny I have without hesitation that you are fine. Seriously.

[marcopolo_7]

Hi snippets69,

Thank you for sharing your experience and letting me know its not always the case. I have learnt my lesson and would never do this again considering how much I have at stake if this becomes problematic. Hope you are doing well and I really appreciate your answer.

[CurfewX]

This is a pretty risky situation.  If the masseuse had unprotected intercourse with you, it is likely she has had unprotected intercourse with other men.

It doesn't matter how "clean" someone looks.  You cannot determine someone else's HIV or STD status just by their hygiene.  People who have HIV or STDs aren't dirty or unhygienic.

Get tested at the appropriate time to know your status for sure. You can use a 4th-generation (Ag/Ab) test at least 28 days after the event, or any other test at least 3 months after the event.

[marcopolo_7]

The fact that it didn’t last long does that reduce the risk by any means?

[marcopolo_7]

Also is it true that the risk of transmission is low as it happened only once?

[CurfewX]

A one-time encounter is not a big risk.  Odds are well under 1%, so there's no reason to panic.  Just get tested at the appropriate time to put your mind at ease.  There's nothing more we can really say.

[marcopolo_7]

The woman was using vaginal suppository which didn’t allow her to get wet and had to use her saliva for lubricant, does that make it any safer?

[AnxiousNoMore]

The best thing to do is try not to think about it until 28 days. Thinking about odds will not give you the only answer you need so it won't make you feel any better. While waiting to test  I would only focus on the idea that if she is negative you will be too.

[marcopolo_7]

Hi AnxiousNoMore,

Easier said than done but Im doing my best!